Why women love black men

[Mary3]

I never was with a black Men till oen night i met this gorgeous dark black guy in a bar went home with him and he literally rocked my world.His size was painful yet amazing,the idea of giving yoursefl and beign submitted to a black Man is a feelling like no other as thid big mandingo warrior has you with one arm in the air doing with you what eh pelases

 

Theyre sexy,theyre naturally the strongest race of Men,they have the most charisma and personaloty,they are the most feared and can prtoect you the best

 

I find this pretty scarey what you did. You are sitting at a bar and some man talks to you and then you both go back to his place and start banging eachother.

 

He could have been a serial killer. A woman hater. ( No matter what his color was ).

 

How many women will admit they met a total stranger and then boinked his lights out that same evening ?

 

I mean very young like early 20's it happens more out of naivitity ( sp ) but as she gets older and more wise , you think she would STOP and think about what she is really doing ?

 

Hopefully she wears protection because you know d_____ well if he pounded that girl at the bar then he did the same things to others....

[Mme. Chaucer]

Wow, there are sure a lot of racists here.

 

I am white; I grew up in a town where everyone else was white. When I went to university, I experienced "love at first sight" towards a young Black athlete I saw in the student union. He was gorgeous! (And did he ever know it! But there is justice ... he is now a portly middle aged grandpa! Not gorgeous!)

 

That became my first "serious" relationship. It was a terrible one ... but looking back over all these years, I can see clearly that I was attracted very much to the difference between this guy and all the dudes from my high school days, and from myself as well.

 

After that relationship was over, I continued my pattern of infatuation for "different" from myself and what I was accustomed to.

[calizaggy]

That became my first "serious" relationship. It was a terrible one ...

 

 

Some people don't learn from their mistakes..

[calizaggy]

I wish every woman who has ever dated a black man had a warning label so i could stay the fack away.

 

I am not racist.... just not my cup of tea.

 

 

I agree. Especially considering this..

 

[COLOR=#660000]http://www.cnn.com/2010/HEALTH/03/10/genital.herpes/[/COLOR]

 

While African-Americans make up 12 percent of the U.S. population, that population accounts for nearly half of all reported syphilis and chlamydia cases, more than 70 percent of all reported gonorrhea cases and about half of all new HIV infections.

 

For African-Americans, the prevalence of infection was 39.2 percent -- more than three times that of whites, at 12.3 percent. Black women are most affected by the disease, with an infection rate of 48 percent.

[Mme. Chaucer]

I wish every woman who has ever dated a black man had a warning label so i could stay the fack away.

 

I am not racist.... just not my cup of tea.

 

A great way for you to accomplish this would be to stay away from ALL women. It would be a definite win/win!

 

P.S. You're a racist.

[Engadget]

I have fantasies about black men, yes because it's taboo and I imagine the different colors of skin tone and it's cool and I imagine a huge one. Sexually I fantasize about black men, but I don't know if I'd seriously date one. I would if I were attracted but for some reason I am not. I think they are easy, because I have curly hair and they all seem to be attracted to me. Not all of course and I'm sure I could be attracted, but the majority I see around just seem easy. I feel like black men love light skinned women or something especially ones with curly hair.

 

I never was with a black Men till oen night i met this gorgeous dark black guy in a bar went home with him and he literally rocked my world.His size was painful yet amazing,the idea of giving yoursefl and beign submitted to a black Man is a feelling like no other as thid big mandingo warrior has you with one arm in the air doing with you what eh pelases

 

Theyre sexy,theyre naturally the strongest race of Men,they have the most charisma and personaloty,they are the most feared and can prtoect you the best

 

Same person right here.

[calizaggy]

Less than 1% of white women marry a black man.. Of that 1% they have a much higher rate of divorce than white/white couples.

[Engadget]

Less than 1% of white women marry a black man.. Of that 1% they have a much higher rate of divorce than white/white couples.

 

Where are you getting this?

[stillafool]

Where are you getting this?

 

Yes it does make one think he spends a lot of time looking up info on black people. Probably black men in particular. Is this your problem? Have black guys been getting the women you want?

 

Calizaggy are you saying that it is "outlier behavior" for black men to be good fathers, husbands and people?

[calizaggy]

Yes it does make one think he spends a lot of time looking up info on black people. Probably black men in particular. Is this your problem? Have black guys been getting the women you want?

 

Calizaggy are you saying that it is "outlier behavior" for black men to be good fathers, husbands and people?

 

 

Are you kidding?

 

My point was that the number of white women who marry black men is miniscule.. There are more lesbians than white women who want to marry a black man.

 

What I am saying is this.. Only 50% graduate high school, and only about 13% even graduate college.1 out of 4 age 18-30 are in some phase of the correctional system. . So what types of white women are marrying black men, considering women usually want someone educated, no criminal record, etc..?

 

And yes, 70% of black kids are illigetimate.

[paperchase]

Now that I have your attention...There's a psychology book called the Nature of Prejudice by Gordon Allport. It's dated but remains relevant. Some posters should read it. One of its maxims is that in every stereotype, there is "kernel" of truth. Hearing everyone's views and experiences, this appears to be the case with respect to relationships between black men and white women. Here are a few generalities which perhaps have some basis:

 

1. It's taboo and, therefore, exciting to some.

 

2. Black men are sexually superior which enhances their physical attractiveness to some white women.

 

3. Black men are stronger, more warrior-like and more athletic.

 

4. White men are socially superior due to their socio-economic status and, as long-term mates, are the most desirable by most races.

 

5. Just as white men are a status symbol, white women are a status symbol and, perhaps that is among the reasons some black men find them attractive.

 

6. Opposites sometimes attract.

 

Obviously, some of this is rooted in truth or at least perceived to be true. Perception is reality anyway. Black and white porn is the most watched for a reason. White men on the whole earn more money and hold loftier positions in society. Black men dominate most professional sports they have a chance to play. Yada, yada.

 

Now let me highlight the danger of stereotypes:

 

1. Black men are intellectually inferior. Although blacks in this country are not always afforded the same quality of education, that does not address their intellectual capacities. Scientist have tried to make arguments about mental acumen among all races. Their theories have not been widely accepted. We have a black president from Harvard Law School. I'm black and went there too. Great standardized test taker from the hood. Maybe it's because I went to the best schools money can buy. Are you serious?

 

2. Black men date overweight white girls because they can't get the attractive ones. While many comedians have joked about this, it's not true. Consider that black men find full figured women attractive because many black women are full figured. There are reasons for black women being more full figured. Genetics and diet play a factor. Ironically, the beauty standards have shifted such that white women now want plum backsides and full lips. Go figure. I have a black male friend who only dates heavy black women. I used to tease him that he went after low hanging fruit, but that is not the case.

 

3. Statistics -- I have heard so many statistics about STD's, the number and success of interracial relationships where the woman is black versus where the man is black, average incomes, etc. Yet there is no denying that in this country blacks are less educated, earn less and have a higher rate of STD. But what does that mean and who are these blacks? Being below the poverty line would affect all of these statistics. It starts with money. Without it you are subject to poor education which leads to low income earning potential which places you in a lifestyle of reckless sexual behavior and in an environment where your sexual partners are similarly situated. Inadequate health care and treatment for STDs is an issue too.

 

My guess is that if we were to compare similarly situated members of both races the statistic would bear out that it's not about race: it's more nurture over nature. I'm one of those blacks that came from poverty and through sports and education went to the finest schools in the country starting at an elementary level. I make just as much as my white counterparts, if not more. I've never had an STD. This entire debate is rubbish.

 

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Now the success of interracial relationships is an issue worthy of discussion because they present many challenges due in part to all of the racist notions prevalent throughout society and voiced in this thread. Without public approval, a relationship needs to be very strong to survive. The same goes for any children born out of that relationship.

 

I was in love with a white girl in college. We talked about marriage but I broke off the relationship because I felt that race was an issue. I was a young black man coming to terms with my own racial identity and I strongly felt that I needed a black woman to share my experience, to fully connect. Having been divorced, I realize that the vitality of a long term relationship is not tied to a shared racial identity. I am more than my race and so much more is important when considering love. I do think that raising interracial children is a challenge, but this would not preclude me from marrying a white woman under the right circumstances.

 

People get so hung up on superficial things. I think there are three key components to any long term relationship and they are, in no particular order: sex, money and children. If partners see eye-to-eye on these, they can work through most any other issues.

 

Sex meaning, is it important, how frequent, are we compatible. If one person wants it 3 times a day and one wants it once a month, eventually the relationship will fail. Money meaning, its importance and how to spend or invest it. If one person wants wealth and the other does not care, or one person wants to save and the other is a spend thrift, or one person wants a dual income and the other wants to not work, eventually the relationship will fail. Finally, children. Do you want them and how many. If one person is against children and the other wants 3, this will be a problem.

 

Sorry for the long post. It's a slow morning for one black man in his big corner office on the top floor of this publicly traded company. Opps, gotta go: the CEO is calling me to address a revenue recognition issue which will let us realize a couple million more by quarter's end.

[Engadget]

Are you kidding?

 

My point was that the number of white women who marry black men is miniscule.. There are more lesbians than white women who want to marry a black man.

 

What I am saying is this.. Only 50% graduate high school, and only about 13% even graduate college.1 out of 4 age 18-30 are in some phase of the correctional system. . So what types of white women are marrying black men, considering women usually want someone educated, no criminal record, etc..?

 

And yes, 70% of black kids are illigetimate.

 

Okay really, you need to back up what you're saying.

 

for example:

 

50% of white men are into football

 

I made that up much like you seem to be doing.

[Tony]

This is NOT a thread that should go on forever. There is little, if any, research cited here. The OP should consult research studies and social science journals for more answers. Thank you for participating.