He says he's religious, but he has no faith

[Boundary Problem]

What is faith?

 

It is an unwavering belief in something or someone even when all the facts and even they themselves suggest otherwise.

 

So I went on a date with a guy and he's not sure we can go out again because I'm not religious. He says I'm a 'non-believer' and he shouldn't associate with me.

 

The irony? He doesn't have faith in people or himself. He lives as an island. How is isolating yourself a sign of faith?

 

It is pretty easy to be a believer when you are sitting in your lounge chair, under the palm tree, in the breeze on the quiet island sipping your margarita.

 

True faith is tested when you are covered in blood, vomit, tears and have exhaustion and you still refuse to let go of the rope, despite the people yelling at you to let go.

 

I think I'll tell him he's right. He is too good for me. Maybe I'll chase him for a while too, just so he can confirm his opinion. And then I'll mail him some sunscreen. Wouldn't want him to get sunburnt as he comtemplates life on his peaceful island.

 

The good thing about being in the trenches of life, is that is isn't too sunny down here. No fear of being sunburnt.

 

Anyways, faith is tested in the trenches of life. Not on post-card perfect islands while sipping margaritas.

 

What is my point? I put this in the spirituality section because I think people are quick to say they are believers, but you don't have to be vocal to be a person of faith.

[Eve]

He meant faith in God methinks. Sorry but I didnt understand the point you are making. Did you like him and wanted your perception of faith to be equalised to his belief because of your life experiences?

 

Take care,

Eve xx

[Lizzie60]

He probably meant 'spiritual'... not religious..

[reservoirdog1]

So I went on a date with a guy and he's not sure we can go out again because I'm not religious. He says I'm a 'non-believer' and he shouldn't associate with me.

 

You may be a non-believer. But because of that, he feels he shouldn't associate with you? He's a freak show.

 

I think I'll tell him he's right. He is too good for me. Maybe I'll chase him for a while too, just so he can confirm his opinion. And then I'll mail him some sunscreen. Wouldn't want him to get sunburnt as he comtemplates life on his peaceful island.

 

Hell, why bother? He's a waste of your time. I wouldn't give him any affirmation for his crazy views. Let him die alone on his island. His reality. Not yours.