OmegaSol Posted January 18, 2010 Share Posted January 18, 2010 It's been about 2 months since I got out of a 1 1/2 year relationship. I feel as if I'm ready to get out there and would love to just take a girl out, even if it's not serious I just think dating would be fun again. I've tried many things, messaging girls on dating websites, going to public places like the gym and just being myself. Before my relationship I just got out of it seemed as if I has no problems finding dates but for no reason now it's like I'm being avoided by every women, friend or more. I just feel like I'm not getting the chance I deserve, and I'm definetly improved from where I was before my long relationship. It's like some spiritual guided cockblock is going on. And I know I'm not being pushy or needy when I try and talk to someone, so what gives? *I don't know any suggestions? BTW i'm 24 years old if that matters. Link to post Share on other sites
Angel1111 Posted January 18, 2010 Share Posted January 18, 2010 It's like some spiritual guided cockblock is going on. That's funny. Who knows, it may be that you're not really ready and people are sensing it. I don't know. Why don't you just stop thinking about it like you did when you were with someone and maybe it'll stop being a problem. And tell that guardian angel of yours to stop the cockblock. Link to post Share on other sites
Jeff1962 Posted January 18, 2010 Share Posted January 18, 2010 It's been about 2 months since I got out of a 1 1/2 year relationship. I feel as if I'm ready to get out there and would love to just take a girl out, even if it's not serious I just think dating would be fun again. I've tried many things, messaging girls on dating websites, going to public places like the gym and just being myself. Before my relationship I just got out of it seemed as if I has no problems finding dates but for no reason now it's like I'm being avoided by every women, friend or more. I just feel like I'm not getting the chance I deserve, and I'm definetly improved from where I was before my long relationship. It's like some spiritual guided cockblock is going on. And I know I'm not being pushy or needy when I try and talk to someone, so what gives? *I don't know any suggestions? BTW i'm 24 years old if that matters. Act uninterested. Casual. Don't pressure yourself. Link to post Share on other sites
Odyssey Posted January 18, 2010 Share Posted January 18, 2010 ...It's like some spiritual guided cockblock is going on. And I know I'm not being pushy or needy when I try and talk to someone, so what gives?OP, there's nothing spiritual about it. Your cockblocking yourself. Most of the time we give out a vibe or manner (depending on whether you're truly happy or down). And this can be read by others, whether you're approachable or not. Believe me, they can sense it. Some months ago, like you, i thought i was ready. So tried dating around (nothing serious, have fun right?). People even commented that i seemed distant at times. It was worst than feeling unhappy - i was apathetic. Dated a few chicks - yes, having no expectations was great, zero stress. Eventually you'll get dates. But i wasn't myself. So i'd stopped dating for now, rather than lead them on. My advice is...take some time to heal before going back. Don't go back out there wounded. People would want to love the whole happy-confident-you, not the fragmented one. Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
Author OmegaSol Posted January 18, 2010 Author Share Posted January 18, 2010 Maybe. I prolly am thinking about it "a little too much" but it seems women have developed the ability to sense my "readyness" through the Internet and I wasn't informed. I don't watch the news much... Is this true? Link to post Share on other sites
HLUB Posted January 19, 2010 Share Posted January 19, 2010 It's been about 2 months since I got out of a 1 1/2 year relationship. I feel as if I'm ready to get out there and would love to just take a girl out, even if it's not serious I just think dating would be fun again. I've tried many things, messaging girls on dating websites, going to public places like the gym and just being myself. Before my relationship I just got out of it seemed as if I has no problems finding dates but for no reason now it's like I'm being avoided by every women, friend or more. I just feel like I'm not getting the chance I deserve, and I'm definetly improved from where I was before my long relationship. It's like some spiritual guided cockblock is going on. And I know I'm not being pushy or needy when I try and talk to someone, so what gives? *I don't know any suggestions? BTW i'm 24 years old if that matters. maybe ur not going to the right places Link to post Share on other sites
Author OmegaSol Posted January 19, 2010 Author Share Posted January 19, 2010 Lol then, what are the correct places? Link to post Share on other sites
engravefeelthevoid Posted January 22, 2010 Share Posted January 22, 2010 bro the girl am trying to hook up with is also out a 1 year relationship with a guy that she loved...(2 months ago) well i had a heartbreak too last semester and we tried i asked her out on a date but i told her we should be friends bc i felt i was in danger...i felt she was gona play me or a rebound guy or sth... for you i think u forgot ur potential...u were in the relationship and maybe now some subliminal center in ur brain and behaviour is preventing u from doing what it takes to get that girlfriend out of FEAR...maybe ur heartbroken... well take ur time to get over the relationship...work on urself and just go out there and try...u have to keep trying till u get the girl. dont give up easy good luck Link to post Share on other sites
Disillusioned Posted January 22, 2010 Share Posted January 22, 2010 Places, shmaces. You'd do better if you stop playing Great Explorer and try to find people who share your interests instead. Gather.com and meetup.com are good starting points. Link to post Share on other sites
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