Why do woman prefer man with a big ???!!!?

[HeavenOrHell]

Maybe nor cruel, just shallow.

 

 

Crual???? I didn't see anywhere where they were crual... I think the first ones were just trying to spare your feelings... the last one was straight-forward.. and you blame them for being crual..

 

I have no advice since you cannot change that.. except.. keep trying and you'll eventually find someone who don't mind.. or isn't into sex that much...

 

Maybe you can tell the ladies that you might not be well endowed but you're amazing with your tongue..

[HeavenOrHell]

Why can we edit some of our posts but not others?! My post should have said maybe NOT cruel, just shallow.

[HeavenOrHell]

Good post!

 

It is the other aspected of lovemaking that are really improtant to a woman. I have seen a few in my time...............no supprise there !!!!hahah. They all come in different shapes and sizes but the best lover I ever had was great in the foreplay part and the intercouse following was just the end product of an amazing time. Work on your skills around her body and you will find that it is irrelevent the size your todger is my love!!

 

We are not all cruel and shallow. Maybe fool around for more time doing other stuff before you get the Old Man out!!

 

Nobby xx

[Boundary Problem]

most women i've met don't care about size...

 

 

 

Men are from Mars

[sedgwick]

First of all, if I was ever with a guy who told me he hadn't had sex with me because he wasn't well-endowed and then dropped his pants to show me, that would be a way bigger turn-off than the actual size of the thing. I want a man with CONFIDENCE!!!

 

I won't lie, a big one feels good. However, there is such a thing as TOO big. I had a bf one time who had the biggest c*ck I've ever seen -- like, porno-sized. And honestly? It hurt. We were limited in positions because he hit my cervix too hard in most of them. I wouldn't want another one that big.

 

The two men I've truly loved were both quite average in size. One was a bit lacking in the girth department, and I remember seeing him naked for the first time and thinking, "Oh, it's skinny." But the sex was incredible, because we were so connected.

 

When you're hard and you hold it in your hand (like in jerking-off position), does the head stick out of your hand? If so, you're plenty big enough!

[HeavenOrHell]

Big willies scare me, just makes me think ouch!! More than 6" long is a bit much for me

One of my ex's was about 3" erect, did not bother me at all.

I feel the same about men who don't like small boobs as you do about women who don't like small willies, I feel inadequate.

I wonder if women who say they don't like small willies are being shallow because they worry what their equally shallow mates would say if they knew their mate was dating someone with *shock horror* bloke with a small dick.

And the women who say dick size matters, how would you feel if you were dumped because your boobs were too small?

[sedgwick]

And the women who say dick size matters, how would you feel if you were dumped because your boobs were too small?

 

Heh, I worry that mine are too big! My ex's exes were stick-skinny and flat-chested, and I constantly felt inadequate because I wasn't.

[HeavenOrHell]

We can't win! I just get the impression men generally prefer bigger ones, something to grab hold of, just seems more womanly than small ones like mine, I feel less sexy because of mine

 

Heh, I worry that mine are too big! My ex's exes were stick-skinny and flat-chested, and I constantly felt inadequate because I wasn't.

[nobmagnet]

is this the right topic place????? hahah I have looked a sexual health and its a corker for learning! i digress.......... I have the worlds smallest breasts. I can jump up and down and they move slightly. I have given birth naturally to 3 children. I have stretch marks on my tummy too.

 

Guess what.............i wouldnt leap into bed with just anyone I am insecure about my body but if you asked any and I mean any woman on here she would feel the same about themselves. We all know our flaws heck i could talk all night about mine!!!!!!!!! But I wont..........because I am meeeeeeeee. I happen to know that fundementally im funny, love being with people, love my family.........my tiny boobs wouldnt mean anything to a smashing chap. you havent been out there enough. I understand you worry as it has been crap but all women are not the same and guess what.........we are not perfect too!

 

Nobby x

 

Guess

[GrayClouds]

Many women like guys with big dicks because they act like they have big dicks.

 

A case of attitude over magnitude to rebuff your platitude:

 

I worked with a guy named Timmy, 5'4", and should I say built proportionally overall. He would walk in the room like he own it and would get more tail then on oversized Apatosaurus.

 

In his case he lost women not because his "petite" size but he himself was a big dick. Generally there was not enough room in a bed for him, his women and his ego... or should I say an over compensation of his ego.

[nobmagnet]

hee hee great!

 

grey clouds you have the best one liner.............no room in the bed........

 

nobby xx

[prayingshecomesback]

We can't win! I just get the impression men generally prefer bigger ones, something to grab hold of, just seems more womanly than small ones like mine, I feel less sexy because of mine

 

Breast size does not matter to me one bit. It would be nice if they had it, but honestly I dont care. My ex that I loved the heck out was flat as a table. The girl I am dating now is huge. I think they are D's. Either way...I am really interested in the girl herself and not her boobs.

[Bulldozed]

BB - are you referring to the jelqing method?

 

(I'm not selling you anything and I gain no profit or satisfaction from sharing this secret. I do it out of the goodness of my heart b/c honestly, when I was ~ 20 my penis was ~5.5" x 4.75". Yes... I'm talking penis enlargement, but without surgery.. no pills.. no pumps... nothing that'll put you in harms way. No you don't have to pay any money to learn the secret, but it requires mental complacency. )

 

Yeah, it's that big of a secret.

[Ilovecake]

You can't really compare breast size to penis size. Usually you're not inserting your breast into anything more than a hand or a mouth.

[GAchasen]

The advice I'm looking for is. Why must a man be well endowed to be able to please a woman? I mean, I'm no dummy, I know the bigger the size the more pleasure for the woman. But I can think of many other ways to please a woman sexually. Remember blind people find other ways to see. And most of them live pretty decent lives.

 

My point is, what is more important to a woman, a man that can satisfy her sexually, or one who can give them all the emotional support that a man can humanly give? You might say both. But maybe that is one big reason why there are so many divorces. Being 100% happy in a relationship is almost, if not impossible to do in this cruel world, filled with self centered peopled.

 

Banana boat~~~Just gave you good advice. Penis size doesn't matter for some... It's how you use it to give pleasure to a woman you are with. Just like anything, people have opinions with what can satisfy them.

What they like or don't like....in sense it is just preference (like the taste of icecream someone prefers). You might prefer a big chested woman to a small chested woman, or vise versa. I my self enjoy average penis size. But, that is just me. When a man satisfies a woman sexually, it's not only the physical aspect...it's more deeper than that. It combines, emotional, intellectual, and even spiritual within being passionate with one another. So, for me that is the most important.

[bananaboat11]

BB - are you referring to the jelqing method?

 

(I'm not selling you anything and I gain no profit or satisfaction from sharing this secret. I do it out of the goodness of my heart b/c honestly, when I was ~ 20 my penis was ~5.5" x 4.75". Yes... I'm talking penis enlargement, but without surgery.. no pills.. no pumps... nothing that'll put you in harms way. No you don't have to pay any money to learn the secret, but it requires mental complacency. )

 

Yeah, it's that big of a secret.

 

 

I'm not going to throw out a statistici... because I don't know numbers, but the sheer numbers of knowing this method are few and far between. How to properly perform the method for semi-permed gains and to perm those gains through a known technique... kegeling (woman do this primarily), fowfers, edging, ballooning, etc.. takes time and effort for those who know about it. Unfortunately it is a slow process and you must have a healthy mind to perform any of it... those with unhealthy minds like to 'rush and racec it'... and risk serious injury to their penises.

 

If it were easy, every would be doing it.

 

That's good you know of it.. you've got an upper on many. I've studying the anatomy of the penis... loads of techniques... workout regimens... and in a few years time i've gained an inch and a half approximately. my goal is to gain another inch and then just perform maintenance exercises to keep... cement my gains and just keep on living. I was a skeptic at first... but I said what the hell... as a beginner you don't -have to devote THAT much time to it... makes quite a difference, too.

 

As for the OP - this shouldn't be important.

 

It's all about knowing a woman's body... how to read her body language... and when to know when she says no.. she means, I love that and want more... and when she says no... to stop.

[mickleb]

I'm not a massive Russell Brand fan but one thing I admire him for is making his small dick his badge of honour.

 

Even if we're talking acorn here, I suggest you learn to laugh about it before the next lady gets a chance to.

 

You never know, you might be bedding the likes of Kate Moss, next.

 

And, please Tatoc, give up your desire to hear a woman speak the words 'I want to find a man with a small penis and a heart of gold'. I seriously doubt we'll ever hear a woman say that or a man say 'I want to find a woman with a bucket fanny and a heart of gold'. But just because neither are on our wish lists, doesn't mean it's time to pack our bags and go home, feeling all bitter and twisted and justified that we 'tried'.

 

Try differently, keep trying and lighten up. Start by reading this:

 

http://www.yourtango.com/20087054/the-revenge-of-the-small-penis

 

And yes, nobmagnet, I'm not sure 'Coping' is quite the best forum, either.. gets us talking though, eh?

 

x

[DenverBachelor]

 

There is a ST Dev of 3 I believe... so there are a good portion of guys below and above this. Most guys over 6.5" are fewer... 7+"??? even less... 8"+? Yeah right.

 

From experience... women OVER estimate penis size. Trust me. Girls say I must be... 8 or 9"... in reality, I'm 6.9" x 5.2". Yes, I know I'm stating numbers online that I'm sure no one will believe. I'm telling you this now b/c if you can prove mental competency...

 

Did you really just post the size of your member down to a tenth of an inch on Loveshack? Oh wow ... words -- I can't find them.

 

Ps: On a normalized curve, 3 standard deviations contain approximately 99.7% of all possible members of the population (three sigma rule or 68-95-99.7 rule)

[bananaboat11]

Did you really just post the size of your member down to a tenth of an inch on Loveshack? Oh wow ... words -- I can't find them.

 

Ps: On a normalized curve, 3 standard deviations contain approximately 99.7% of all possible members of the population (three sigma rule or 68-95-99.7 rule)

 

 

Yup.

 

Not going to say any more DB. Outside the internet world.. Penis size is a big deal to guys. Thought I'd try and help the OP with confidence, but apparently I failed.

[Tatoc]

I'm not a massive Russell Brand fan but one thing I admire him for is making his small dick his badge of honour.

 

Even if we're talking acorn here, I suggest you learn to laugh about it before the next lady gets a chance to.

 

You never know, you might be bedding the likes of Kate Moss, next.

 

And, please Tatoc, give up your desire to hear a woman speak the words 'I want to find a man with a small penis and a heart of gold'. I seriously doubt we'll ever hear a woman say that or a man say 'I want to find a woman with a bucket fanny and a heart of gold'. But just because neither are on our wish lists, doesn't mean it's time to pack our bags and go home, feeling all bitter and twisted and justified that we 'tried'.

 

Try differently, keep trying and lighten up. Start by reading this:

 

http://www.yourtango.com/20087054/the-revenge-of-the-small-penis

 

And yes, nobmagnet, I'm not sure 'Coping' is quite the best forum, either.. gets us talking though, eh?

 

x

 

Thank you.

[Tatoc]

I have always considered myself a person with a lot of confidence, but after reading some of the sincere post on here, I realize that although I may be confident in every aspect of life, when it comes to being with a woman I am lacking confidence. I have also learned that the reason I'm lacking confidence is because I'm too worried about what the woman might think of my penis size.

 

So the conclusion is. (Please let me know if I'm wrong) As long as I give every effort to satisfy her, I should not be concerned with what she thinks about my penis size. (Although that really hurts) I should just dump her and find me another one, until I find one that is happy with what I have to offer.

 

I want to thank everybody that took the time to respond. Especially those that gave constructive advice.

 

 

 

Boy, that seems like such a simple solution. Why didn't I think of that Before.

[norajane]

All my life I have had resentment towards woman because of the way they have treated me.

 

With the first one I lasted 2 months.

 

It took me another 8 years before I could pick up the courage to ask out another lady.

 

We dated for 3 weeks.

 

I promised myself that I would never get involved romantically again.

 

We went out for 5 months. Then one day she asked me why I never made any sexual passes.

 

But I believe of have enough to make an understanding woman. The problem is, does this woman exist? And if she does, how do I find her without humiliating myself anymore?

 

After a 2 month relationship, it took you 8 years to ask another woman on a date?!!!? And after a 3 week "relationship", you decided to never date again? And when you did, you avoided sex altogether?

 

Honestly, I think that tells the story right there. You're far too sensitive and insecure, and I'm certain that shows through and is more of a turn-off than your penis size. Your shortcomings have more to do with attitude than penis size.

 

I dated a man with a small penis, and he was one of the best lovers I've ever had. His lovemaking started long, long before we ever got naked, though, which I think is the key as sex and sexual attraction starts in your head.

 

He's a confident man, and quite charming, and very sexual. I was never in doubt that he found me attractive as he made that clear from the start. Dates involved a lot of flirtation and teasing and tempting. Great sense of humor that always made me laugh, a Southern gentleman who always treated me like I was special, and he had no fear of humiliation or what others thought of him.

 

As an example, we were on a business trip one night and found ourselves in some college bar after dinner. No, we really didn't fit in there with our business clothes and laptops, and even though there was no dance floor and no one was dancing, he didn't hesitate to sweep me into a dance when a great song played, and he sang to me while we danced and made complete fools of ourselves. So when we finally ended up in bed and I saw his penis, size was the last thing I was concerned about because I was attracted to the man and how exhilarated and carefree and sexy he made me feel. And the sex was great. I'd still be with him if we weren't living and settled in different cities with no real ability to move.

 

Long story short, women fall in love with men, not their dicks. If you make a woman feel sexy and beautiful, she isn't going to reject your penis. Please understand that, while for men the penis is the center of their existence, for women, the penis is just one part of a man and not the most important part when it comes to sex.

[Tatoc]

After a 2 month relationship, it took you 8 years to ask another woman on a date?!!!? And after a 3 week "relationship", you decided to never date again? And when you did, you avoided sex altogether?

 

Honestly, I think that tells the story right there. You're far too sensitive and insecure, and I'm certain that shows through and is more of a turn-off than your penis size. Your shortcomings have more to do with attitude than penis size.

 

I dated a man with a small penis, and he was one of the best lovers I've ever had. His lovemaking started long, long before we ever got naked, though, which I think is the key as sex and sexual attraction starts in your head.

 

He's a confident man, and quite charming, and very sexual. I was never in doubt that he found me attractive as he made that clear from the start. Dates involved a lot of flirtation and teasing and tempting. Great sense of humor that always made me laugh, a Southern gentleman who always treated me like I was special, and he had no fear of humiliation or what others thought of him.

 

As an example, we were on a business trip one night and found ourselves in some college bar after dinner. No, we really didn't fit in there with our business clothes and laptops, and even though there was no dance floor and no one was dancing, he didn't hesitate to sweep me into a dance when a great song played, and he sang to me while we danced and made complete fools of ourselves. So when we finally ended up in bed and I saw his penis, size was the last thing I was concerned about because I was attracted to the man and how exhilarated and carefree and sexy he made me feel. And the sex was great. I'd still be with him if we weren't living and settled in different cities with no real ability to move.

 

Long story short, women fall in love with men, not their dicks. If you make a woman feel sexy and beautiful, she isn't going to reject your penis. Please understand that, while for men the penis is the center of their existence, for women, the penis is just one part of a man and not the most important part when it comes to sex.

 

I want to start by repeating some of what you said. ("He's a confident man, and quite charming, and very sexual. Dates involved a lot of flirtation and teasing and tempting. Great sense of humor that always made me laugh")

 

I do all of that and more. People say I have a great sense of humor. You say I stopped seeing first three girlfriends after they saw my penis. You must have not understood what I wrote. Because it was them who ended the relationship. I clearly wrote that when I wrote about my last girlfriend.

 

It seems like you are the kind of woman that a man like me would be happy with. But where you’re wrong is, to assume that every woman thinks like you. There are a lot of cruel, cold hearted people out there. Man and woman alike. I just have had the bad luck of associating myself with those kinds of people.

 

Thanks to all the people that responded to this post before you, I have learned that I have to get up whenever I get pushed down, and continue forward until I find my ideal mate.

[norajane]

I do all of that and more. People say I have a great sense of humor. You say I stopped seeing first three girlfriends after they saw my penis. You must have not understood what I wrote. Because it was them who ended the relationship. I clearly wrote that when I wrote about my last girlfriend.

 

No, I was incredulous at how long it took you to go out with another woman again. People are rejected all the time for all kinds of subjective reasons. But they don't stop dating because of it!

 

That you didn't ask another woman out for 8 years after a very, very brief 2 month relationship speaks volumes about your level of insecurity with women.

[goatboytone]

Tatoc I feel for you mate, some people on this thread seem a leetle insensitive. The fact that you have had so few experiences with women shows how terribly this situation must make you feel. That is not just something that should be pointed out in a scornful way. The thing about confidence is true though, you must not let what you perceive to be a problem come between you and happiness. I have a larger than average penis, but I don't have much confidence until I am actually in bed with a woman and this in itself has come between me and so many opportunities.

 

I'm heartbroken at the minute, the girl I loved left me and you know what? One of my fears is that she will find some one with a smaller penis as she was very small down below and sex was sometimes painful for her even though I'm not unusually large down there.

 

I hope that this makes you feel a little better, because writing it made me feel like sh*t.