He just stopped talking to me, was I delusional?

[moonlitskies105]

I need to get this out--as I can't really discuss it with my housemates.

 

The guy is my roommate's brother. I heard about him last summer, and after looking at his photography website and myspace I discovered he was gorgeous. He used to live on the west coast (I am on the east), but has moved two hours away this past year. I hadn't gotten the chance to meet him until shortly after new years 2010.

 

He came because he and his sister were traveling to Boston to be with their sick relative. He stayed for a few days. Anyway, the first time I met him I was a little giddy because I had a little crush in the back of my head. The first time he saw me he raised his eyebrows long enough that I took notice. I played it as casual as I could. We all chilled together as a group, watched some movies and we kept sneaking glances at one another. At one point, he took a seat next to me on the floor while I was on a chair, when there were plenty of places to sit. I took this all to be a good sign.

 

I took the initiative and added him on facebook before they left. They were gone for three weeks, and right after I added him on facebook he posted an inside joke on my wall about something stupid I said. A few days later, I posted on his wall. We kept posting back and forth until he just finally instant messaged me. We ended up talking for about three hours. The next three days we were speaking regularly. I decided to take a break so I didn't seem too available, plus I was working all weekend anyway. On Sunday we talked again, we decided to get drunk together via correspondence.

 

That week we talked about all sorts of things. Getting to know you early relationship kind of stuff. Mutual flattery. I didn't want to exhaust every topic so we kept it light and kind of flirty, although not sexual. I knew that I didn't want things to get stale before we even got a chance to see what happened in person.

 

At some point during that week, I talked to his sister (my roommate) and she had brought him up. She mentioned that he had a hard time in love, and that he was seeing someone but it wasn't going well. I figured, if he was interested in me then he would keep pursuing me, and he was.

 

The day before they returned he was having a rough time (sick relative and all) and I sent him a short message telling him I was sorry things were so ****ty. He asked how things were back at the house so I tried to entertain him some amusing stories about my housemates. And that was it.

 

They returned this past Friday and of course I had to work that night. I was really hoping he would stay for a few days but he went back home the following morning like his ass was on fire. We did get a chance to talk (as a group) for about an hour before I had to go to work. I haven't heard from him since. I shot him an instant message on facebook after he got home (although the symbol by his name indicated his away from his computer) and he signed off without replying.

 

There are so many potential factors as to why things ended up the way the did. But damnit, I am just really disappointed over the fact I wasted all that time getting to know someone only for it to fade away.

 

Mostly what I want to know is am I completely delusional? From an outside perspective, does it seem like initially he had a genuine interest in me or was I reading into it too much?

 

If you agree there was genuine interest and it obviously has stopped, any suggestions on how to get it back?

 

Thanks for reading.

[Neutrino]

IMO the sister may be unhappy with his interest in you - seems like something happened there. She lives with you - how has she been behaving since ?

[moonlitskies105]

Nah, I think she was just talking. I'm pretty close with her and her mom. Which is kind of weird also. He's a fairly private person, and as far as I know hasn't mentioned anything about me, nor I of him.

 

If anything, maybe he thought about how it would affect my relationship with his sister. Other than that, no. She's a really sweet person, and would likely have zero problems with anything that developed with him.

 

However, you never know until it actually happens.

[whichwayisup]

I decided to take a break so I didn't seem too available

 

Maybe this put him off? Going from talking alot to nothing? Playing these types of games sometimes doesn't work, especially if this guy was starting to get interested in you.

[moonlitskies105]

^It's definitely possible. Although I wasn't necessarily playing games--I honestly had to work all weekend long and didn't want to get too involved "over the internet" without getting a chance to hang out again in person.

[Mary3]

Is it possible that he got back with his ex girlfriend ?