help! i am all cried out over an ex love.

[allcriedoutstill]

help! i am all cried out over an ex love.

 

we had a relationship 15 years ago. i got pregnant and had his child. he didn't want the child and pretty much walked away. i got married an my husband adopted my daughter. recently, i found out that he had another child the same age as our child. they go to school together. we have talked on the phone. he has married.

 

he says he hasn't happy in his marriage, but he is committed to his child born during marriage.

 

i love my husband, but i feel that my ex is the one that got away. i still love him. i cry over the fact that I never got the chance to love him.

 

he txted me on christmas asking me to fix our situtation in the new year. he wants me to tell our daughter about him. i know he can't be a father in 3 different households. my daughter has had a great llife with my husband. he truly loves her and doesn't treat her any different that our kids.

 

i am playing with fire. i know i can't have him, but i feel something for him. i think about him all the time. i want to call and hear his voice so bad. i would never cross the line and cheat on my husband, but this man does something to my heart.

 

i need suggestions on how to get over him. i know that he is with someone else. i know i deserve to be with a man who is devoted to me. i know that he will hurt me again. but still i can't get over him. help! i think i only love him because i can't have him. help!

[reservoirdog1]

Don't talk to him again.

 

You're not helping yourself, your daughter or your marriage by continuing to be in contact with him. Every time you talk to him, it will get harder and harder. And then you may well end up doing something you can't currently imagine yourself doing.

[allcriedoutstill]

you are right, but i can't help myself. i know i am wonderful, am a good mother and wife. but he does something for me. it's like a spell.

 

it's like i am not in control. my mind is telling me one thing but my heart is wanting him. i would never, ever do anything to cause my marriage or husband pain, but i can't get my ex off my mind. maybe it is because my daughter has his smile,so whenever she smiles, i also see her "dna dad"

 

i know that i have given my daughter a great life. she has a dad she can count on and who is there for her without any reservation. i don't want have to have to explain her "dna dad's" actions. he was sleeping with a least 2 women at the same time. begged me to abort her and denied her to his parents after her birth.

 

heck, her half-sister at least got his last name, but i don't see him actively attending school events on her behalf. so i know my daughter got a good deal with her adopted dad.

 

my ex treated me like dirt,heck worse than dirt. but it doesn't seem to matter. for years, i had him out of my mind, and then bam the feelings are there just like 15 years ago. i never have gotten over him, i just moved on.