Woman In Blue Posted February 7, 2010 Share Posted February 7, 2010 Both, and it is not sad, it is liberating. LOL. Or self-serving. Take your pick. Link to post Share on other sites
jennie-jennie Posted February 8, 2010 Share Posted February 8, 2010 LOL. Or self-serving. Take your pick. Are you questioning whether an entire country is self-serving now? Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted February 8, 2010 Share Posted February 8, 2010 I can remember the good times from my first marriage and I look back on them fondly but it was a kick in the gut when I found out it was all a lie. To find out that you devoted your life and your heart to a lie is one of the worst pains a person can feel. Link to post Share on other sites
anne1707 Posted February 8, 2010 Share Posted February 8, 2010 Who's presuming? I was just talking out of my own experience, where I see religion being important to the American people overall, whereas it is pretty insignificant in my country. What I meant is that religion influences the way you look at marriage and divorce, but that is not true for us. Do you mean organized religion or a relationship with God or both? I think that's sad. Both, and it is not sad, it is liberating. LOL. Or self-serving. Take your pick. Are you questioning whether an entire country is self-serving now? I think JJ your posts implied your entire country shared your views pretty much , It really is as good as impossible for anybody to contribute to this discussion because you refuse to state which country you are from. However I really do doubt that anybody would be able to figure out who you are if you divulged such information. Link to post Share on other sites
Author MARINE_ONE Posted February 8, 2010 Author Share Posted February 8, 2010 I can remember the good times from my first marriage and I look back on them fondly but it was a kick in the gut when I found out it was all a lie. To find out that you devoted your life and your heart to a lie is one of the worst pains a person can feel. So true. I feel like I wasted 12 years of my life on her. By the way, for those that care she left the kids all weekend again. She was supposed to be back today, but I guess she decided whatever she is getting from the guy this weekend is too good to go home and spend some time with her kids. She hasn't spent a weekend day with the kids since she started seeing this guy. At least she has shown me the selfish loser she really is. I don't ever have to worry that I would make a mistake and take her back, so I guess I should thank her for that. Link to post Share on other sites
jennie-jennie Posted February 8, 2010 Share Posted February 8, 2010 (edited) I think JJ your posts implied your entire country shared your views pretty much , It really is as good as impossible for anybody to contribute to this discussion because you refuse to state which country you are from. However I really do doubt that anybody would be able to figure out who you are if you divulged such information. I sent you a PM, so hopefully we can stop this trying to pull more information out of me than I am willing to provide. I have never seen anyone question OWoman's posts in this manner, although she also does not state which country she is from and provides information about her perception of the situation in her home country. I believe she does not even state which continent, only Asia or Africa. Considering that, I can only see it as a dig at my credibility and an effort to quiet me to repeatedly go on about what country I am from. Edited February 8, 2010 by jennie-jennie Link to post Share on other sites
anne1707 Posted February 8, 2010 Share Posted February 8, 2010 I sent you a PM, so hopefully we can stop this trying to pull more information out of me than I am willing to provide. I have never seen anyone question OWoman's posts in this manner, although she also does not state which country she is from and provides information about her perception of the situation in her home country. I believe she does not even state which continent, only Asia or Africa. Considering that, I can only see it as a dig at my credibility and an effort to quiet me to repeatedly go on about what country I am from. I have PMd you too - but you are so very wrong on this. I just think a discussion is restricted if not all facts are available. I think this all started because you made reference to Europe when you should have only referred to your country. To be honest, I am not interested where you are from. Link to post Share on other sites
jennie-jennie Posted February 8, 2010 Share Posted February 8, 2010 (edited) I have PMd you too - but you are so very wrong on this. I just think a discussion is restricted if not all facts are available. I think this all started because you made reference to Europe when you should have only referred to your country. To be honest, I am not interested where you are from. All facts are never available on LS. We only have what the posters are willing to tell us. So in that sense all discussions here are restricted. As OWoman points out in another thread, the environment here is by many not considered safe but in fact hostile, so this most likely leads to people being careful with what they disclose here. Because of this, we should be aware that we might not be given the entire story. I am still certain that serial monogamy is not a term in use only in my country, even if the way I expressed myself in the post in question was a bit sloppy. I will continue to refer to my perception of my home country whenever I see fit, as it is relevant for my experiences and my opinions. This is an international forum, and we are not requested to state where we live. We still have freedom of speech. Edited February 8, 2010 by jennie-jennie Link to post Share on other sites
jennie-jennie Posted February 9, 2010 Share Posted February 9, 2010 Jennie, just because the odds are better doesn't mean they're that great to begin with. I found some statistics online after googling studies of lost-and-found-love. One study of 1600 plus lost-love reunions from 2005 showed that 62% were extramarital affairs, as opposed to an earlier study where it was only 30%. Internet is the explanation of the increase. Another study of 1000 lost-and-found lovers showed that 75% were still together after a decade. When these lovers married each other, the divorce rate after 4 years was 1.5%, which should be compared to that for any second marriage which is almost 25% after 5 years. It looks pretty encouraging for those of us in rekindled love affairs. What one would need is of course a study of only lost-and-love extramarital relationships and their success versus failure rates, but this is what I found so far. There is a dark side of this of course: "Lost-love reunions may linger in limbo—or they may destroy marriages. 'The true victims are the spouses who never saw it coming,' Kalish says.... Most spouses don't realize the risk when a partner announces that first e-mail from an old high-school friend, says Kalish, but if the friend is of the opposite sex, alarm bells should go off. Likewise, she says, 'if you're married, think long and hard before contacting that first love. Your life may be forever changed.'" (The above stats and the quote are taken from an article in Pshycology Today, 2006/06: "Lost Love: Guess Who's Back?") Link to post Share on other sites
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