westerland Posted January 31, 2010 Share Posted January 31, 2010 I'm not sure why, but I always found myself attracted to older girls/women, and I lost my virginity to a girl nine years older than me. My parents opposed very strongly to this relationship. Yes, I was young(er) and (more) stupid, and I thought she actually did love me as much as I loved her. It wasn't until much later that I realized she just wanted me for sex and one day it all fell apart. I was miserable, but I figured I was wiser from the experience. Time went by, and I always had more female friends than male friends, and I've always been flirtatious with them. (Which did get me in trouble a few times because of jealous boyfriends). I'd go out on dates with these lady friends, and I end up dating one of them for a year. I didn't know at the time, but she had a long distance boyfriend when we met. Him, coupled with my family not liking her and hers not liking me because we spent so much time together eventually put a huge strain on our relationship and we had to go through a very painful break up. Fast forward a couple years, and now I am a senior in college. Because of past experiences, I've been very cautious with relationships. I don't have a SO right now, although the closest to that would be a girl living three hours away. This past year or so I drove there to see her quite a few times, and we go out, have fun, fool around a bit but we actually talked about going to the next level and she says she doesn't to commit to a relationship because she doesn't even know if she'll be able to stay in the US, she doesn't want to get hurt, she doesn't want me to get hurt, and so forth. There are several other problems; she's three years older than me, which is sort of problematic because of our upbringing. My parents forbade me from dating any girl more than 2 years older than me. There's also the distance, and I feel that we don't have have very good chemistry after all. I sure don't HAVE to date, but I am feeling a huge void in my life, and even when i'm surrounded by people I feel completely alone. My best friend always encourages me to go to parties and "hook up," but when I tag along and go it doesn't feel right. So I just moved into a new apartment this week and I have a female roommate who is a girl from a small town with a very bubbly personality; she's like a mix of Meg Ryan and Julia Roberts. She's the nicest girl I've ever met. I am usually not very forward, but I feel I've made it too obvious. Maybe it's the void... I just can't take much more of this... What should I do? Link to post Share on other sites
TouchedByViolet Posted January 31, 2010 Share Posted January 31, 2010 The age issue really isn't that big of a deal, if you are compatible age is just a number. Not wanting to "hook up" randomly at a party is a positive sign. If you want a meaningful relationship you should probably not hook up the first time you meet someone. Take caution with your roommate. Maintain bounderies. It is important to keep your living environment as happy as possible. Link to post Share on other sites
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