You should approach women at many places as possible

[MissJoness]

why is it that so many ppl advise men NOT to approach women at the grocery market, retail stores, etc? If you don't use this as an opportunity to meet somebody it becomes very hard to date. I've met men while I was pumping gas, shopping at Walmart, the grocery market, library. This is how you meet people. Heck, even whiledriving down the street sometimes a guy will signal for me to pull over so he can get my number.

I had a friend who met her boyfriend while she was shopping at a local pharmacy. He asked her for her number, and they hit it off from there.

 

Maybe its the area but men are always doing this and these are the type of men who get girlfriends.

[alphamale]

very few people i've talked to have met this way. if it was as simple as this no one would be single

[meerkat stew]

Heck, even whiledriving down the street sometimes a guy will signal for me to pull over so he can get my number.

 

The rest is fine, but this one will get a guy reported to cops and arrested where I live.

[DiscoChick]

The rest is fine, but this one will get a guy reported to cops and arrested where I live.

 

:lmao: Not to mention shot or stab if he gets too close.

[alphamale]

most women are so afraid about their personal saftey out in public that they won't even make eye contact and have their self-defence "wall" up

[alphamale]

Alpha,

 

I believe you're mistaken. It may be a low percentage way of meeting someone, however, the opportunities are limitless, and the risk is low if you're not a complete jerk.

i see tons of people hitting on others at parties and bars but i have yet to see some guy trying to hit on a girl at the library or TJ Maxx

[Johnny M]

why is it that so many ppl advise men NOT to approach women at the grocery market, retail stores, etc? If you don't use this as an opportunity to meet somebody it becomes very hard to date. I've met men while I was pumping gas, shopping at Walmart, the grocery market, library. This is how you meet people. Heck, even whiledriving down the street sometimes a guy will signal for me to pull over so he can get my number.

I had a friend who met her boyfriend while she was shopping at a local pharmacy. He asked her for her number, and they hit it off from there.

When I go to the grocery store, I go there to buy food, not chat with women. What do you expect me to do - stand in the middle of the produce section with a big smile on my face and greet women with lines like "geez, those are some nice melons" or "I really like your choice of cucumber"??

 

Likewise, when I'm pumping gas, I just want get done with it so I could get back into my car and go about my business. I'm sure as hell not going to hang out at the gas station looking for women to approach. And as for pulling over in traffic just so you could get some broad's phone number - are you kidding me?? Traffic is bad enough as it is...can you imagine what it would be like if everyone was doing what you're suggesting?

 

In any event, why are you bitching about something that men aren't doing? Just because we are men does not mean it's out job to chase women. If you are not getting approached often enough, maybe you should do something about. Like, you know, start approaching men yourself? Men and women have equal right, remember? There's no one stopping you from exercising your right to make the first move.

[alphamale]

i'll start another thread to see how many men have successfully approached a woman in public and gotten a date

[Green]

i'll start another thread to see how many men have successfully approached a woman in public and gotten a date

 

I once got a date by asking out my waitress at a resteraunt... does that count? I agree with this post though don't be afraid to approach women in public as long as you are respectful about it if you are rejected.

[threebyfate]

OP, don't be encouraging men to hit on women at the gym. It's got to be the worst place to chat someone up.

[boogieboy]

why is it that so many ppl advise men NOT to approach women at the grocery market, retail stores, etc? If you don't use this as an opportunity to meet somebody it becomes very hard to date. I've met men while I was pumping gas, shopping at Walmart, the grocery market, library. This is how you meet people. Heck, even whiledriving down the street sometimes a guy will signal for me to pull over so he can get my number.

I had a friend who met her boyfriend while she was shopping at a local pharmacy. He asked her for her number, and they hit it off from there.

 

Maybe its the area but men are always doing this and these are the type of men who get girlfriends.

 

Women WANT to be approached in public when the circumstances are perfect.

 

When they are single, in a good mood, and the guy is good looking.

 

When the guy isnt their type, they dont want to be approached. This isnt news.

[threebyfate]

Women WANT to be approached in public when the circumstances are perfect.

 

When they are single, in a good mood, and the guy is good looking.

 

When the guy isnt their type, they dont want to be approached. This isnt news.

I will agree with this, except to state that good-looking should be replaced with attractive, since good-looking is a subjective term.

[OpenGL]

very few people i've talked to have met this way. if it was as simple as this no one would be single

 

Excellent way to put it.

[D-Lish]

This is how you meet people. Heck, even whiledriving down the street sometimes a guy will signal for me to pull over so he can get my number.

 

Did he ask for your liscense and registration too?

Did he have a uniform on?

 

I had a friend who met her boyfriend while she was shopping at a local pharmacy. He asked her for her number, and they hit it off from there.

 

We're they both in line for Valtrex?

I guess it could be a good place to find common interests.

[threebyfate]

Did he ask for your liscense and registration too?

Did he have a uniform on?

 

I had this happen to me a few years ago. The guy thought he was a replica of Vin Diesel, shaved bald, so fast, so furious! I hit the gas and did some maneuvering in traffic and lost him. He wasn't so fast but I suspect he was furious.

 

So, no, this kind of approach isn't a wise idea.

[SoulSearch_CO]

I totally agree. EVEN if you don't get a date out of it, it's good practice on just TALKING to women. Eventually you'll get to the point where the rejection doesn't sting and you'll be MUCH more natural in talking to women and the confidence will shine through.

[randall]

I've observed a couple of guys I know hit on virtually every woman they can get the attention of. It's embarassing to watch them due to their 100% fail rate. I have never seen them get even a reasonably positive reaction to their approaches. It doesn't help that these guys aren't that exactly good looking. They never used to do this but at age 30 and still single they are nearing 'peak desperation'.

 

If they were attractive they'd get much better reactions from women. But then again, if they were attractive enough to get good responses from cold approaches they'd already have girlfriends.

[tincanman99]

This raises an interesting question. Women wonder why men dont talk to them well here it is.

 

We have been told not to do it. You are not supposed to hit on them in gyms, supermarkets, bookstores, department stores, the street and just about everywhere else where exactly are you supposed to meet them? Bars? Clubs? Classes?

 

So what are the official designated places to meet women ? Give me a break.

 

Of course there is the paranoia factor which is stoked by the media. You have a higher probability of being annoyed than attacked but America is hyper conscious about safety, security and other stuff so strangers are a big no-no.

 

I had a friend that used to pick women up on the street in NYC. If you got your rap down and the guts its not that hard. I was always too self conscious to do it but he had nerves of steel. He used to tell me, dont over think it. Who cares what they think if they dont like it. I never could get past it though.

 

I think if you are friendly, non-threatening and attractive its possible.

[counterman]

Yes, I think attractive people would have more success when it comes to getting dates by asking women out in public.

 

In saying that, I strongly agree with soul search. If you just keep going at it, you will feel more comfortable with the idea of talking to women and rejection won't hurt as much. It will definitely be more natural, rather than forced (where you have to think all the time about what to say).

[MissJoness]

i see tons of people hitting on others at parties and bars but i have yet to see some guy trying to hit on a girl at the library or TJ Maxx

just because you don't see it doesn't mean it doesn't exist. I've had it happen before. At the library I've had a guy slip his number to me telling me to call him.

 

Maybe its a cultural thing but these things are very common where I'm from. Some areas the men are more fresh & not afraid to approach women if they find her attractive.

[MissJoness]

This raises an interesting question. Women wonder why men dont talk to them well here it is.

 

We have been told not to do it. You are not supposed to hit on them in gyms, supermarkets, bookstores, department stores, the street and just about everywhere else where exactly are you supposed to meet them? Bars? Clubs? Classes?

 

So what are the official designated places to meet women ? Give me a break.

 

Of course there is the paranoia factor which is stoked by the media. You have a higher probability of being annoyed than attacked but America is hyper conscious about safety, security and other stuff so strangers are a big no-no.

 

I had a friend that used to pick women up on the street in NYC. If you got your rap down and the guts its not that hard. I was always too self conscious to do it but he had nerves of steel. He used to tell me, dont over think it. Who cares what they think if they dont like it. I never could get past it though.

 

I think if you are friendly, non-threatening and attractive its possible.

Agreed.

 

In large urban metropolitan areas this is very common. Men will see an attractive woman and ask her for her number. This is how you meet women. Not everybody is gonna wait till they get to a party or bar, just to talk a woman. Maybe some of the ppl live in more conservative areas where this is unusual. Even when you walk into a gas station to pay for gas, the men will say 'good morning' and try to initate chit chat with you. Its no big deal

[Woggle]

I thought women considered this sexual harrassment these days.

[homersheineken]

I thought women considered this sexual harrassment these days.

 

A lot of women do. That's why you post your bail and move on to the next girl

[MissJoness]

I thought women considered this sexual harrassment these days.

You are taking it to the extreme. That is not considered sexual harassment to approach a woman, and ask for her number. You cannot really be that uptight.

 

A lot of women do. That's why you post your bail and move on to the next girl

 

No a lot of women do not consider that sexual harassment.

[homersheineken]

 

 

No a lot of women do not consider that sexual harassment.

 

Uh, this was a joke...