drumstix Posted January 22, 2010 Share Posted January 22, 2010 I am a Male I have been dating my girlfriend for two months. I care very much for my girl friend I feel that at my current place in life I am much wiser than I have been all my life. This is one of the first relationships I have allowed to cultivate. I have made some mistakes as I am very playful and free spirited. I don't push change on her but feel I encourage her to go whatever direction she seeks. What concerns me is during dating my girlfriend has shown some trust issues and has repeated some behaviors she claims she wants to change. During the span of our 2 month relationship she has gone out with friends on two occasions and has gotten completely hammered and has been in compromising situations where I picked her up one at 2 am the other at five. Both time I was aggravated but picked her up and was reserved and patient with my thoughts to prevent over reacting. My coldness sparked problems between us. Luckily we overcame such problems. It’s been challenging nurturing a relationship with the specific goals I have for my life (but no one promised it would be easy).... Recently I left her at my house while I picked up my son and she chose to raid my phone. 1. Such behaviors scares me to believe regardless of what I do Her imagination and thoughts will continue to lead us down this path and create mistrust between us when I have honest intentions. 2. I'm the laid back type and I attempt to limit jealousy the reason I have been slow with the development of the relationship is to avoid an abusive relationship. I'm starting to wonder if staying in this relationship will cause me to develop issues I don't feel I currently have or issues I suppress. Has anyone dated one with trust issues and what is the best way to nurture a relationship while keeping the triangle of love in balance? I am truly the type of person that likes to focus in what’s good in a person and what I like about one rather than what small imperfections They poses but I am no push over I'm stubborn and I fight fire with fire. I Want to change the course the relationship may be headed. I know she and I see things differently and our communication with each other could use work. I prefer confrontation but our disagreement are very confrontational and exhausting instead of being addresses then moving forward. [FONT=Calibri][sIZE=3] [/sIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Calibri][sIZE=3] [/sIZE][/FONT] Link to post Share on other sites
BlueeyedJonesy Posted January 22, 2010 Share Posted January 22, 2010 is your gf by any chance mmmbounce? you wouldn't be playing with our heads now would you? Link to post Share on other sites
mmmbounce Posted January 22, 2010 Share Posted January 22, 2010 is your gf by any chance mmmbounce? you wouldn't be playing with our heads now would you? Yes, this is my bf. I chose to show him what I had written and he wanted to give his side of the story. I think we are both trying to figure out what to do. I am actually at his house now and on his computer. He wouldn't let me see what he was writing until he was done. Any advice would be great with consideration to both of our posts. Link to post Share on other sites
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