ecco51 Posted January 30, 2010 Share Posted January 30, 2010 Hey guys, I have a question for you. Do you ever get harrassed by your family at all while you're in your relationships? My parents sometime nag and ridicule me for dating someone that only lives 5 hours away saying "its not natural", "its stupid". It really annoying, have you guuys been through this? And what did you guys do? Link to post Share on other sites
Rollercoasterr Posted January 30, 2010 Share Posted January 30, 2010 No. My family love Mathew almost more than they love me. And he's 15 hours, 1000 miles and a country border away. I think your family needs a slap in the face for being that way. My family and I would have a massive huge fight if they were to EVER say something like that to me. Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted January 30, 2010 Share Posted January 30, 2010 There are lots of people who think that way - this forum is proof enough of that. We'd hope that those nearest and dearest to us would be more understanding and supportive, but sometimes it just isn't so. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ecco51 Posted January 30, 2010 Author Share Posted January 30, 2010 Yeah, my family just doesn't understand why I'm doing this and they are so hard headed to ever change the way they think and what not. How do you guy usually get over it? Just ignore them Link to post Share on other sites
SuburbanOblivion Posted January 30, 2010 Share Posted January 30, 2010 Everyone goes through that in a LDR. SO and I are 17 hours and 4000 miles apart, and it's taken a good year for people to really *get* what we are doing and that we are serious about this. Link to post Share on other sites
Citizen Erased Posted February 1, 2010 Share Posted February 1, 2010 If my family don't like that I've found someone that makes me incredibly happy, no matter how far away he is, they can go take a long walk off a short plank. And that goes for anyone else. Link to post Share on other sites
Meaplus3 Posted February 1, 2010 Share Posted February 1, 2010 I went through the same thing with my college BF. While we attended the same school the fact that he lived very far away in another state.. made my parents questions things once school was to end. We were pretty serious at the time.. And I remember this made me sooooo mad. Things did not end up working out, but it was more because our goals in life did match up.. verses the distance. So yeah.. I've been there with the pressure from the folks. I even defied my folks and went to his hometown and stayed the entire summer. Mea:) Link to post Share on other sites
nrmommie Posted February 2, 2010 Share Posted February 2, 2010 i wonder if maybe your parents are just worried about you. my parents are very worried about my situation. it is a pretty new relationship, so i have not shared much with them yet. they haven't met him. but i know my mom is freaking out! she calls my sister about it quite a bit. i understand their concerns, he is military and i have kids, so it really makes things complicated, and i would have never, ever chosen this, but what does the heart care about these things? it is sad to me that your parents cant see how important this is to you.... maybe time will help, or not... Link to post Share on other sites
Author ecco51 Posted February 2, 2010 Author Share Posted February 2, 2010 Hey guys, well yeah I'm certain its bc they care about me, they're just old fashioned. A long time ago when I was 16 I had a gf that lived about an hour away, I had no car or money so my parents kinda looked at this as a ldr. It ended badky (not bc of the distance) and ever since then they've always been skeptic. I understand their concerncs but they're not the kind of people that just accept it right away which can be very annoying. They're scared that I'm wasting my time and holding myself from other girls and what not. I had a talk with them a day or 2 ago and since then they haven't really talked about it or brought it up. Hopefully over time they'll get use to it Link to post Share on other sites
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