Author Caleb Posted January 18, 2010 Author Share Posted January 18, 2010 So another concern of mine is that what if she never tries to contact me? She's pretty stubborn I feel, and right now she has no use in contacting me when she has someone to fill her time. Link to post Share on other sites
ella23 Posted January 18, 2010 Share Posted January 18, 2010 That's not surprising. She doesn't want to have a relationship with you, and she is probably the kind of person who does not like to be friends with or keep in touch with an ex. Hopefully, you will be able to deal with this once you start seeing the psychologist. She might be trying to move ahead and experience new things and leave the past behind. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Caleb Posted January 19, 2010 Author Share Posted January 19, 2010 So after only one day of no contact, she text me saying I hope you had a good long weekend, and be safe on your trip back to school. Of course I texted back, things got emotionally out of whack. I told her to just contact me when she wanted to talk. I'm going to keep the no contact unless she contacts me first. In about another two or three weeks if she hasn't said anything, I'm going to maybe ask if she wants to go out to eat for something casual. I'm exhausted with ideas on how to get her back. I love her, period. Link to post Share on other sites
Chrome Barracuda Posted January 19, 2010 Share Posted January 19, 2010 You have to be willing to move on and let her see what her life is like without you. So that way if she does come back she wants you for real. The best thing is to realize this isnt your fault and the more time you build yourself up, you'll realize that the world is your oyster and if she doesnt want to be with you, then you can find someone else who will. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Caleb Posted January 19, 2010 Author Share Posted January 19, 2010 Yeah very true Chrome. I keep going back and forth on what I need to do. I was waiting in one of my class buildings today and she came up and talked to me. Caught me completely off guard. Pretty sure I turned red, but I done my best to act happy. Not sure if she bought it. I just don't understand how some days she won't text or talk to me. And others, she goes out of her way to send a text or come up and talk. Weird. Link to post Share on other sites
Chrome Barracuda Posted January 19, 2010 Share Posted January 19, 2010 Yeah very true Chrome. I keep going back and forth on what I need to do. I was waiting in one of my class buildings today and she came up and talked to me. Caught me completely off guard. Pretty sure I turned red, but I done my best to act happy. Not sure if she bought it. I just don't understand how some days she won't text or talk to me. And others, she goes out of her way to send a text or come up and talk. Weird. Because she's one of those females that dates dudes and be friends with her exes and thinks it's okay. I suggest ignoring her. If she wants to be alone then alone she shall be... Just tell her to leave you alone. if you dont want to get back together then we cant be friends either. it'll rattle her cage and maybe make her second guess things. but she shouldn't keep you as the effeminate friend with the sholder to cry on while she bangs other dudes! It's all or nothing. She sounds very immature. maybe she wants to play the field but if she does you dont have to be the fallback guy. know what im saying. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Caleb Posted January 19, 2010 Author Share Posted January 19, 2010 Yeah I'm following you. I think once she sees this guy she's been talking to... b/c they have only been texting each other... they haven't even seen each other in years. I think once she gets tired of that, she may want to come back. But not after working, I know that. And she better make her decision because I'm getting fed up with her and her confusion. Link to post Share on other sites
ella23 Posted January 20, 2010 Share Posted January 20, 2010 Did you start your sessions with the psychologist? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Caleb Posted January 20, 2010 Author Share Posted January 20, 2010 Not yet... I start today. The appointment is at 4, right after my last class today. So not sure that I mentioned this... but she texted me last night and asked if I was still working out and if we wanted to work out together. I told her no, but she could borrow my tapes. What kinda of bull is that? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Caleb Posted January 20, 2010 Author Share Posted January 20, 2010 So the session went good today. The psychologists says it seems from just talking to me that I'm willing to take pain for others and that the next time we talk, Monday, I need to try to focus on me. I know she's right, but when you commit your life to your g/f and others, it's hard to put myself first. Anyways... does anyone know why she would have asked me if I wanted to work out with her? Link to post Share on other sites
sean1970 Posted January 20, 2010 Share Posted January 20, 2010 Anyways... does anyone know why she would have asked me if I wanted to work out with her? What would you say to one of us if we asked you that? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Caleb Posted January 20, 2010 Author Share Posted January 20, 2010 Hmm... well depends on the situation. I'm guessing because she's trying to stay friends? Link to post Share on other sites
sean1970 Posted January 21, 2010 Share Posted January 21, 2010 Hmm... well depends on the situation. I'm guessing because she's trying to stay friends? Caleb, I'm not saying this in a condescending way but you still just don't get it. It's understandable; emotions blind us all at times like this. But your initial posts don't look any different than your recent ones. "What does this mean, what is she thinking here, how should I take this." Nothing about, "I deserve better, I'm not a door mat, this is what I did for me today." Looking forward to them Caleb... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Caleb Posted January 21, 2010 Author Share Posted January 21, 2010 There have been a few things that have changed though, I just don't post them. I haven't cried in a few days. I haven't spoken to her, unless she starts the communication. She wants to go to lunch tomorrow so that she can give me my things that I left her at her place, a few shirts and such. So hopefully that goes well. All I know is that if I want to leave her with a good impression, I have to be happy. I have to be lively. I have to be the opposite of what I was when I was in my depressed state. And Sean buddy.... you've been here to help me through a lot. But I'm telling you, this girl has a hold on me. I am going on a "date" Friday night. Nothing will lead to it though of course because my heart is still in one place and one place only for now. Time, patience, courage, and strength. It's what I keep telling myself. Link to post Share on other sites
ella23 Posted January 21, 2010 Share Posted January 21, 2010 She looks like she's just attention seeking rather than trying to be friends. She comes across as immature tbh. So your session with the psychologist went well. Go again and continue for a while. You really need to change your mindset. I know it's very hard, but you need to move ahead. If she comes back, great, but don't wait for her. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Caleb Posted January 21, 2010 Author Share Posted January 21, 2010 Yeah I will continue to go. My next session is Monday. And I know I need a different mindset, I just love her so much. But like I said... I'm going on a date tomorrow night. So that should be interesting. At least something to get my ex off my mind for a while. Link to post Share on other sites
ella23 Posted January 21, 2010 Share Posted January 21, 2010 That's great. Hopefully, therapy will help you deal with your emotions and feelings better. Good luck with the date, hope you have a nice time. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Caleb Posted January 22, 2010 Author Share Posted January 22, 2010 Thank you Ella! I'm trying. Link to post Share on other sites
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