What do I do if me and my boyfriend break up? We're still in love with each other.

[Trinity Quasar]

I'm in trouble, recently one of my friends told everyone we were going out when we weren't and started kissing me, I was too scared to tell him to back off because I didn' want to embarrass him in front of his friends. I waited to explain when no one was there, he accepted this but the damage was done.

 

One ofhis friends told my boyfriend I was cheating on him, I really love my boyfriend, and have had to explain to him what happened, he said he'll have to think whether we should stay together or not, he says he still loves me, and I still love him, but he still has to think whether it's suitable that we stay together after this. I understand him and respect this, but I'm scared that if he says he doesn't want to be with me anymore, what I'll do.

 

Me and my boyfriend have been together just over a year, it's not long, but I'm 15, it's a long time for me. I have a record of self-harm and attempted suicide, and hes aid he doesn't want me to do that if we split up, I promised but it's easier said than done, how do I cope with this in another way? It sounds silly to say that but if you've been in my position and self-harmed you'd understand how hard it is not to do it again.

[HurtinginVA]

15 huh? First of all, though I know you dont want to hear it, you've got a lot of living ahead of you. Youre young, very young. Any relationship you are in at this age, long term or not, should be FUN!! I began dating my first "real" boyfriend at 15 and we were together for almost 2 years. I thought the world would stop turning when we broke up, or better yet, when HE broke up with ME. But ya know what? The hurt only lasted for a few weeks. I put a lot of time into my job and my much neglected friends, and before I knew it, I was having boatloads of fun. To this day I consider the time between that breakup and meeting my husband(about 9 months in between) the best time of my life thus far(Im only 23)

 

If this guy cant accept what happened and the fact that you were just trying to be a good friend to the person who messed up by kissing you, let him go. Easier said than done, I know, but you gotta look out for you, no one else is! Good Luck!

[Trinity Quasar]

hehe, thanks hun, though he stayed with me in the end I can see where you're coming from, and I suppose it would be true. It's just I can't see myself without him and wouldn't like to lose him. The info was greatly appreciated. Now I just got to stop one of my friends trying to make him see different, my friend doesn't believe me.

 

Ah well...

 

Thanks again.