jmargel Posted December 30, 2003 Share Posted December 30, 2003 I was thinking of proposing to my girlfriend this spring, and looking at getting her a tiffany's ring. But they are really too expensive for me (new). However I saw one that someone is selling, which is beautiful, right size, etc.. at a reasonable cost. But, I take it, its used. What would you think if your bf were to give you a ring that has been worn like this? It was purchased in May. I would love to get her a new ring, but this $1,500 ring is valued like at $4,000. I guess she just wants to sell it. If I do buy this ring, should I tell my gf how I got it? Do you think this is bad karma? Thanks.. Link to post Share on other sites
Errol Posted December 30, 2003 Share Posted December 30, 2003 Unless the setting is damaged she will never know. Its not like buying a used car. Before you make a purchase get it appraised and get it insured. You know your gf -- is she a financially responsible person? Is she the type of person who wants everything new and does not see the value in buying used items? Is she quality vs. quantity? I know people who would rather have a smaller ring bought brand new than a larger ring bought second-hand just because they don't want to think that someone else ever wore the item -- especially if it came from a marriage that didn't work out---is your gf superstitious? I also know people who look at the value of the item and would consider that you wanted to get her the best ring you possibly could and would be thrilled. Think about how your gf might feel -- you may even want to confide in her mom and ask her opinion -- if her mom can keep a secret! Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted December 30, 2003 Share Posted December 30, 2003 I think you ought to be honest and discuss this with your girlfriend. You owe her that much. Some females would have no problem wearing a very nice, used ring while others would. It's totally in the mind but nevertheless a problem for some. You simply don't want to make a purchase like that and later have her find out...which she eventually would. A ring is a symbol and lots of people associate different meanings with them. Could be she will realize she'll be getting a much nicer ring if she goes along with the used one. If you want to see just how well you know her, guess what her answer will be before you discuss it with her. By the way, don't judge her whatever her decision. For some people, it has nothing at all to do with the money. They would just want to be the very first to wear a ring, notwithstanding the dozens who may have tried it on for size before them. But, whatever you do, discuss this with her. If you don't, you will regret it. If she's not happy discussing this or if she gets upset that you would even consider buying a used ring, you'll have many problems with her later. Link to post Share on other sites
Author jmargel Posted December 30, 2003 Author Share Posted December 30, 2003 Well, for xmas I bought her a ring from tiffany's but it wasn't an engagement. I told her with this ring it was a promise of my love and that I would be proposing to her this coming year. I told her I wanted to make sure I found the perfect ring, and she told me that I didnt even have to get her a ring that just asking is enough. So I would assume it would be ok with her. I'll talk with her about it and if she doesnt want one thats used I won't be upset. I would understand. I asked the seller why she was selling it, so i'm awaiting her response. Thanks for the advice. Link to post Share on other sites
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