garbeque Posted December 30, 2003 Share Posted December 30, 2003 My girfriend and i have been dating for about a year now and things seemed fine until she got this new job. Since then she has made some new friends, most of her friends are guy friends. She has become friends with one person in particular that has been troubling for me. He is a thirty year old man just finalizing his divorce as of yesturday. She says that he has been through hell and just needs a friend but i don't really think that is all he is looking for. My girlfriend is twenty and has allways been into older guys.. i am 34. They talk on the phone some I think more than i know but she insists that its not that much. He called her on christmas day and they talked for a little while 1/2 hour or so while we were out of town at her parents. Does that mean anything? They have known each other for about a month. Am i crazy to worry. She say's do you trust me? I say yes, but i wonder why she has to be involved with this man?Then night before last she got a ride from work from him untill i got off and could pick her up she went to his house. When i called to get directions to his house he offered to take her home I said ok. When she came home she brought him up so I could meet him, I was kinda cold and not very receptive of the guy. He hung out for about 20 minutes and then left. Yesturday my girlfriend goes to work and after she calls me and asks my opinion on a calender and says she is going to pick up some yoga stuff to increase her flexibility. Something that she says I will benifit from in the bedroom. She also has to pick up some sewing stuff to fix a skirt of hers. She got off at 6:30 and she was suppost to be running a little late that night because of these errands. Well she got home around 10:30 and said that she had been to 3 different stores looking for the stuff she needed to fix a skirt she had and called me at 9:45 saying that she had got lost and was on her way home but she left the rciept in her bag and the time of sale said 7:58. So it appears that she had finshed her shopping aroud 8 but she did not come home till 10:30. The store she bought the stuff from is 5 miles away not 120. What should i do i know i have been snooping to look at the reciept for time of sale. She asks me " do you trust me" but there is like 2.5 hours of lag time here. Do I bring it up and confront her with it or just trust her to be faithful. I dont know. Link to post Share on other sites
SoleMate Posted December 30, 2003 Share Posted December 30, 2003 You're NOT crazy to worry. You can go one of two ways: (1) disregard your suspicions and focus on your relationship as a whole, or (2) admit snooping and ask her flat out where she was. If you choose #2, stay calm and neutral in your tone, as if you are just asking an ordinary question. The one thing I wouln't do now is "trust her to be faithful". That would require putting your head in the sand big time. She may not have had sex with him, but it's nearly certain she has done or is doing something she doesn't want you to know about. Link to post Share on other sites
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