USMCHokie Posted February 1, 2010 Share Posted February 1, 2010 KELVIN!!! What's good buddy Erica... are you ok?!?!?! Hey Rob, just trying to live it up down here for a few more days...certainly been an interesting time...how have you been? Erica...what happened......? Link to post Share on other sites
Author bananaboat11 Posted February 1, 2010 Author Share Posted February 1, 2010 Kelvin? Walk the earth alone? Don't say that buddy... how old are you? Erica... sounds interesting... Link to post Share on other sites
USMCHokie Posted February 1, 2010 Share Posted February 1, 2010 I'm so glad you had fun! When are you planning on coming back? My weekend was interesting, to say the least Yeah, i'll be alright. I just need to get something removed from my body (that is all i'm saying about that, it's really embarassing) Hahah, very well...we'll leave it at that...and let our imaginations run wild!!! I think I'll be driving back up Tuesday morning...need to get a Sunday Funday in before I leave... Link to post Share on other sites
EricaH329 Posted February 1, 2010 Share Posted February 1, 2010 Hahah, very well...we'll leave it at that...and let our imaginations run wild!!! I think I'll be driving back up Tuesday morning...need to get a Sunday Funday in before I leave... Sounds like fun!! I'm so jealous! Link to post Share on other sites
USMCHokie Posted February 1, 2010 Share Posted February 1, 2010 Kelvin? Walk the earth alone? Don't say that buddy... how old are you? Erica... sounds interesting... Yea, I honestly believe so. I'm 26. Link to post Share on other sites
EricaH329 Posted February 1, 2010 Share Posted February 1, 2010 Yea, I honestly believe so. I'm 26. You're still young! The only way you'd end up being alone for the rest of your life is if you shut off everyone around you. I don't see you as that kind of person. So you have nothing to worry about. Link to post Share on other sites
Author bananaboat11 Posted February 1, 2010 Author Share Posted February 1, 2010 You're still young! The only way you'd end up being alone for the rest of your life is if you shut off everyone around you. I don't see you as that kind of person. So you have nothing to worry about. I've had those days... hmm Link to post Share on other sites
EricaH329 Posted February 1, 2010 Share Posted February 1, 2010 I've had those days... hmm We all do from time to time. The key is to remain positive, especially when it seems the toughest. Link to post Share on other sites
USMCHokie Posted February 1, 2010 Share Posted February 1, 2010 You're still young! The only way you'd end up being alone for the rest of your life is if you shut off everyone around you. I don't see you as that kind of person. So you have nothing to worry about. I know, I know...but I realized what is keeping me from getting over my ex and keeping me from wanting to meet someone new...my ex was the only person who honestly was "excited" about me, for lack of a better term...the only person who actually cared about me and showed that she wanted me in her life...and I don't feel like anyone will feel like that towards me again, so I'm disinterested in pretty much everyone... Last night at the bar, I had about 10 pounds of beads around my neck...it was actually bizarre looking and quite a pain in the ass to carry around...but it got a lot of attention, so I ended up talking with new girls every 4 or 5 steps I took...I'd say hi and talk to them for a little bit...and most normal guys would stick around and try to get a number or get laid for the night or whatever...and these were attractive girls that I would certainly date, but every time after about 30 seconds, I'd just say bye and walk away...it was like I was in an rush to get out of the conversation... I don't see an end to this in sight... Link to post Share on other sites
EricaH329 Posted February 1, 2010 Share Posted February 1, 2010 I know, I know...but I realized what is keeping me from getting over my ex and keeping me from wanting to meet someone new...my ex was the only person who honestly was "excited" about me, for lack of a better term...the only person who actually cared about me and showed that she wanted me in her life...and I don't feel like anyone will feel like that towards me again, so I'm disinterested in pretty much everyone... Last night at the bar, I had about 10 pounds of beads around my neck...it was actually bizarre looking and quite a pain in the ass to carry around...but it got a lot of attention, so I ended up talking with new girls every 4 or 5 steps I took...I'd say hi and talk to them for a little bit...and most normal guys would stick around and try to get a number or get laid for the night or whatever...and these were attractive girls that I would certainly date, but every time after about 30 seconds, I'd just say bye and walk away...it was like I was in an rush to get out of the conversation... I don't see an end to this in sight... There are a couple of things that really stood out for me. First -- Why wouldn't anyone else feel that way towards you again? Do you not feel as though you are worthy of being cared about? If you keep a positive attitude, I can promise you that someone will care about you again... and this time it'll be more real than the last. But if you carry around a negative attitude towards that sort of thing, well... us girls can smell that from a mile away. You are an awesome guy Kelvin, I don't see why you would have any problem with finding someone that cares about you! I think that the hardest part is finding someone that you care about in return. Second -- You and Rob are both amazing men. There seems to be this nagging feeling with the both of you though that craves love. Can you both be truly happy without being in relationships? Have you thought about it? No one can make you happy but yourself. When you put that task solely on another human being, you will be very very disappointed and let down in the end. You can't allow one single person to have that much power over you. You have to be happy on your own before you can be honestly happy with someone else. In the most healthiest way possible. I don't think either of you need to be in relationships to be happy. You both have soooo much going for you. You both should be very proud of your accomplishments, and the men you've both come to be. Link to post Share on other sites
USMCHokie Posted February 1, 2010 Share Posted February 1, 2010 There are a couple of things that really stood out for me. First -- Why wouldn't anyone else feel that way towards you again? Do you not feel as though you are worthy of being cared about? If you keep a positive attitude, I can promise you that someone will care about you again... and this time it'll be more real than the last. But if you carry around a negative attitude towards that sort of thing, well... us girls can smell that from a mile away. You are an awesome guy Kelvin, I don't see why you would have any problem with finding someone that cares about you! I think that the hardest part is finding someone that you care about in return. Second -- You and Rob are both amazing men. There seems to be this nagging feeling with the both of you though that craves love. Can you both be truly happy without being in relationships? Have you thought about it? No one can make you happy but yourself. When you put that task solely on another human being, you will be very very disappointed and let down in the end. You can't allow one single person to have that much power over you. You have to be happy on your own before you can be honestly happy with someone else. In the most healthiest way possible. I don't think either of you need to be in relationships to be happy. You both have soooo much going for you. You both should be very proud of your accomplishments, and the men you've both come to be. Erica, I wanted to respond this before I left, but it's time for Sunday Funday...I'll be back on to finish later tonight...thanks for the response... Toodles. Link to post Share on other sites
EricaH329 Posted February 1, 2010 Share Posted February 1, 2010 Erica, I wanted to respond this before I left, but it's time for Sunday Funday...I'll be back on to finish later tonight...thanks for the response... Toodles. Of course hun, have a good time!! Drink one for me! Link to post Share on other sites
Author bananaboat11 Posted February 1, 2010 Author Share Posted February 1, 2010 There are a couple of things that really stood out for me. First -- Why wouldn't anyone else feel that way towards you again? Do you not feel as though you are worthy of being cared about? If you keep a positive attitude, I can promise you that someone will care about you again... and this time it'll be more real than the last. But if you carry around a negative attitude towards that sort of thing, well... us girls can smell that from a mile away. You are an awesome guy Kelvin, I don't see why you would have any problem with finding someone that cares about you! I think that the hardest part is finding someone that you care about in return. Second -- You and Rob are both amazing men. There seems to be this nagging feeling with the both of you though that craves love. Can you both be truly happy without being in relationships? Have you thought about it? No one can make you happy but yourself. When you put that task solely on another human being, you will be very very disappointed and let down in the end. You can't allow one single person to have that much power over you. You have to be happy on your own before you can be honestly happy with someone else. In the most healthiest way possible. I don't think either of you need to be in relationships to be happy. You both have soooo much going for you. You both should be very proud of your accomplishments, and the men you've both come to be. Erica is right... last night I was at a dance party and it was a **** ton of fun... brought that hot friend of mine.. the second I left her with another guy.. I went out onto he dancefloor with my buddy and started being myself again... and randomly this girl just said "hey, who are you?" and started talking to me.. was nice. she was really cute too,I think... lol she then introduced me to her roommate... but the second I thought about nicole (my ex)... I don't know... I feel like her roommate sensed that or something... probably cock blocked myself LOL it also didn't help I was walking around with a 10/10 girl (my best friend) in my arms... so she cock blocked the fck out of me too LOL Link to post Share on other sites
EricaH329 Posted February 1, 2010 Share Posted February 1, 2010 Erica is right... last night I was at a dance party and it was a **** ton of fun... brought that hot friend of mine.. the second I left her with another guy.. I went out onto he dancefloor with my buddy and started being myself again... and randomly this girl just said "hey, who are you?" and started talking to me.. was nice. she was really cute too,I think... lol she then introduced me to her roommate... but the second I thought about nicole (my ex)... I don't know... I feel like her roommate sensed that or something... probably cock blocked myself LOL it also didn't help I was walking around with a 10/10 girl (my best friend) in my arms... so she cock blocked the fck out of me too LOL You should get her to be your wingman! Tell her when she talks to other girls to talk you up. It works like a charm! Yeah, when you think about your ex whether you realize it or not your whole attitude changes. I've always believed that when the time is right, something great will happen. You are not ready for anything serious right now, so that's not being provided for you. Take advantage of it! I don't mean go out and bang a million different girls... but go out and have fun! Make new friends, there's a ton of people in your area. Sometimes, just having company of the opposite sex is enough. Link to post Share on other sites
Author bananaboat11 Posted February 1, 2010 Author Share Posted February 1, 2010 You should get her to be your wingman! Tell her when she talks to other girls to talk you up. It works like a charm! Yeah, when you think about your ex whether you realize it or not your whole attitude changes. I've always believed that when the time is right, something great will happen. You are not ready for anything serious right now, so that's not being provided for you. Take advantage of it! I don't mean go out and bang a million different girls... but go out and have fun! Make new friends, there's a ton of people in your area. Sometimes, just having company of the opposite sex is enough. When I went from undergrad to grad school.. all my "boys" took off into the world... moved away. Most of my female friends stayed for grad school or introduced me to new female friends... so now I hang out with a lot of women... I have 3 or 4 close guy friends I hang with from time to time. I'm growing more comfortable with being single again (thanks to you,Kelvin, penelope...etc, etc..) I only fool around in a relationship... and I'm horny.. I bodybuild... test is up... Link to post Share on other sites
annxxdisaster Posted February 1, 2010 Share Posted February 1, 2010 I only fool around in a relationship... and I'm horny.. I bodybuild... test is up... UGH. You bodybuilders and your testosterone. I hate you, hate hate hate hate you. My ex lifted every day, cycled some combination of testosterone, HGH, and some other thing, didn't eat regularly on top of that. Boy, let me tell you he was as moody as I can be when I'm about to get my period. Nothing kept him happy, he was a total sour puss when he wasn't eating and taking his pills. It was so hard to handle. Link to post Share on other sites
Author bananaboat11 Posted February 1, 2010 Author Share Posted February 1, 2010 UGH. You bodybuilders and your testosterone. I hate you, hate hate hate hate you. My ex lifted every day, cycled some combination of testosterone, HGH, and some other thing, didn't eat regularly on top of that. Boy, let me tell you he was as moody as I can be when I'm about to get my period. Nothing kept him happy, he was a total sour puss when he wasn't eating and taking his pills. It was so hard to handle. I've never done AAS (Androgenic Anabolic Steroids), but i'll admit.. I was the same way when I used legal anabolics (Prohormones - which are NOW banned)... I'm just a fitness junkie now. Not a 'meathead'... don't have that SAME time as I once did as an undergrad while I'm in graduate school. I'm all about staying VERY fit.. addicted to fitness. When I used hormonal supplements... I tended to be moody... I was single when I cycled, though... for a reason. I study metabolism & endocrinology.. I knew what would happen. :| Link to post Share on other sites
GrayClouds Posted February 1, 2010 Share Posted February 1, 2010 USMC & BB why are you even pushing the idea of someone new? In your own words your not over your EX but yet you go out and wonder why women do not seem interesting, wondering if you will always be alone. Stop trying so hard to fill that hole, if you do not give yourself time to heal your just going to re-injure yourself. Link to post Share on other sites
annxxdisaster Posted February 1, 2010 Share Posted February 1, 2010 I've never done AAS (Androgenic Anabolic Steroids), but i'll admit.. I was the same way when I used legal anabolics (Prohormones - which are NOW banned)... I'm just a fitness junkie now. Not a 'meathead'... don't have that SAME time as I once did as an undergrad while I'm in graduate school. I'm all about staying VERY fit.. addicted to fitness. When I used hormonal supplements... I tended to be moody... I was single when I cycled, though... for a reason. I study metabolism & endocrinology.. I knew what would happen. :| As far as I know, he wasn't doing illegal ones--pills that you could pick up from GNC, but honestly...it's GNC. I don't know too much about supplements and stuff like that, but I do have a bit of knowledge on how drugs can affect your brain and what specific areas they target. (I'm educated too, I may not be in grad school YET but I will be in a year or two). I'm glad you're smart about taking them, or you restrict your usage to when you're single AND actually know a thing or two about what you're taking. I don't think he knew anything but it increases your testosterone and gets you bigger. Link to post Share on other sites
Author bananaboat11 Posted February 1, 2010 Author Share Posted February 1, 2010 USMC & BB why are you even pushing the idea of someone new? In your own words your not over your EX but yet you go out and wonder why women do not seem interesting, wondering if you will always be alone. Stop trying so hard to fill that hole, if you do not give yourself time to heal your just going to re-injure yourself. I'm not looking for someone new right now. Just looking to have fun. My own self-moralistic character forbids me from having anything sexual outside a relationship (just how I was raised.. instilled in my head. sucks, i know) I was actually set up on a blind-date/meet... went to a party the other night.. my hot female friend's friend whispered in my best friends ear that I'm hot and they should do this (IE introduce her friend and me).. we go over to the meet the friend... *I* thought the girl was cute. My hot friend pulls me aside, goes "Rob... you can do so much better..." and literally drags my ass out of the house. We go back to her place where a bunch of people are and just partied till 2am. heh Link to post Share on other sites
Author bananaboat11 Posted February 1, 2010 Author Share Posted February 1, 2010 As far as I know, he wasn't doing illegal ones--pills that you could pick up from GNC, but honestly...it's GNC. I don't know too much about supplements and stuff like that, but I do have a bit of knowledge on how drugs can affect your brain and what specific areas they target. (I'm educated too, I may not be in grad school YET but I will be in a year or two). I'm glad you're smart about taking them, or you restrict your usage to when you're single AND actually know a thing or two about what you're taking. I don't think he knew anything but it increases your testosterone and gets you bigger. Honestly.. I study energy metabolism... that may be his personality.. or he was using supplements he didn't tell you about. You can't buy the hormonal supplements, prohormones, or AAS at GNC... Vitamin Shoppe, Vitamin World... sorry sweetie. May have just been him? plus.. the hormonal stuff messes with your HPGA (Hypothalamic Pituitary Gonadal Axis) which affects certain gonadotropin hormones for sexual function/reproduction... ie LH + FSH which affect testicular function/size... (eg testicular atrophy) heh... his boys (not the penis) would've shrunk... typically with the average dosed cycle... so if they didn't... he probably wasn't on GH or Testosterone... Link to post Share on other sites
annxxdisaster Posted February 1, 2010 Share Posted February 1, 2010 Honestly.. I study energy metabolism... that may be his personality.. or he was using supplements he didn't tell you about. You can't buy the hormonal supplements, prohormones, or AAS at GNC... Vitamin Shoppe, Vitamin World... sorry sweetie. May have just been him? plus.. the hormonal stuff messes with your HPGA (Hypothalamic Pituitary Gonadal Axis) which affects certain gonadotropin hormones for sexual function/reproduction... ie LH + FSH which affect testicular function/size... (eg testicular atrophy) heh... his boys (not the penis) would've shrunk... typically with the average dosed cycle... so if they didn't... he probably wasn't on GH or Testosterone... I don't know what his nads looked like before he started taking that stuff, so I don't really have a way to tell if they shrunk or not. I'm sure his temperament was moody to begin with and coupled with not eating and focusing on the distance all the time, fatal for a relationship. Thank you though for your concern, I'm getting by without him okay. Seems like you're getting back down in a slump too over your ex, huh? I can offer some of my psychoanalysis skills if you ever want it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author bananaboat11 Posted February 1, 2010 Author Share Posted February 1, 2010 I don't know what his nads looked like before he started taking that stuff, so I don't really have a way to tell if they shrunk or not. I'm sure his temperament was moody to begin with and coupled with not eating and focusing on the distance all the time, fatal for a relationship. Thank you though for your concern, I'm getting by without him okay. Seems like you're getting back down in a slump too over your ex, huh? I can offer some of my psychoanalysis skills if you ever want it. it's a long, ****ed up story... but thanks I have a thread around in the breakup section... tells the whole f'd up story. Then there are multiple f'd up threads with me venting/being a whiny baby Link to post Share on other sites
annxxdisaster Posted February 1, 2010 Share Posted February 1, 2010 it's a long, ****ed up story... but thanks I have a thread around in the breakup section... tells the whole f'd up story. Then there are multiple f'd up threads with me venting/being a whiny baby Well I'm sure without reading it I can tell you she has daddy issues. ! And hey, no shame in whining about anything. Isn't that what this board is for? I guarantee you weren't as bad as I was with dealing with my first break up. God, I read some of the things I wrote in my journal and I just want to go back in time and slap that girl. Link to post Share on other sites
Author bananaboat11 Posted February 1, 2010 Author Share Posted February 1, 2010 Well I'm sure without reading it I can tell you she has daddy issues. ! And hey, no shame in whining about anything. Isn't that what this board is for? I guarantee you weren't as bad as I was with dealing with my first break up. God, I read some of the things I wrote in my journal and I just want to go back in time and slap that girl. I dare you to read it... LOL http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t216034/ then this... http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t216303/ then... http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t217613/ and then... http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t217201/ then... http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t217907/ and finally LOL http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t218961/ http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t219199/ Link to post Share on other sites
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