EricaH329 Posted January 20, 2010 Share Posted January 20, 2010 I've noticed so many negative threads on this board lately, that I thought I would try to change it up a bit. Time to feel good about yourself What is the absolute best compliment you have ever received? Link to post Share on other sites
Boundary Problem Posted January 20, 2010 Share Posted January 20, 2010 I personally don't trust compliments. If anything they make me suspicious. But what goes straight to my heart, is when someone does something personal and thoughtful. I remember once someone left me tea and muffins at work. I wasn't interested in him, but that got my attention. The secretaries at work loved it because I was on a diet at the time and gave them the muffins. I guess the best compliment is when someone spends time with you. And you learn from each other. My answer: spending time together. Link to post Share on other sites
USMCHokie Posted January 20, 2010 Share Posted January 20, 2010 My ex always told me I had a nice butt. I think that was the turning point in my life... But seriously though...I think that'd have to be it... Link to post Share on other sites
Author EricaH329 Posted January 20, 2010 Author Share Posted January 20, 2010 I remember once someone left me tea and muffins at work. That's a very nice gesture!! My ex always told me I had a nice butt. I think that was the turning point in my life... But seriously though...I think that'd have to be it... It's always good to get compliments on the way you look. Butts especially! But i'm sure someone has complimented you much greater on your personality. For me, I would have to say that my best compliment came tonight. A few people and I were talking at work tonight, and the beginning of the conversation started off with how old I was. Then we got into a discussion (something you would find here on LS) and we all had different opinions on. Towards the end of the conversation, a guy that I work with looked at me and said "So, you're sure you aren't 35?" I'm not sure if that was meant as an insult, but I most definitely took it as a compliment. Link to post Share on other sites
2sunny Posted January 20, 2010 Share Posted January 20, 2010 from several people i have been told that they feel completely safe when they are with me. hands down though - you are as beautiful on the inside as you are on the outside. Link to post Share on other sites
USMCHokie Posted January 20, 2010 Share Posted January 20, 2010 A few people and I were talking at work tonight, and the beginning of the conversation started off with how old I was. Then we got into a discussion (something you would find here on LS) and we all had different opinions on. Towards the end of the conversation, a guy that I work with looked at me and said "So, you're sure you aren't 35?" I'm not sure if that was meant as an insult, but I most definitely took it as a compliment. Hmmm, you must be wise beyond your years...I'd take that... Link to post Share on other sites
Author EricaH329 Posted January 20, 2010 Author Share Posted January 20, 2010 from several people i have been told that they feel completely safe when they are with me. hands down though - you are as beautiful on the inside as you are on the outside. Both of those are great compliments!!! I'd feel lucky to have someone say those to me!! Hmmm, you must be wise beyond your years...I'd take that... That's how I take it. I'd take personality compliments over physical compliments any day EDIT: I want to hear a personality compliment on your part. What did someone say about your personality that's the best compliment you've ever received? I know you have them. Link to post Share on other sites
USMCHokie Posted January 20, 2010 Share Posted January 20, 2010 I'd take personality compliments over physical compliments any day Totally agreed...but my past had been riddled with self-esteem issues based on my looks...people always complimented my personality, humor, intelligence, etc...but those compliments didn't do much for my confidence...so receiving physical compliments for a change did help me out a lot...and I really am grateful for my ex (and all my friends after the breakup telling me I had no reason to not be confident) for unf***ing my head... EDIT: I want to hear a personality compliment on your part. What did someone say about your personality that's the best compliment you've ever received? I know you have them. Darn...you just called me out...I will have to get back to you on this one... Link to post Share on other sites
Boundary Problem Posted January 20, 2010 Share Posted January 20, 2010 Personality compliment: when the dad of an ex-boyfriend said I saved his life. the guy was in the hospital after a really really bad motorcycle accident and I visited him in the hospital everday (we were just friends) for months and month. Well needless to say we started dating while he was in the hospital. We later broke up, but to this day his dad thinks I save his life because me visiting gave him the will to live. He was in really bad shape and it was touch and go. He was just so young and I just wanted to cheer him up. And then mother nature being what it is - when in proximity - well we started dating. For the guy I'm dating now - I would say that the best part of his personality is that he is solid and stable and a rock. He is always dependable. And you can tell him ANYTHING and he won't freak out. He'll give you his opinion (if you ask) but you could confess anything to him. not too many people are like that. Too many people are at the mercy of society's whim, and he is not like that at all. He lives his life more in accordance with values rather than what society's trends are. I guess you could say he is 'old school'. Link to post Share on other sites
Author EricaH329 Posted January 20, 2010 Author Share Posted January 20, 2010 Totally agreed...but my past had been riddled with self-esteem issues based on my looks...people always complimented my personality, humor, intelligence, etc...but those compliments didn't do much for my confidence...so receiving physical compliments for a change did help me out a lot...and I really am grateful for my ex (and all my friends after the breakup telling me I had no reason to not be confident) for unf***ing my head... People shouldn't be the reason that your head became 'unf*cked'. You should be the reason why your head became 'unf*cked'. Either way, it's good that you are grateful for those who have taken notice in you. That's always a great feeling. Darn...you just called me out...I will have to get back to you on this one... I am seriously going to hold you to that. I expect an answer by tomorrow mister! I'm sure it won't take you that long though. You said that people have previously complimented you on your personality, humor, and intelligence. So let's hear some of these compliments!! The ones that really made you feel good about yourself! Link to post Share on other sites
Jeff1962 Posted January 20, 2010 Share Posted January 20, 2010 One was that I should be a stand up comedian from several people. Had several physical compliments. Another was that I strive for excellence in everything that I do, that one made my day. I think the most meaningful is this one; I'm glad that you are my husband and that you chose me. Link to post Share on other sites
Author EricaH329 Posted January 20, 2010 Author Share Posted January 20, 2010 Personality compliment: when the dad of an ex-boyfriend said I saved his life. the guy was in the hospital after a really really bad motorcycle accident and I visited him in the hospital everday (we were just friends) for months and month. Well needless to say we started dating while he was in the hospital. We later broke up, but to this day his dad thinks I save his life because me visiting gave him the will to live. He was in really bad shape and it was touch and go. He was just so young and I just wanted to cheer him up. And then mother nature being what it is - when in proximity - well we started dating. For the guy I'm dating now - I would say that the best part of his personality is that he is solid and stable and a rock. He is always dependable. And you can tell him ANYTHING and he won't freak out. He'll give you his opinion (if you ask) but you could confess anything to him. not too many people are like that. Too many people are at the mercy of society's whim, and he is not like that at all. He lives his life more in accordance with values rather than what society's trends are. I guess you could say he is 'old school'. That is fantastic! To get a compliment like that, that someone feels like you have saved their life... must be a great feeling!! Kudos to you! And as far as the guy you are dating, that's wonderful!! So few people are like that now-a-days (both female and male). Must make you very happy Link to post Share on other sites
Boundary Problem Posted January 20, 2010 Share Posted January 20, 2010 That is fantastic! To get a compliment like that, that someone feels like you have saved their life... must be a great feeling!! Kudos to you! And as far as the guy you are dating, that's wonderful!! So few people are like that now-a-days (both female and male). Must make you very happy I think people save other people's lives all the time. It is about listening and being part of people's lives. Rather than rush rush rush - we take an interest in how the other person is doing. Suicide is often a bad day and if we can help support each other, then it can make a huge difference in the lives around us. Everyone goes through bad times, and we don't take enough time to listen, compliment and appreciate each other. This is a tangent, but when my mom was raising my sister and I basically on her own (my dad traveled) she used to fantasize about being in jail where all you do is eat and sleep. Rather than being run ragged after two kids with no support and little money. So everyone needs a support system. The guy I'm dating - well we're both old school. like with like. Yes he does make me happy. My mom knows me best and she has noticed that he gives me something that other men can't (specifically: he understands me). But I understand him (I think) so it all comes back to listening to each other. I still think listening to someone is the biggest compliment you can give them. People complimenting my looks sort of goes in one ear and out the other to me. What is fascinating to me is how they REACT to my looks. That is very good for the ego. eg I have a long neck and have received compliments on that and how they pay attention to my neck when I'm talking is pretty fun..... Link to post Share on other sites
USMCHokie Posted January 20, 2010 Share Posted January 20, 2010 People shouldn't be the reason that your head became 'unf*cked'. You should be the reason why your head became 'unf*cked'. Either way, it's good that you are grateful for those who have taken notice in you. That's always a great feeling. You're right about this...and I'd say that those other people were the catalyst for me to start the process of getting over my issues... I am seriously going to hold you to that. I expect an answer by tomorrow mister! I'm sure it won't take you that long though. You said that people have previously complimented you on your personality, humor, and intelligence. So let's hear some of these compliments!! The ones that really made you feel good about yourself! Ok, thought of one...rather recent and quite profound for me... I'm currently at some sort of crossroad in my career, so I was having a discussion with someone I work with (he's been in the Corps 20-some years) about my career. He told me that in his experience and based on what he's seen of me (my personality, attitude, the way I work with and treat others), he didn't see me as someone that should sit behind a desk doing what I do...but rather someone that should be leading Marines in combat...personally affecting their lives...watching out for their well-being...he didn't see me as anything but an infantry officer... Coming from someone I respected as much as I did, it felt good to be equally respected... So yea, that was mine, as weird as it sounds...I guess that wasn't so hard... Link to post Share on other sites
motive2002 Posted January 20, 2010 Share Posted January 20, 2010 Getting the nickname "The rocket". I'll let you use your imagination for that one. Link to post Share on other sites
Author EricaH329 Posted January 20, 2010 Author Share Posted January 20, 2010 You're right about this...and I'd say that those other people were the catalyst for me to start the process of getting over my issues... That's a great way to look at it! Ok, thought of one...rather recent and quite profound for me... I'm currently at some sort of crossroad in my career, so I was having a discussion with someone I work with (he's been in the Corps 20-some years) about my career. He told me that in his experience and based on what he's seen of me (my personality, attitude, the way I work with and treat others), he didn't see me as someone that should sit behind a desk doing what I do...but rather someone that should be leading Marines in combat...personally affecting their lives...watching out for their well-being...he didn't see me as anything but an infantry officer... Coming from someone I respected as much as I did, it felt good to be equally respected... So yea, that was mine, as weird as it sounds...I guess that wasn't so hard... Seeeeee!!! It's so easy to get caught up in the stresses that life brings us, but when you sit down to actually think of all the wonderful qualities you possess, it not only makes you realize how great of a person you are... but it also puts things into perspective! And that doesn't sound weird at all! That's an awesome compliment to get! I love getting compliments from people that I admire. Makes it that much more meaningful! Getting the nickname "The rocket". I'll let you use your imagination for that one. :lmao: Oh geez.... Link to post Share on other sites
OnlyJake Posted January 20, 2010 Share Posted January 20, 2010 I've noticed so many negative threads on this board lately, that I thought I would try to change it up a bit. Time to feel good about yourself What is the absolute best compliment you have ever received? I consistently am complimented on my patience, being graceful under pressure, things like that. Link to post Share on other sites
quankanne Posted January 20, 2010 Share Posted January 20, 2010 from my big sister, who was going through a pretty harsh time: "When you came over, it was like a feeling of calm came over me ... you're the only one who can do that." Made me feel really good that I could give her that peace of mind, because it's usually Big Sis looking out for Baby Sis! from a car full of cute Hispanic boys young enough to be my sons: "HEY, MÁMA! WHATCHU DOING???" I'd been beating myself up because I didn't feel "fabulous at 40" and that just made my day :laugh: Link to post Share on other sites
donnamaybe Posted January 20, 2010 Share Posted January 20, 2010 My best one, and I just recently received it, was, "I like you just the way you are." Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted January 20, 2010 Share Posted January 20, 2010 The biggest one to me, which still absolutely makes my stomach catapult was as follows: I used to run my own company as a feng Shui Consultant, and i ran workshops which, without exception, were fun, interactive, informative and educational. Both as much for me, as those I taught. well, at the end of one weekend course, one of the participants, spoke up. She related how much she'd enjoyed the experience, and that it had given her a massive amount to think about, and she was determined, more than ever, to make positive changes in her life. She was almost overhwelmed by all the points we'd covered, and finally turned to me and said - "...and if ever you wonder what influence you have on people, I can only tell you you're an incredible person, and that yes, holy cow, you have made a difference." That absolutely blew me away. I still get goosebumps. Link to post Share on other sites
USMCHokie Posted January 20, 2010 Share Posted January 20, 2010 "...and if ever you wonder what influence you have on people, I can only tell you you're an incredible person, and that yes, holy cow, you have made a difference." This. Being a positive influence to another person and making a difference in his or her life is probably the ultimate compliment for me...it gives you a feeling like no other... Link to post Share on other sites
Meaplus3 Posted January 20, 2010 Share Posted January 20, 2010 That I'm a genuine and good hearted person. Mea:) Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted January 20, 2010 Share Posted January 20, 2010 The best compliment that anyone can give to me, is to tell me they "love me" or are "in love with me", and sincerely mean it. Link to post Share on other sites
USMCHokie Posted January 20, 2010 Share Posted January 20, 2010 The best compliment that anyone can give to me, is to tell me they "love me" or are "in love with me", and sincerely mean it. This too...I miss hearing it...and miss saying it more... Link to post Share on other sites
tigressA Posted January 20, 2010 Share Posted January 20, 2010 The best overall compliment I've ever received was the entire letter of recommendation that my favorite teacher ever (broadcast journalism and honors-level senior English) wrote for me for my college applications. I still mentally kick myself because I lost the spare copies I had! But I do remember some of the things it said, mostly the end sentence: "I sincerely hope you'll take the time to meet tigressA; she defies the written word." Link to post Share on other sites
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