txsilkysmoothe Posted February 6, 2010 Share Posted February 6, 2010 I had a male friend who met an Indonesian woman online. He traveled to Indonesia to meet her. They liked eachother and six months later he went back and married her. They spent the next two years apart, him living here and her there, until her paperwork was approved for her to enter the U.S. For him it wasn't about his preference for another culture or being tired of American women. It was just that the woman he connected with happened to live in another country. From what he shared with me, I wouldn't describe her as relationship-oriented or having more traditional values. He said she was "very sexual" in relating to men. In fact the two of them agreed that each could "play" (have other sex partners) during the two years they were waiting for her paperwork to be approved. I found it an odd way to start off a marriage. I think American men should be careful. For all of it's faults, the U.S. is still the desired destination for many around the world. Marrying a citizen is something some foreign women (and men) are willing to do. I know of a woman from Peru who entered the U.S. on a fiance visa. She had no intention of marrying that poor man and is now living in Florida with friends from Peru. ` Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted February 6, 2010 Share Posted February 6, 2010 During my period of traveling overseas as a single man, IME, the ex-pats were amongst the most respected of the 'mail-order' bride guys. In fact, one test we had of a woman was to offer to come to her country to live. The ladies I met in my travels vastly preferred to remain in their home countries, which makes sense, since their parents/families lived there and they would not have to uproot their children (if they had them). Only the gold-diggers wanted 'out'. Granted, this was nearly 15 years ago, but I think the principles are still valid. As for myself, I found the cultures I experienced (Eastern Europe/CIS at that time) and the men and women to be more compatible. It's a small world. We're all human. Enjoy Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted February 9, 2010 Share Posted February 9, 2010 I think American men should be careful. For all of it's faults, the U.S. is still the desired destination for many around the world. Marrying a citizen is something some foreign women (and men) are willing to do. I know of a woman from Peru who entered the U.S. on a fiance visa. She had no intention of marrying that poor man and is now living in Florida with friends from Peru. Silkysmooth, you don't understand. They don't want American women. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Disillusioned Posted February 9, 2010 Author Share Posted February 9, 2010 Silkysmooth, you don't understand. They don't want American women. Hardly surprising, considering that so many American women who came of age since the 1980s have a materialist mindset. Either they want a rich guy, or nobody at all, or maybe they don't know what they want. Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted February 9, 2010 Share Posted February 9, 2010 Hardly surprising, considering that so many American women who came of age since the 1980s have a materialist mindset. Either they want a rich guy, or nobody at all, or maybe they don't know what they want. It's too bad American men feel this way about American women; but, oh well, I hope they have a lovely trip and find what they want elsewhere. Maybe then they will stop complaining so much. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Disillusioned Posted February 9, 2010 Author Share Posted February 9, 2010 It's too bad American men feel this way about American women; but, oh well, I hope they have a lovely trip and find what they want elsewhere. Maybe then they will stop complaining so much. It must be nice to be in the control seat... Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted February 9, 2010 Share Posted February 9, 2010 It must be nice to be in the control seat... Control?, over what? The only thing I want to control are my decisions and actions. If something doesn't work for me I try to find other avenues. It's better than complaining and moaning about what I cannot control or have. Link to post Share on other sites
paleblue Posted February 11, 2010 Share Posted February 11, 2010 i know a couple guys who married women from other countries. they brought them over here. and no they are not submissive sex slaves. they are very respectable women. they said they looked elsewhere because they were so sick and tired of the women from this country being a pain in the a$$ over everything, they felt their only option was to look elsewhere. they're just normal guys. they have been happily married for more than 10 years. i am kinda jealous, altho i wouldnt do it myself. cant say that i havent thought about it : ) Link to post Share on other sites
burning 4 revenge Posted February 11, 2010 Share Posted February 11, 2010 The only place Id want to meet a foreign woman is Scotland Link to post Share on other sites
Author Disillusioned Posted February 11, 2010 Author Share Posted February 11, 2010 Heh... I find it pretty funny to imagine "the Hustler Abroad", trying to import his "find 'em, feel 'em, f*** 'em, forget 'em" philosophy to a foreign land... only to end up being chased down a dirt road by irate natives, cursing him to their pagan gods! Link to post Share on other sites
Malenfant Posted February 11, 2010 Share Posted February 11, 2010 i had a landlord once who went and got a japanese lady for a wife. it was an arrangement, no love involved. he wanted a wife, she wanted to live here in the UK. it does go on and you quite often see a 60 year old man with a 20 something asian women. but the funny thing was he delibrately wanted an asian lady because he thought she would be obedient and 'know her place' but she was the most high maintenance, rude and grumpy person i have ever met! i cant blame her because he was a knob but i think he got his just rewards for wanting a women for his selfish needs. Link to post Share on other sites
Eeyore79 Posted February 11, 2010 Share Posted February 11, 2010 If you're an unattractive man, your money alone can get you a much better class of woman in a poor country than you could ever get at home. You don't even need to have that much money - you can earn what would be considered an average salary at home, and a foreign woman will fall over herself to marry you because you're so rich in contrast to the men in her own country. The truth is, you never see hot/rich guys hunting for wives abroad, do you? Because they're swimming in hot chicks at home... The guys who hunt for wives abroad are usually the sort who can only score fat chicks at home, or who can't score any chicks at all. Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted February 11, 2010 Share Posted February 11, 2010 The truth is, you never see hot/rich guys hunting for wives abroad, do you? Because they're swimming in hot chicks at home... The guys who hunt for wives abroad are usually the sort who can only score fat chicks at home, or who can't score any chicks at all. Bingo!:bunny: Link to post Share on other sites
burning 4 revenge Posted February 11, 2010 Share Posted February 11, 2010 Bingo!:bunny: What if youre just turned on by Scottish dialects? Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted February 11, 2010 Share Posted February 11, 2010 What if youre just turned on by Scottish dialects? Go for it! Link to post Share on other sites
burning 4 revenge Posted February 11, 2010 Share Posted February 11, 2010 Go for it! But I might have to come home to haggis every night. Link to post Share on other sites
TravP Posted February 11, 2010 Share Posted February 11, 2010 I have lived and worked in SE Asia and have seen it all, there are different kinds of men out there. Some just want sex slaves, some are too fat/ugly to get an attractive girl in the west, some go there for the lifestyle and as there are not many western girls living there (and SE asian girls are so god damn gorgeous) inevitably end up with an asian girl. SE asian girls are not materialistic like in the west, and most really dont care about looks like most western girls(people). Link to post Share on other sites
Eeyore79 Posted February 11, 2010 Share Posted February 11, 2010 If they're not materialistic, and they don't care about looks, why do they date a guy? For his sense of humour?! I think they're still materialistic, but their standards are lower because of their poor backgrounds... so a guy with what would be considered average earnings by Western standards is still a good catch, even if he looks like the back end of a bus. Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted February 11, 2010 Share Posted February 11, 2010 Yeah, and once he brings her back to America she will soon want what other women have. He should stay there. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Disillusioned Posted February 11, 2010 Author Share Posted February 11, 2010 Unfortunately, in this economy, rich guys are getting harder to find, and not necessarily all of them are looking for a woman at all, let alone one who wants him to buy goodies for her. Why not settle for a guy who knows how to make do with what's available to him, instead of some guy with money and power who only wants more money and power? Link to post Share on other sites
Eeyore79 Posted February 11, 2010 Share Posted February 11, 2010 I don't want to make do with what's available to him; I want Chanel handbags Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted February 11, 2010 Share Posted February 11, 2010 Why not settle I'm sorry, you've uttered a prohibited word. I'm now deciding how to punish you; I think I shall flog you with Chanel handbags Link to post Share on other sites
Author Disillusioned Posted February 12, 2010 Author Share Posted February 12, 2010 I want a purple Maserati with gold-plated trim, but that doesn't mean I'm gonna get it. Unless my novel makes the Bestseller list... Link to post Share on other sites
Explorer Posted February 14, 2010 Share Posted February 14, 2010 I tried the option of going to another country to find a woman and I crashed and burned big time. I was always told by my American and Brazilian male friends that I would have an extremely easy time in Brazil finding an attractive woman that would date me. They said the women in Brazil are much more down to earth and approachable and less cold and stuck up than American women. They said that even an ugly guy like me could get an attractive woman in Brazil. But that stereotype was a debunked as nothing more than a big myth when I went down there. I got my hopes up for nothing and spent thousands of dollars down there for nothing. All of the Brazilian women down were stuck up to me and they all give me the cold shoulder as well. The women in Brazil were no different than their American counterparts in their attitude towards me. And it had nothing to do with language barrier because I speak fluent Portuguese. I remember I brought a Brazilian woman a very expensive perfume and flowers and she still acted like an ice queen towards me and treated me like $hit and broke my heart. That was the first and last time I will ever try to look for love in a foreign country. If you are an American man of below average looks and you want to go down there to find the woman of your dreams, do not believe the hype when it comes to Brazilian women. They will tear your heart out and stomp all over it. This brazillian woman I dated was quite the opposite. Actually opened my eyes to wanting to date women outside the states. She was gorgeous, loyal, honest, respectable, ambituous, verrrry sexual (Which is very common) ..she would be the type to want to pay for our meal when going out no matter how hard I fought ...it was totally cultural and not just her personality as her friends were the same ....if only we weren't thousands of miles apart... I do find that many women outside the states are quite different. They're usually more accepting with gender roles - i.e. always cleaning, cooking, their man's needs come first, loyal, respectable, more honest, etc which is soooooo much more attractive as a partner. I want a lady not a party girl or woman that thinks she's equal to man! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Disillusioned Posted February 14, 2010 Author Share Posted February 14, 2010 American women who are stuck-up and selfish are just like every other selfish person, they can't see themselves coming or going... they don't realize that if they don't ditch their selfish attitudes, they'll likely wind up in a nursing home instead of home sweet home. Not fun. Link to post Share on other sites
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