BF with an Internet Fling??? HELP!!!!!

[jester]

Thanks for bringing us back on topic, Mollyanna.

 

The internet multiplies the potential for communication --for both good and bad. Because talking over the internet is usually not involved, it's very possible that , as in your case, a wife or gf is home with her man, possibly in the same room, and he's chatting up another woman for a potential hook-up. All she hears is the tap-tap of his fingers on a keyboard. It's a keyboard seduction. He doesn't even have to go out and buy her drinks.

 

The communications technology increases the opportunities for "players" to play. Perhaps the problem is not so much porn but the technology that makes relationship divisive interests so easily available--such as other people, porn, gambling, shopping, gaming and discussion boards. These potentially heart, mind and wallet capturing activities can be performed in the comfort of one's own home, while the spouse's attention is elsewhere, with a minimum investment of time, energy and resources and little risk. Attention, energy and interest is drained from the IRL relationship. The internet as Vampire.

 

And I suspect as broadband becomes more available, and these seductions begin streaming into the home through multimedia applications, the attractions will only increase, along with the heartache and IRL relationship blood loss.

 

It almost makes one long for the safe, boring days when TV dominated the family--before all this high tech vampirism. Where's the garlic and crucifix?

[moimeme]

Rather, where are people capable of making, and sticking to, a commitment?

[ladyangel]

Jesus tells us specifically to “judge not” our fellow man, so that we “be not judged”. That “judgement” is the penalty if we judge. That is, the hardness of our heart to judge other people is reflected in our own judgement by a righteous and perfect God.

[Mollyanna]

I have a difficult time blaming technology for the failures of people to be honest and decent human beings.

 

Take for example, this camera phone thing. I just got one a few weeks ago. People have been coming out of the woodwork telling me that it will soon be against the law to have one. I don't do anything wrong with mine. Why should I be punished because there are some idiots out there who don't know how to behave with one? There are many items abused in society - alchohol, drugs, guns, motor vehicles come to mind first. Some of these items are needed for purposes that do not cause abuse. But sometimes people do use them to commit crimes on others. Does that mean we get rid of all of them?

 

We need to spend more time looking for ways to nurture our children in our homes and schools so they have a chance to grow up to not be disasters, and spend less times putting restrictions on technology.

 

*jumping down off my soapbox now*