Wife not remorseful about affair...

[bentnotbroken]

I would have to disagree with this. I have seen several threads on LS where a woman is considering having an affair - even without a specific OM in mind.

 

 

You are so right. I have heard women say they that is was time for some variety and then go for it.

[zwieback.toast]

You are so right. I have heard women say they that is was time for some variety and then go for it.

 

 

Well...with respect to a couple of the posters in this thread--

 

samantha got herself a boyfriend from the gym in February; essentially dated him for several months; moved out of her home in June and got an apartment; and started having sex with her boyfriend/affair partner in June.

 

Now I assume that she deliberately invited him over and they took off their clothes prior to having sex. And of course, they did it time after time after time. Since she never claimed to have been raped, then it was consensual conduct.

 

She might not have planned anything but if so that's all one big heckuva conincidence.

 

Knock knock!

 

Samantha: "Who is it?"

 

Boyfriend: "It's me, can I come in?"

 

Samantha: "Sure but only if you promise not to have sex with me!"

 

Boyfriend: "OK, I don't want to have sex with you anyway."

 

(Door opens)

 

Samantha: "Hey you have no clothes on!"

 

Boyfriend: "Neither do you, what a conincidence."

 

Samantha: "Would you like to get in bed with me?"

 

Boyfriend: "OK, but only if you promise not to have sex with me."

 

Samantha: "Yes I don't want to have sex with you."

 

(Next morning)

 

Boyfriend: "Well see ya I had a horrible time though. Somehow when we were naked in bed together last night, we accidentally had sexual relations!"

 

Samantha: "Yes I was very disappointed that accidental occurrence happened. But the strange thing was that same accidental occurrence happened two more times last night and again this morning!"

 

Boyfriend: "OK well we'll have to be more careful next time."

 

Samantha: "OK bye-bye. Why don't you come over next Tuesday not to have sex with me?"

 

Boyfriend: "Sounds great!"

 

 

I'm sure it happened something like that.

 

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As for silverfish, we KNOW she planned to have sex with another man because she specifically SAID she motivated by her ex-H's affair.

[silverfish]

As for silverfish, we KNOW she planned to have sex with another man because she specifically SAID she motivated by her ex-H's affair.

 

 

Ok, forget answering my last post, because you just confirmed my suspicions that you are either very young, drunk, or have some sort of personality disorder.

[zwieback.toast]

As for silverfish, we KNOW she planned to have sex with another man because she specifically SAID she motivated by her ex-H's affair.

 

 

Ok, forget answering my last post, because you just confirmed my suspicions that you are either very young, drunk, or have some sort of personality disorder.

 

 

LMAO. Wrong x 3. Although I wish I was very young. I'm obviously not drunk. And to you silverfish, honesty is a personality disorder, so maybe that's what you meant?

 

Now you're changing your story again though. Now you're saying your relationship during your "separation" was NOT motivated by your ex H's affair? Please, give me a break. You can't keep your story straight from one post to the next.

[silverfish]

LMAO. Wrong x 3. Although I wish I was very young. I'm obviously not drunk. And to you silverfish, honesty is a personality disorder, so maybe that's what you meant?

 

Now you're changing your story again though. Now you're saying your relationship during your "separation" was NOT motivated by your ex H's affair? Please, give me a break. You can't keep your story straight from one post to the next.

 

You obviously aren't drunk to who? Its very telling that you brought up AA earlier, and now you've confirmed my suspicions.

 

Thats right...I'm a cheating lying slut, just like all women. Good luck with your marriage. BTW how does your W feel about you constantly posting on a relationship forum instead of spending time with her?

[Woggle]

I don't know how much planning goes into it because it varies from person to person but an affair doesn't just happen to anybody. A person chooses to have one and the fact these women choose to have an affair on their husbands shows that they don't really love them.

[moaningmyrtle]

LMAO. Wrong x 3. Although I wish I was very young. I'm obviously not drunk. And to you silverfish, honesty is a personality disorder, so maybe that's what you meant?

 

Now you're changing your story again though. Now you're saying your relationship during your "separation" was NOT motivated by your ex H's affair? Please, give me a break. You can't keep your story straight from one post to the next.

 

Zback - please give us all a break.

 

I "get" where you are coming from and I do confess I occasionally get a tiny bit of satisfaction from seeing some of the OW getting a dose from someone like you.

 

But please; enough is enough.

[zwieback.toast]

You obviously aren't drunk to who? Its very telling that you brought up AA earlier, and now you've confirmed my suspicions.

 

Umm...now you have an axe to grind with Alcoholics Anonymous? They're a fine organization.

 

Thats right...I'm a cheating lying slut, just like all women.

I didn't call you that, I never called you that, but for some reason you have a need to repeatedly call yourself that. I have no idea why. All I did was point out your inconsistencies about the details of your "back story." I guess it's safer for you to rage at me than at your mother, your father, your ex-H, or your ex-boyfriend.

 

Yes I read through some of your prior posts since you invited me to do so/criticized me for not reading things you had posted on other threads. There's a lot there, but from what I could skim quickly, you had an abusive father; you do not have any relationship with your mother; you had a relationship with a boyfriend after your marriage ended, but that's over with (I'm not sure why that ended, I'm sure it was your ex-bf's fault though); we know about the failure of your marriage; and right now, as you say, LOL, I'm not IN a relationship at all! I'm single. "Single and proud of it." Good for you.

 

 

 

 

Good luck with your marriage.

Good luck with your singleness.

 

 

BTW how does your W feel about you constantly posting on a relationship forum instead of spending time with her?

My wife's job is cooking me tasty meals, getting the shopping done, taking care of the kids, cleaning the house, getting herself ready for sexytime, and happily catering to my every need.

 

She doesn't worry about what I'm doing. She doesn't need to. It's not as if I'm getting drunk, kissing strange girls, throwing drinks over her head, or dragging my son around by the hair or anything.

 

Edit: Actually if you really want to know, right now my wife is out doing a youth activity with one of my children and I am at home with the other who is watching a video. I.e. we are "parenting" in a cooperative fashion, with no apparent drama.

 

It is a simple primitive unglamarous life yes I admit, but the more I read here the more fortunate I realize I probably am. It seems like so many people here, yourself included, want to maximize the angst in your lives to an unnecessary degree.

 

Not me. I'm content to stay home and do nothing. It's safer.

Edited February 6, 2010 by zwieback.toast

[zwieback.toast]

Zback - please give us all a break.

 

I "get" where you are coming from and I do confess I occasionally get a tiny bit of satisfaction from seeing some of the OW getting a dose from someone like you.

 

But please; enough is enough.

 

 

Is there something specific that's bothering you? Please let me know, and I'll be happy to address it.

[moaningmyrtle]

Is there something specific that's bothering you? Please let me know, and I'll be happy to address it.

 

It's the relentless diatribe.

 

Thank you for agreeing to address it.

[zwieback.toast]

It's the relentless diatribe.

 

Thank you for agreeing to address it.

 

 

OK as soon as the unfaithful women in the thread stop attacking me, we can wrap things up.

[silverfish]

Umm...now you have an axe to grind with Alcoholics Anonymous? They're a fine organization.

 

Well I wouldn't know, not being a drinker myself

 

I didn't call you that, I never called you that, but for some reason you have a need to repeatedly call yourself that. I have no idea why. All I did was point out your inconsistencies about the details of your "back story." I guess it's safer for you to rage at me than at your mother, your father, your ex-H, or your ex-boyfriend.

 

I haven't 'raged at you' - care to point out where I've done that? I called you out on insulting me, then when you finally seemed to be growing a pair to the point you could have a conversation, you reverted to type by insulting me again

 

Yes I read through some of your prior posts since you invited me to do so/criticized me for not reading things you had posted on other threads. There's a lot there, but from what I could skim quickly, you had an abusive father; you do not have any relationship with your mother; you had a relationship with a boyfriend after your marriage ended, but that's over with (I'm not sure why that ended, I'm sure it was your ex-bf's fault though); we know about the failure of your marriage; and right now, as you say, LOL, I'm not IN a relationship at all! I'm single. "Single and proud of it." Good for you.

 

I am single, so you made a mistake and either didn't read what I said, or deliberately misinterpreted it for your own reasons - feck knows what they are. So, where is your story? Why are you looking for ammunition on others here, instead of just living your life? You don't explain what 'qualifies' you to make such rash judgments on anyone else, anywhere.

 

I have a relationship with both my parents, and my ex's family (did you read that bit too?), just hasn't always been easy. Some of my posts are quite old, I have been posting here for over a year, as you know. I don't feel the need to update my life minute by minute on here - why would I?

 

 

My wife's job is cooking me tasty meals, getting the shopping done, taking care of the kids, cleaning the house, getting herself ready for sexytime, and happily catering to my every need.

 

Wow....so sorry for her, what a dull way to live. My ex never treated me like a servant (I don't believe a word of this BTW)

 

She doesn't worry about what I'm doing. She doesn't need to. It's not as if I'm getting drunk, kissing strange girls, throwing drinks over her head, or dragging my son around by the hair or anything.

 

Nope. You're far too busy taking out your pent up frustrations with women on LS instead. How does what you've read about me equate to your judgment of me - let me guess, you're going to continue to use it to berate me with - right?

 

 

Edit: Actually if you really want to know, right now my wife is out doing a youth activity with one of my children and I am at home with the other who is watching a video. I.e. we are "parenting" in a cooperative fashion, with no apparent drama.

 

Your kid is watching a video while you troll old posts of a woman you don't know, in order to try and make yourself feel superior about your life.

 

It is a simple primitive unglamarous life yes I admit, but the more I read here the more fortunate I realize I probably am. It seems like so many people here, yourself included, want to maximize the angst in your lives to an unnecessary degree.

 

Not me. I'm content to stay home and do nothing. It's safer.

 

Just stay at home doing nothing, because it's safer?

 

Your pent up anger is tenable, even though apparently nothing ever happens to you.You are spending far too much time on here trying and failing to antagonise me, for someone who has better things to do if what you say is true, which I don't believe for a second.

[zwieback.toast]

It's the relentless diatribe.

 

Thank you for agreeing to address it.

 

 

Well there's nothing I can do about silverfish.

[moaningmyrtle]

Well there's nothing I can do about silverfish.

 

No but you can do something about yourself.

[moaningmyrtle]

OK as soon as the unfaithful women in the thread stop attacking me, we can wrap things up.

 

Oops I missed this. To reiterate why not just do what you agreed to do - ie address the issue, instead of setting yourself up to respond to every perceived attack on you.

[zwieback.toast]

Oops I missed this. To reiterate why not just do what you agreed to do - ie address the issue, instead of setting yourself up to respond to every perceived attack on you.

 

 

What's your problem exactly?

Edited February 6, 2010 by zwieback.toast

[zwieback.toast]

No but you can do something about yourself.

 

 

LOL. OK. You're upset about something. What is it?

[moaningmyrtle]

What's your problem exactly?

 

Hmm... I already said it's the relentless diatribe.

 

Naturally I have other problems too but at the moment they are unrelated.

[moaningmyrtle]

LOL. OK. You're upset about something. What is it?

 

OK... just go ahead as you were.

 

I'll just exercise my right not to read (or maybe just skim) as I choose.

 

Thought I'd at least try asking nicely first though.

 

Good luck.

[zwieback.toast]

Umm...now you have an axe to grind with Alcoholics Anonymous? They're a fine organization.

 

Well I wouldn't know, not being a drinker myself

 

Why did you stop? Did it have anything to do with your relationship issues? In any event, you've never heard of AA? That's odd. I thought everyone knew about it.

 

 

 

I haven't 'raged at you' - care to point out where I've done that? I called you out on insulting me, then when you finally seemed to be growing a pair to the point you could have a conversation, you reverted to type by insulting me again

 

OK so you're not angry anymore? Great.

 

 

I am single, so you made a mistake and either didn't read what I said, or deliberately misinterpreted it for your own reasons - feck knows what they are. So, where is your story? Why are you looking for ammunition on others here, instead of just living your life? You don't explain what 'qualifies' you to make such rash judgments on anyone else, anywhere.

 

Qualifications? Does an intact marriage count?

 

I have a relationship with both my parents, and my ex's family (did you read that bit too?), just hasn't always been easy. Some of my posts are quite old, I have been posting here for over a year, as you know. I don't feel the need to update my life minute by minute on here - why would I?

 

Why would you tell me to read your old posts when you know that they contain outdated info?

 

 

"My wife's job is cooking me tasty meals, getting the shopping done, taking care of the kids, cleaning the house, getting herself ready for sexytime, and happily catering to my every need."

 

Wow....so sorry for her, what a dull way to live. My ex never treated me like a servant (I don't believe a word of this BTW)

 

Well I don't treat her that badly. Sometimes I will tell her to leave the dirty dishes soak in the sink overnight so we have more time for sex in the evening. The added bonus is that soaking overnight makes it easier for her to scrub the dishes the next morning.

 

 

 

Nope. You're far too busy taking out your pent up frustrations with women on LS instead.

 

Egad.Just contemplating that is giving me erectile dysfunction.

 

How does what you've read about me equate to your judgment of me - let me guess, you're going to continue to use it to berate me with - right?

 

No you're right, you're livin' the dream.

 

 

 

Your kid is watching a video while you troll old posts of a woman you don't know, in order to try and make yourself feel superior about your life.

 

Why would I feel superior? It's obvious that my wife is nothing but an enslaved servant; your ex is a much better husband and father than myself; and your life is superior in every way to my own. You've made that very clear. I agree with you. But, we're doing the best we can.

 

 

 

 

Just stay at home doing nothing, because it's safer?

 

Yes. I like staying at home.

 

Your pent up anger is tenable, even though apparently nothing ever happens to you.You are spending far too much time on here trying and failing to antagonise me, for someone who has better things to do if what you say is true, which I don't believe for a second.

 

What better things do you think I should be doing right now? You're doing the same things as I am, posting on loveshack, and you've proven that you have a much more interesting, exciting, and better life than I do.

 

If it's good enough for a remarkable person like you, why wouldn't it be good enough for lesser folk such as myself?

[silverfish]

Umm...now you have an axe to grind with Alcoholics Anonymous? They're a fine organization.

 

Well I wouldn't know, not being a drinker myself

 

Why did you stop? Did it have anything to do with your relationship issues? In any event, you've never heard of AA? That's odd. I thought everyone knew about it.

 

 

OK, lets just take this exchange as lesson in your communication style.

 

You referred to AA as a 'fine organisation'. I said :

 

Well I wouldn't know, not being a drinker myself

 

Meaning : I wouldn't know if it was a fine organisation.

 

And from that you inferred

 

you've never heard of AA? That's odd. I thought everyone knew about it.

 

 

You had the same problem earlier when I pointed out that you had insulted me. Its strange, because sometimes you come across as quite intelligent, then you let yourself down with the anger and insults.

 

I'd say that misinterpretation is your problem though. If you do this a lot IRL, it must cause problems for you. You get angry and insult to cover that up.

 

I realise that you're doing it in here on purpose in order to get a rise, but really, because you get the facts of what was said so wrong, it doesn't work. It's a bit like when children get mad and repeat things they've heard adults say but get it slightly wrong - its actually quite amusing to listen to (they get even madder if you laugh though).

 

Seriously though, if you are married (I'll play along), you should consider doing something about your communication skills, you might find that you have an underlying problem that's never been diagnosed. An ex employee of mine got diagnosed with ADHD a few years ago, and he had a similar communication style to you.

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Your pent up anger is tenable, even though apparently nothing ever happens to you.You are spending far too much time on here trying and failing to antagonise me, for someone who has better things to do if what you say is true, which I don't believe for a second.

What better things do you think I should be doing right now? You're doing the same things as I am, posting on loveshack, and you've proven that you have a much more interesting, exciting, and better life than I do.

 

Its not for me to tell you how to live your life. Why would I do that, it would be pretty immature to be so patronising right?

I never claimed to have an interesting, exciting, or better life than you....if that's what you want to deduce from reading my posts, then fine, I'm flattered. However you have continually tried to point out to me that you are the better person, which you aren't

[Samantha0905]

I would have to disagree with this. I have seen several threads on LS where a woman is considering having an affair - even without a specific OM in mind.

 

You are so right. I have heard women say they that is was time for some variety and then go for it.

 

That surely is the case in some instances, but it doesn't mean ALL women do this.

 

I don't know how much planning goes into it because it varies from person to person but an affair doesn't just happen to anybody. A person chooses to have one and the fact these women choose to have an affair on their husbands shows that they don't really love them.

 

I disagree. I love my husband very much. I do agree it's a choice and doesn't "just happen."

 

Zback - please give us all a break.

 

I "get" where you are coming from and I do confess I occasionally get a tiny bit of satisfaction from seeing some of the OW getting a dose from someone like you.

 

But please; enough is enough.

 

I think all people on here -- regardless of whether they are a WS, BS, OM and OW -- post in some way to vent at times. People occasionally lash out and well, it's understandable. It's a type of therapy. The level to which toast has sunk, however, is pathetic.

[delirious]

Well I don't treat her that badly. Sometimes I will tell her to leave the dirty dishes soak in the sink overnight so we have more time for sex in the evening. The added bonus is that soaking overnight makes it easier for her to scrub the dishes the next morning.

 

 

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Nope. You're far too busy taking out your pent up frustrations with women on LS instead.

 

Actually the time he spends on here with his mysogyny I bet his wife is out screwing someone else and he has no idea LOL

[Tony]

This thread has become a dispute between two members which has caused it to devolved into an unproductive, unhelpful, thread. I am sorry this has happened. I do hope all who participated got something out of it. I have deleted a number of posts here but, unfortunately, I am way to busy to go far back to see just when this dispute arose.

 

Thank you for participating here. I do hope the OP was sufficiently helped by the people who did stay on topic and were courteous in their responses.