squeaky Posted January 23, 2010 Share Posted January 23, 2010 We dated for 3 months then he broke up with me saying he wasn't ready for a relationship and he was afraid of getting hurt. That was 5 months ago and we have never really stopped hanging out. We talk everyday and we say that we're best friends. He's always nice to me, but lately he's been acting differently. Some things he's done/said in the past 3 weeks or so: - Asked me if I was dating anyone else. When I said no, he said he wasn't dating anyone either - Told me I was the most important thing in his life - Told me I looked nice when we hung out last night - Calls me everyday to tell me about his day and ask me about mine - Said that he recently realized how important relationship are in life - Constantly worries about upsetting me and says things like, "I hate that I hurt you in the past, I never want to hurt you." - I'll catch him looking at me and smiling, he also seems really happy when I compliment him or give him affection (just hugs and stuff) - He acts slightly jealous when I mention other guys But then last night he was at my house kind of late, and I told him he could stay over if he wanted. He said no way. I told him I'd sleep on the air mattress (I know he would agree that it would be inappropriate for us to sleep in the same bed since we're not dating). He still said no. He hasn't made any kind of move. I would tell him how I feel, but I'm afraid that I might be misinterpreting things and I DO NOT want to ruin our friendship. I feel like he still doesn't know what he wants, and I don't want to scare him off. Should I just wait and see what happens? Do you think he wants to get back together? Link to post Share on other sites
Patient Posted January 23, 2010 Share Posted January 23, 2010 To me those are signs he wants you back..but the best thing to do will be to talk to him about it...he obviously still has feelings for you its just up to you to try to see what he wants from you..he may be a little confused about what he wants and doesnt want to hurt you..knowing that he did in the past..I say continue the friendship..make it stronger and eventually get ready to have that talk... Link to post Share on other sites
Author squeaky Posted January 23, 2010 Author Share Posted January 23, 2010 Thank you, this is a good response! I don't know whether to pull back or show him more how I feel. I don't want to scare him away and I don't want to get hurt. It's so hard to tell what he's thinking, and I think sometimes he himself isn't sure how he feels. He seems really happy when I show him affection, and maybe that is the boost he needs to help him see what he wants. Then again, I'm afraid that if I push this too much, he'll be like, "whoa, wait, no." I don't know. Link to post Share on other sites
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