Why do woman prefer man with a big ???!!!?

[Tatoc]

All my life I have had resentment towards woman because of the way they have treated me. I'm in my 40's have had 3 girlfriends in all those years. With the first one I lasted 2 months. Everything was great until she insisted on us having sex. She told me that she really enjoyed that moment. But no matter how hard I tried she would not see me again. And never gave me an explanation.

 

It took me another 8 years before I could pick up the courage to ask out another lady. We dated for 3 weeks. During that time I avoided any talk about sex, because I did not want this relationship to end like the first one did. But she was persistent. I went along with it because she beginning to distance herself from me. That night just like with my first girlfriend, she said that it was good. Although she did continue to go out with me for a couple more weeks, I knew that she had changed with me, because she would not be as talkative, wanted to end the dates almost right away, among other things. This brought back memory of my first relationship, so I asked her if the reason she is being indifferent with me is because she was not happy with what I had to offer in the intimate department. She said something like that. We never called each other again.

 

I promised myself that I would never get involved romantically again. And I was successful until a few months ago, when I female coworker started coming on to me. I resisted for awhile, but then I started dated her. We went out for 5 months. Then one day she asked me why I never made any sexual passes. At this time I decided to tell her the truth. I told her that I was not well endowed. She laughed and said not to be silly. Since we were in my house I decided to show her. She just stared and said I understand.

At least unlike the first two, she was honest enough to tell me that she didn’t want to continue our relationship.

 

Why do woman have to be so cruel? I’m a compassionate person; I’m not the best looking man. But then I’m also not the ugliest. I won’t mention the size of my manhood because I don’t think it is politically correct to do so on this site. But I believe of have enough to make an understanding woman. The problem is, does this woman exist? And if she does, how do I find her without humiliating myself anymore?

[Lizzie60]

Crual???? I didn't see anywhere where they were crual... I think the first ones were just trying to spare your feelings... the last one was straight-forward.. and you blame them for being crual..

 

I have no advice since you cannot change that.. except.. keep trying and you'll eventually find someone who don't mind.. or isn't into sex that much...

 

Maybe you can tell the ladies that you might not be well endowed but you're amazing with your tongue..

[bananaboat11]

I hope you're referring to penis size?

 

Say penis. Be confident regardless of the size of your penis.

 

There are many 'types' of women out there.. most women i've met don't care about size... as long as your penis is > 4" and has a decent girth.. you can EASILY stimulate their g spot and arouse sensitivity with the motion of your ocean. In addition.. penile insertion is not the only way to sexually arouse and stimulate a woman. The sensitivity of touch... the feel... your lips pressed softly against her creamy skin... there are 20+ sensitivity spots on a woman's body ... if you know how to appropriately address each, you're going to make her flustered, hot, and want your penis more and more regardless of size.

 

The average penis size is seriously.. 5.35" in length according to some of the most prestigious journal articles in urology. Girth averages around 4.5". If you're around there.. congratulations... your penis is average.

 

There is a ST Dev of 3 I believe... so there are a good portion of guys below and above this. Most guys over 6.5" are fewer... 7+"??? even less... 8"+? Yeah right.

 

From experience... women OVER estimate penis size. Trust me. Girls say I must be... 8 or 9"... in reality, I'm 6.9" x 5.2". Yes, I know I'm stating numbers online that I'm sure no one will believe. I'm telling you this now b/c if you can prove mental competency...

 

i'm subscribing to this thread... and honestly... I will share a secret with you, but only if you can prove to me you're mentally competent to handle it. It is a big responsibility. And no, I'm not selling you anything and I gain no profit or satisfaction from sharing this secret. I do it out of the goodness of my heart b/c honestly, when I was ~ 20 my penis was ~5.5" x 4.75". Yes... I'm talking penis enlargement, but without surgery.. no pills.. no pumps... nothing that'll put you in harms way. No you don't have to pay any money to learn the secret, but it requires mental complacency.

 

Yeah, it's that big of a secret.

 

You're going to have to get over the 'size matters' thing... a lot of women don't like it too big... anything > 6"... once you touch the cervix.. can hurt. Guys ~7"... usually are foolish enough to just shove it in and hurt the poor woman... no, you need to acclimatize the vaginal wall to your larger member...

 

...size is only as good as knowing how to use it. Keep that in mind. I'm quite confident MOST women would rather a man engage in foreplay.. make her hot and feel sexy... and have an average penis and know HOW TO USE IT rather than have a big penis and suck in the sack. Ha.. i'm funny. that was good.

 

Mental competency.

[Tatoc]

The advice I'm looking for is. Why must a man be well endowed to be able to please a woman? I mean, I'm no dummy, I know the bigger the size the more pleasure for the woman. But I can think of many other ways to please a woman sexually. Remember blind people find other ways to see. And most of them live pretty decent lives.

 

My point is, what is more important to a woman, a man that can satisfy her sexually, or one who can give them all the emotional support that a man can humanly give? You might say both. But maybe that is one big reason why there are so many divorces. Being 100% happy in a relationship is almost, if not impossible to do in this cruel world, filled with self centered peopled.

[Tatoc]

My first answer is ment for Lizzie60.

[nobmagnet]

It is the other aspected of lovemaking that are really improtant to a woman. I have seen a few in my time...............no supprise there !!!!hahah. They all come in different shapes and sizes but the best lover I ever had was great in the foreplay part and the intercouse following was just the end product of an amazing time. Work on your skills around her body and you will find that it is irrelevent the size your todger is my love!!

 

We are not all cruel and shallow. Maybe fool around for more time doing other stuff before you get the Old Man out!!

 

Nobby xx

[ella23]

It is the other aspected of lovemaking that are really improtant to a woman. I have seen a few in my time...............no supprise there !!!!hahah. They all come in different shapes and sizes but the best lover I ever had was great in the foreplay part and the intercouse following was just the end product of an amazing time. Work on your skills around her body and you will find that it is irrelevent the size your todger is my love!!

 

We are not all cruel and shallow. Maybe fool around for more time doing other stuff before you get the Old Man out!!

 

Nobby xx

good post.

I agree.

[Ilovecake]

I don’t think the women are to blame. It sounds to me like it's more of a lack of confidence and experience on your end. I've been with all sizes of men and it's not always a deal breaker but if they don't know how to please a woman and are withdrawn in bed it's definitely a no go.

[CarrieT]

Tatoc - you have been answering your own questions; YOU resent women and when you have gotten involved in relationships, have avoided sexual intimacy despite the fact that there are many ways to please a woman. You are making the assumption that women only exist for one thing and by harboring such a resentment, you are going to perpetuate the self-fulfilling prophecy of loneliness and desperation.

 

You dated a woman for FIVE MONTHS and never made sexual advances that did NOT involve intercourse? No kissing, no fondling, no oral sex? What woman is going to not want physical intimacy of any kind? Well, granted, there are probably some, but part of having a successful relationship is being open and honest and giving and it doesn't sound like you have ever even tried to be giving to a woman in ways other than through straight intercourse.

[Blueberry7691]

Personally, it's what you do with it that means the most. My ex-bf was average but on the smaller size I'm thinking. The problem was how he USED it. I didn't feel him inside me when he penetrated. I would think 'Are you in? Why don't I feel you??' Some positions were better than others and honestly, I got more from our love making when we'd just look into each others eyes and said 'I love you'. We were soo connected that way, that made it special, not so much the 'act'.

 

I'm thinking you just haven't found the right person yet but you will in time.

[donnamaybe]

My first answer is ment for Lizzie60.

 

And you conspicuously avoided the "tongue" comment.

 

Are you willing to go down on a woman? If not, that may be more the problem. You have to want to please.

[Lizzie60]

Oh.. I forgot to add.. I love everything big... penis, house, wallet, car...

Methink it's not your size.. it's your overall attitude and personality... I could be wrong.. but in 40 years you dated only a few months total...

[Silver_star]

Sounds to me like its not your size. its your confidence. You had a bad experience...and it has ruined your confidence in bed. Women are very receptive to this. If you "know what your doing" and are determined to please a woman in bed you likely will...if you go in worried and have avoided it she will know by your body language and your body that your not comfortable. Its not her...its u.

[Tatoc]

Tatoc - you have been answering your own questions; YOU resent women and when you have gotten involved in relationships, have avoided sexual intimacy despite the fact that there are many ways to please a woman. You are making the assumption that women only exist for one thing and by harboring such a resentment, you are going to perpetuate the self-fulfilling prophecy of loneliness and desperation.

 

You dated a woman for FIVE MONTHS and never made sexual advances that did NOT involve intercourse? No kissing, no fondling, no oral sex? What woman is going to not want physical intimacy of any kind? Well, granted, there are probably some, but part of having a successful relationship is being open and honest and giving and it doesn't sound like you have ever even tried to be giving to a woman in ways other than through straight intercourse.

 

When I say that I did not make advances, I Meant Sexual. We did kiss, hold hands, ETC. I'm a very Affectionate man. It,s the woman that I here many times talking about how important size is. For example. At work all I here is the woman joking around about how great it is to have a man with a big penis. Also in movies. I've even heart my own sisters say it. I have yet to here 1 woman say. I want to find a man with a small penis and a heart of gold.

 

Hvae you???

[McGrupp]

im not the best looking guy but at least i have an 8 inch penis.

 

i feel sorry for you bud.

 

listen every girl ive been with has said shes been with a guy with a small one. so they are out there and getting some. all about confidence my friend.

 

and

I'm 6.9" x 5.2".

 

hahaha but whose counting!

[Tatoc]

I don’t think the women are to blame. It sounds to me like it's more of a lack of confidence and experience on your end. I've been with all sizes of men and it's not always a deal breaker but if they don't know how to please a woman and are withdrawn in bed it's definitely a no go.

 

I have a lot of confidence. Anger, yes I have a lot of that.

[Tatoc]

Personally, it's what you do with it that means the most. My ex-bf was average but on the smaller size I'm thinking. The problem was how he USED it. I didn't feel him inside me when he penetrated. I would think 'Are you in? Why don't I feel you??' Some positions were better than others and honestly, I got more from our love making when we'd just look into each others eyes and said 'I love you'. We were soo connected that way, that made it special, not so much the 'act'.

 

I'm thinking you just haven't found the right person yet but you will in time.

 

I should have mentioned earlier, that yes, I do care about my partners satisfaction during love making. I will not feel satisfied untill I know she is.

[RedDevil66]

Too big is not good for me and too small is not good for me. I love intercourse so yes size to me means a whole lot.

I have a friend who HATES intercourse and prefers oral. Many women just prefer oral.

 

Work on the other parts of our love making. Be a great kisser, good at fingering, good with the tongue. Buy some toys.

There are many women than cannot have sex due to illness but they work around it.

 

Be confident with who you are. Be funny with women and not sad or resentful.

[CarrieT]

This whole thread is going to turn into the one like Ella's with her breast issue. There is no way we can convince Tatoc that it isn't the physical appendage but the self-confidence of the person. And while I don't predict this thread will go 880+ responses, it is easy to see that the sentiments offered will be exactly the same.

 

It is not the body part. It is the person.

[Tatoc]

And you conspicuously avoided the "tongue" comment.

 

Are you willing to go down on a woman? If not, that may be more the problem. You have to want to please.

 

Yes Yes yes. I'll use it on any part of her body. An I mean any part.

[Tatoc]

Oh.. I forgot to add.. I love everything big... penis, house, wallet, car...

Methink it's not your size.. it's your overall attitude and personality... I could be wrong.. but in 40 years you dated only a few months total...

 

Lizzie60. You sounded kind of upset. I hope I did not affend you with my reply. That was not my intention. I do appreciate you and everybody else on this site taking the time to reply to my post.

[Lizzie60]

Lizzie60. You sounded kind of upset. I hope I did not affend you with my reply. That was not my intention. I do appreciate you and everybody else on this site taking the time to reply to my post.

 

Huh??? I'm not upset at all... I was just telling you like I felt from your posts... I don't know you.. so I could be wrong.. we have to go with what we read.. you seem bitter with a low self esteem.

[marlena]

Tatoc - you have been answering your own questions; YOU resent women and when you have gotten involved in relationships, have avoided sexual intimacy despite the fact that there are many ways to please a woman. You are making the assumption that women only exist for one thing and by harboring such a resentment, you are going to perpetuate the self-fulfilling prophecy of loneliness and desperation.

 

You dated a woman for FIVE MONTHS and never made sexual advances that did NOT involve intercourse? No kissing, no fondling, no oral sex? What woman is going to not want physical intimacy of any kind? Well, granted, there are probably some, but part of having a successful relationship is being open and honest and giving and it doesn't sound like you have ever even tried to be giving to a woman in ways other than through straight intercourse.

 

Wonderful post. You are your own enemy, sabotaging yourself as it were. There are tons of ways to satisfy a women. Get experimental, use your imagination and grow some self-confidence. Seriously, that's all it takes.

 

I dated a man like you for eight months and what bothered me most was not his size but his absolute lack of sensuality and inabilty to feel passion.

[bananaboat11]

im not the best looking guy but at least i have an 8 inch penis.

 

i feel sorry for you bud.

 

listen every girl ive been with has said shes been with a guy with a small one. so they are out there and getting some. all about confidence my friend.

 

and

 

hahaha but whose counting!

 

 

I am. I've increased my penis size from about 5.5"

 

And yes, it's possible. I was skeptical at first, too.

 

hell, i'm not even done either. 7" penis is considered well above average

[ItsAllGoodAgain]

This might be one of the best post I've read on here. As far as all around good times.

 

I feel for you man. You need to build your confidence. You have this preconceived notion that you're not good in the sack and you're unable to please a women. Sack up brother.

 

Grab a peach, pretend its a vajayjay and make out with that like its the last p_&&y you'll ever see. Practice technique, ask girl friends, do whatever it takes. But you can learn to please a women regardless the size of your rocket.

 

Try some enlargement pills if you have to. Women love sex just as much if not more than us men do. Maybe not as often but they love to get off. It is our job to do so. Suck it up, stay confident and you'll feel better about yourself.

 

Be proud of your unit. That's your manhood!!!