The Butt Dial - Accident or Intentional?

[nomad0792]

Well Stung,

 

I'm very appreciative of your input and happy to reciprocate whenever necessary.

 

So I'll put you on the fence, or maybe I will create a new category. HA!

 

INTENTIONAL - 14

ACCIDENTAL - 3

ON THE FENCE - 2

DGAS - 1

[Dream Brother]

A vote for intentional. If she had butt dialed you several times or even more than once, she would have seen that on her phone and though oh crap oh crap he's gonna think.... then text you to say sorry for the ass dialing. It's intentional. I'd bet my ass on it. I don't do that often. Whether it means anything is another matter. Guys are much more likely to ass dial btw as we are more likely to have the phone in our pockets, exposing our meat and 2 veg to all kinds of nasties, but that's not to be discussed here.

[nobmagnet]

My bottom isnt clever enough to dial

 

It has no ability but follows me everywhere!!!!

 

intentional

 

Nobby xx

[nomad0792]

A vote for intentional. If she had butt dialed you several times or even more than once, she would have seen that on her phone and though oh crap oh crap he's gonna think.... then text you to say sorry for the ass dialing. It's intentional. I'd bet my ass on it. I don't do that often. Whether it means anything is another matter. Guys are much more likely to ass dial btw as we are more likely to have the phone in our pockets, exposing our meat and 2 veg to all kinds of nasties, but that's not to be discussed here.

 

You'd bet your ass on it...good one. Thanks for the input.

 

What kind of phone do you have?

[nomad0792]

My bottom isnt clever enough to dial

 

It has no ability but follows me everywhere!!!!

 

intentional

 

Nobby xx

 

Ha...good one. Curious to know what type of phone you have as well.

 

One thing I need to mention is that my name is the first "D" in her phone list. So if it was either speed dial or even not, my name would be the first dialed if it managed to get on the D's. If she still has me on speed dial I will say it's a 50/50 proposition, but based on the votes below, it looks more like a resounding 76% for INTENTIONAL. Wow. Still not gonna do anything tho. NC all the way.

 

INTENTIONAL - 16

ACCIDENTAL - 3

ON THE FENCE - 2

DGAS - 1

[madisonlayne]

Can I vote accidental and intentional?

 

The first time could have been completely innocent. The call lasted 15 seconds and may have been her "whoops" moment. YET, it could have triggered her into wondering what you've been up to, and in that 5 minutes of time dir sir, she may have decided to pull a much longer 4 minute "phantom call" to not only get your attention once again but this time provoke you to call her back.

 

So my answer is: It was Miss ex, in the car, preforming both accidental and intentional calling with the cell phone. lol

[nomad0792]

Can I vote accidental and intentional?

 

The first time could have been completely innocent. The call lasted 15 seconds and may have been her "whoops" moment. YET, it could have triggered her into wondering what you've been up to, and in that 5 minutes of time dir sir, she may have decided to pull a much longer 4 minute "phantom call" to not only get your attention once again but this time provoke you to call her back.

 

So my answer is: It was Miss ex, in the car, preforming both accidental and intentional calling with the cell phone. lol

 

Ahhh...okay. But what about the other way around? She dialed on purpose the first time and then it butt-dialed the second.

 

While I would be willing to give you a vote for both, I would think that INTENTIONAL would trump ACCIDENTAL. Once it goes to intentional, it wipes out any accidents.

 

Have you ever made this move on an ex?

[madisonlayne]

Have you ever made this move on an ex? Absolutely not.

 

Yet, I have known women who have sent out blank and/or cryptic text messages, dialed the ex boyfriend's number then immediately hung up after hearing his voice, etc..

 

Some people just aren't willing to put themselves out there just incase of possible rejection. They resort to other measures to put themselves at ease . Even if they are the ones that wanted the space to begin with, it's the fear of the unknown mixed in with perhaps a little pride.

 

Anyhow, two months is a pretty long time, and your ex appears to have a little bit of a history with reaching out to you indirectly. Maybe this was just another one of those ways. No one can ever know for sure unless she tells you the truth.

 

Is it possible it could have happened the other way around? Sure it is. Anything is possible.

[nomad0792]

Well, we will probably never know. I don't plan on doing anything on my end, so unless she decides to do something, I will keep moving on. It sucks...but, I haven't much of a choice. Only time will tell.

Thanks for the input madisonlayne.

[nomad0792]

So I did a little test with my friends BB and if she still has me in her speed-dial, which is weird, but possible, then it's very easy to call me. All you have to do is hit the "D" twice in succession at a steady pace and it calls. Then, to explain the hang-up and the second call, it's pretty easy. All that needs to be done is just hitting one key...the "D". So, one button is all it takes to do everything it did.

 

In purse-

 

-"D" gets hit twice within a few seconds of each other. It calls me

-15 secs into message the "D" gets hit again, which stops the message and eventually hangs up.

-5 min later the "D" gets hit again twice and it calls me, except after 4 min it times out

 

So, it's very possible and highly probable that her phone dialed me accidently. Even though I know it's not beyond her to do something like this and it seems odd that she still has me on speed dial and her phone has never done it in the past, I'm beginning to believe it was on accident.

 

Bummer, but it's probably a good thing. It'll help me move on and not dwell and obsess about **** like this. So I will put my own vote in now...DGAS (Don't Give A Sheit)

 

It's crazy that **** like this, and coincidences have happened like this so many damn times in our relationship. I don't think I've ever experienced anything like it.

 

Thanks for everyone's responses and support.

[twinklecat]

I'd say intetional. Although it is a very childish thing to do. Reason I'm voting intentional? I've done it myself when I was much younger, so glad I don't indulge in such behaviour anymore!

 

Also, had a previous ex (he dumped me) "pocket" dial me repeatedly one day about 6 weeks after we split (I had gone strict no contact since) Was an unknown number, refused to answer it, kept calling though so eventually I did to which I got aload of abuse down the phone from him and that set me back quite a bit, so be warned - that experience has always made me wary!!

 

So yeah, if it was once, fair enough very likely a mistake, anymore than that and it's intentional, although i've never owned BB or known anyone who owned one.

[madrugada]

Butt dial? I'll go with twinklecat and say it's totally intentional. I've never been called accidentaly and I would say you are being jerked around.

 

Ignore it. Forget about it. It's so easy to read into this kind of crap and realize you're having your chain pulled.

 

LIVE YOUR LIFE FOR YOURSELF.

 

That's all I can say. I'm learning that myself right now. It's tough. Man, it is so tough.

 

Every text message she sends to me, I wonder what's going on in her head. I think maybe she wants to try to get back together.

 

But that's bullsh$t.

 

Learn to be happy with yourself. That's the only way you can live.

[Zeegagge]

Accidental.

[nomad0792]

not that it matters, but why zeegagge?

 

my best friend believes it was an accident, and has from the beginning. His said..."she would've contacted you long ago if she wanted to talk. It's been over 2 months and now you're getting a half-assed attempt? No, she would not risk talking to a dude while purposely calling you for you to hear. That would only push you further away."

[nomad0792]

just a quick update...

 

No silly forms of contact since. I just think she had to have seen her calls to me if they were in fact accidents. Perhaps not, but I have been firm with my NC. I'm still crying quite a bit and miss her dearly, but I'm working on myself and moving on.

 

If it was on purpose, I wish she'd just have the balls to call me. I'm not banking on it, but it would be nice to hear from her...but, only if she wanted to reconcile.

[coltsfan1]

i would think its on purpose, my ex called me twice in 2 minutes on saturday then said her son was playing with her phone and I was the first contact in her phone so he might have dialed it while looking at pictures.

[nomad0792]

i would think its on purpose, my ex called me twice in 2 minutes on saturday then said her son was playing with her phone and I was the first contact in her phone so he might have dialed it while looking at pictures.

 

Well, she's been driving by and doing other things, so I suspect these were intentional.

[OndaChin]

My Vote- It's NO ACCIDENT!

 

Funny you should post this topic- since, I just got a "Butt Dial" yesterday from an EX I bitch slapped 2 weeks ago.

 

Needless to say, I called her a "whore" and told her to "Fu*k Off" and left her hanging at a bar. She was a real "class act" and one bitchy twat!!

 

*You'd think that would be enough to get a guy knocked off the "Phone List" of any woman, right??

 

Well- I got this call from her that went to my voice mail and for 5 mins got to hear her driving in her car with the radio playing!!

 

I highly doubt she accidentally called me! I've NEVER had a call from her in over 1 year of knowing her that was accidental. Also- she had a past history of being inmature and childish with manipulative game playing and the like.

 

Trust your gut!!! It's no accident with this ONE...

[Twenty-ten]

100% ACCIDENTAL

 

Stop deluding yourselves and thinking there is hope and that it was on purpose, it is not. It's happened to me a million times when I had a regular cell phone and on my bb it happened even a few times when I first got it and I didn't lock it properly and floating around in my purse.

 

In this case it's an accident 100% sure of that given what you heard and how it happened you can tell it was an accident.

[Twenty-ten]

just a quick update...

 

No silly forms of contact since. I just think she had to have seen her calls to me if they were in fact accidents. Perhaps not, but I have been firm with my NC. I'm still crying quite a bit and miss her dearly, but I'm working on myself and moving on.

 

If it was on purpose, I wish she'd just have the balls to call me. I'm not banking on it, but it would be nice to hear from her...but, only if she wanted to reconcile.

 

 

It was not on purpose so please please please do not break the track you are on of NC. You are doing a great job at staying away, and I can guarantee you it was an accident. It's easy to let your hopeful mind play tricks on you that she was reaching out, but I'm telling you it's happened to me many times before and it was completely by accident. Once it happened with an ex and I was mortified when I saw his number on my call list, MORTIFIED. It had been in my coat pocket and I did not lock it and I had just phoned someone that was next to him alphabetically on my call list. so accidents do happen.

 

If she really wanted to contact you she could just text you or email you, which would be testing the waters but that's not the case because unfortunately that was not her intention.

[threebyfate]

just a quick update...

 

No silly forms of contact since. I just think she had to have seen her calls to me if they were in fact accidents. Perhaps not, but I have been firm with my NC. I'm still crying quite a bit and miss her dearly, but I'm working on myself and moving on.

 

If it was on purpose, I wish she'd just have the balls to call me. I'm not banking on it, but it would be nice to hear from her...but, only if she wanted to reconcile.

Sounds to me like it was a deliberate act of cruelty. Just one more reason amongst others, to keep moving on.

[Twenty-ten]

One more thing, in reading the rest of the thread, an ex and I used to butt dial people on our phones (we had the same phone) ALL the time, this is before flip phones existed. I've put my phone in my back jean pocket and butt called people.

 

My sister's purse currently calls me with her iPhone many times.

 

I would tell you ask her but I am 100% sure you will be painfully disappointed in the answer. It was an accident.

[OndaChin]

One more thing, in reading the rest of the thread, an ex and I used to butt dial people on our phones (we had the same phone) ALL the time, this is before flip phones existed. I've put my phone in my back jean pocket and butt called people.

 

My sister's purse currently calls me with her iPhone many times.

 

I would tell you ask her but I am 100% sure you will be painfully disappointed in the answer. It was an accident.

 

No disrespect.. BUT

 

Let's look at this situation carefully.

 

Yes, It could be an "Accident" but really now...

 

Unless your number has been either pre-programmed (speed dial) OR you are "pre-selected/ Previously dialed" OR named with a "A" where your first on the list of contacts it's not likely an accident.

 

From my experience- the only accidental calls on BB or other devices occur when someone (whos often called by another) is previously stored (by a previous call to the person) and accidentally hits the SEND key. Otherwise- your "ass" or purse items have to select the appropriate keys (what are the chances its the EX???)!!

 

Now, Im not trying to give the OP false hope- for you should let this woman go no matter what but there really is something more to this situation.

 

There are a lot of insecure people who don't have the nutz to confront someone so- they choose to play "hit and run" tactics to get your attention rather than head on (like an adult). I know it's hard to believe but very true- People OFTEN behave in very strange ways!

 

Either case though...

 

Just laugh at it and don't respond NOR break NC!!

 

Hell, don't be surprised if one Saturday night you get an "accidental or drunk dial" from this girl. I've seen this happen many times before so thats why Im having a hard time believing you're just so damn lucky to get an "accidental call by the ex" crap!

 

It's no accident..

[Twenty-ten]

No disrespect.. BUT

 

Let's look at this situation carefully.

 

Yes, It could be an "Accident" but really now...

 

Unless your number has been either pre-programmed (speed dial) OR you are "pre-selected/ Previously dialed" OR named with a "A" where your first on the list of contacts it's not likely an accident.

 

No disrespect taken.

 

i honestly don't know how it does it but all I know is that if I leave the screen on my bb unlocked and up to the contacts screen it comes to life on its own. Plus if you have an ear peice with your phone the button on the ear cord sometimes has dialed numbers if it hits something.

 

 

If she has an iPhone even moreso, unless she locks it. My iTouch turns on its own and goes to my apps, if it's not locked this happens in my purse, maybe my purse is just haunted...I have this app that's a cat keyboard (for my niece who is 2 yrs old) and the other day suddenly my purse starts meowing in all these different tones.

 

seriously it happens, I am certain this was not done intentionally. If it were text I would have a hard time believing it was done by accident.

 

From my experience- the only accidental calls on BB or other devices occur when someone (whos often called by another) is previously stored (by a previous call to the person) and accidentally hits the SEND key. Otherwise- your "ass" or purse items have to select the appropriate keys (what are the chances its the EX???)!!

 

Well when my purse called my ex all I had to do was forget to lock the phone and it would find its way to my contact list. don't ask me how but it would, I figured it was because I had called someone close to his name on my list of names. Can't even remember anymore but the point is it happens.

 

There are a lot of insecure people who don't have the nutz to confront someone so- they choose to play "hit and run" tactics to get your attention rather than head on (like an adult). I know it's hard to believe but very true- People OFTEN behave in very strange ways!

 

Sure I don't doubt that, but passing this off as intentional is nuts to me, it is allowing your "wishful thinking" for attention from an ex to get the best of you and quite frankly many times it is so not that at all, it's all in your head.

 

I say save face and pass it off for accident because most likely it is.