Nikki88 Posted February 1, 2010 Share Posted February 1, 2010 Hey guys, I am entering into an LDR...and while I am the happiest I have been in a long time, I can't help but be nervous. A little history: I got a friend request on facebook a while back that put the biggest smile on my face...I was from my brothers best friend S. I had been infatuated with this kid since I was probably 16. Anyway, we started chatting every night...soon he told me that he had had a crush on me for years!!! I just started laughing and told him I had felt the same way. It all began that night. I am from VT and all of my family is still there. I am now living in NH so S and I are about 2 hours away by car....which isn't horrible, but our situation isn't easy. We both have a child, my son is 5 and his daughter is 10. We both know we want to be together...but exactly when that can happen is kind of up in the air. At the moment we are seeing each other every other weekend when we don't have our kids. I'm sure eventually sometime soon we will start doing things all together (both of our children get attached to people very easily so we wanted to be sure that we were going to be together before bringing children into our relationship). I have been through a lot of tough relationships and I am feeling so positive about this one. I had given up and just didn't care anymore about finding "the one" when S came along....it was completely out of the blue and still to this day amazes me because of how long I have liked him! It's so hard though not knowing what the future holds. Anyway, so far things are going well...I just wanted to introduce myself and my story:) Nikki Link to post Share on other sites
nrmommie Posted February 2, 2010 Share Posted February 2, 2010 wow nikki, our situations seem to be very similiar! i also just started a ldr, on christmas to be exact, and we are two hours away. i have one still at home, she is 11 and he has a 13 year old. we see each other every week, so we have added the kids way earlier than i normally would have. my daughter and i just met his daughter this weekend. we are doing a lot of things much sooner than i would have thought. this is my first ldr ever. i am not good at it! i met him (from match.com) actually hoping and expecting that there would be something terribly wrong with him, so that i could just get past it. instead i fell in love. we are not sure how we are going to make this work either, as he is military, so not only can he not come my way, he is deploying next january. i guess that is why we seem to have everything on fast forward. but i believe that god put him in my life, so he will help us find a way.... i would say the same for you. it is hard being happier than i have ever been, and at the same time more melancholy because saying goodbye every sunday is just so hard.... it is terrifying and amazing all at once! jules Link to post Share on other sites
EricaH329 Posted February 2, 2010 Share Posted February 2, 2010 It won't be easy, in fact it'll be very hard at times. It's something that the both of you will have to work on, and compromises will have to be made on both parts. If it ends up working out, though, it'll be extremely rewarding. It'll create such a bond between the both of you, and make your relationship a very strong one. I was in an LDR, but I had the opportunity to live with him before it became an LDR. He is in another country, in the military. He is living there for the next 2 years. It got to a point where neither of us could deal with it, and broke up. Now we are realizing that the love we have for eachother is worth working on, no matter how far apart from eachother we are. Good luck, and I wish you the best!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Nikki88 Posted February 2, 2010 Author Share Posted February 2, 2010 wow nikki, our situations seem to be very similiar! i also just started a ldr, on christmas to be exact, and we are two hours away. i have one still at home, she is 11 and he has a 13 year old. we see each other every week, so we have added the kids way earlier than i normally would have. my daughter and i just met his daughter this weekend. we are doing a lot of things much sooner than i would have thought. this is my first ldr ever. i am not good at it! i met him (from match.com) actually hoping and expecting that there would be something terribly wrong with him, so that i could just get past it. instead i fell in love. we are not sure how we are going to make this work either, as he is military, so not only can he not come my way, he is deploying next january. i guess that is why we seem to have everything on fast forward. but i believe that god put him in my life, so he will help us find a way.... i would say the same for you. it is hard being happier than i have ever been, and at the same time more melancholy because saying goodbye every sunday is just so hard.... it is terrifying and amazing all at once! jules Our stories are pretty similar...my relationship happened very fast as well and it was the last thing I expected. I think for me it's because he and I have technically known each other since I was very young...as my brother and I 5 1/2 years apart. But I too believe he was brought into my life for a reason and I couldn't let this opportunity pass my by. Hopefully things will continue to go well for both of us Link to post Share on other sites
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