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For some reason today both our workplaces panicked over a little snow and told us to stay home so we had the house to ourselves. All day today we were rolling around on the floor and making out then we cuddled on the couch together and watched the history channel which I know is a bit weird but we both enjoy watching it. Pretty soon the cat cuddled up to next to us and we were petting him. It was just beautiful and I was thinking about how different it was with my ex when we had nothing to do. She would use a day like this start some drama and an argument and hear my wife and I are home being perfectly content which is a big plus. Guys if a woman can enjoy contentment then that is big because so many of them can't.

 

I feel that most men in relationships or marriages would do themselves a world of favor by ending but I am starting to realize that I am in one of the few that is actually worth a man's effort.

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...watched the history channel which I know is a bit weird but we both enjoy watching it.

any chick that watches the history channel is good in my book

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Very glad to hear this, Woggle.

 

When you can have a great time doing absolutely nothing, it's a good relationship.

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For some reason today both our workplaces panicked over a little snow and told us to stay home so we had the house to ourselves. All day today we were rolling around on the floor and making out then we cuddled on the couch together and watched the history channel which I know is a bit weird but we both enjoy watching it. Pretty soon the cat cuddled up to next to us and we were petting him. It was just beautiful and I was thinking about how different it was with my ex when we had nothing to do. She would use a day like this start some drama and an argument and hear my wife and I are home being perfectly content which is a big plus. Guys if a woman can enjoy contentment then that is big because so many of them can't.

I feel that most men in relationships or marriages would do themselves a world of favor by ending but I am starting to realize that I am in one of the few that is actually worth a man's effort.

 

You just can't help yourself. Always the digs.

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Guys if a woman can enjoy contentment then that is big because so many of them can't.

 

You just can't help yourself. Always the digs.

 

Not a dig. I happen to heartily agree with this. A person (girl or guy) who is content with herself/himself is a happy person. The grass is not always greener on the other side--be happy with what you are and what you have. That is not everything but it is a very solid base to start a relationship from.

 

Some of the women I dated look from the outside to have all their sh$t together but deep down, they are unhappy with who they are and always wanted or wondered if there was more, more, more. May be the flaw was with me, but at any rate, it wasn't a good fit.

 

Unfortunately, in this media-bombarded, money-obsessed culture that we have, contentment is hard to come by for women (or men). Contentment and appreciation are the two of the values I look for in a spouse and luckily, my wife has both in abundance.

 

Of course I treat her like a queen but it doesn't hurt that she does notice and voices and shows her appreciation.

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I feel that most men in relationships or marriages would do themselves a world of favor by ending but I am starting to realize that I am in one of the few that is actually worth a man's effort.

You're advocating marriage as a potential source of happiness for yourself...but not for "most" other men? What if they just might end up being as lucky (or blessed, or whatever you're calling it) as you are? Which they could be...if they are willing to put in their own effort.

 

What not encourage others to take the same risks as you have, so they at least have a chance of reaping the same rewards that you are?

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You're advocating marriage as a potential source of happiness for yourself...but not for "most" other men? What if they just might end up being as lucky (or blessed, or whatever you're calling it) as you are? Which they could be...if they are willing to put in their own effort.

 

What not encourage others to take the same risks as you have, so they at least have a chance of reaping the same rewards that you are?

 

If men are lucky enough to find a wife like mine then go for it but she is truly one in a million.

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If men are lucky enough to find a wife like mine then go for it but she is truly one in a million.

That is how every man should feel about his wife. :)

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She loves to watch Pawn Stars and Life After People with me.

 

I am so gay for you right now Woggle in a non homo way.;)

 

Good for you two.

 

Dude, there is something to be said about just being together. It rocks when it happens.

 

Take care.

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Um, it sounds like you already HAVE opened up to your W, Wogs.:bunny::bunny::bunny:

 

And I hope your "Battle of the Sexes" rants on here don't leak over into your fabulous R with your W!! If my gut instinct is correct, you're "working out the kinks" by posting your thoughts here on this forum, instead of taking it out on her. If that is the case, then I hope you will keep on posting them to your heart's content, my good man!! Better that we (anonymous online posters who don't know you from Adam) take the brunt of your angst than for your wonderful W to have to take it.

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For some reason today both our workplaces panicked over a little snow and told us to stay home so we had the house to ourselves. All day today we were rolling around on the floor and making out then we cuddled on the couch together and watched the history channel which I know is a bit weird but we both enjoy watching it. Pretty soon the cat cuddled up to next to us and we were petting him. It was just beautiful and I was thinking about how different it was with my ex when we had nothing to do. She would use a day like this start some drama and an argument and hear my wife and I are home being perfectly content which is a big plus. Guys if a woman can enjoy contentment then that is big because so many of them can't.

 

I feel that most men in relationships or marriages would do themselves a world of favor by ending but I am starting to realize that I am in one of the few that is actually worth a man's effort.

 

Good for you Woggle!! It is good to hear something positive regarding relationships. :cool:

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I don't know about angel but she is the kind of woman men fantisize about yet I keep trying to find reasons not to trust her.

 

Also the contentment thing is true for many women. They get bored and equate it with lack of passion. The fact that we can enjoy a day of doing nothing with no drama speaks volumnes to me.

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I don't know about angel but she is the kind of woman men fantisize about yet I keep trying to find reasons not to trust her.

 

Also the contentment thing is true for many women. They get bored and equate it with lack of passion. The fact that we can enjoy a day of doing nothing with no drama speaks volumnes to me.

 

 

I think you should definitely tell her about your insecurities as you feel them, but continue to let her know you love her, and the insecurities are from your previous horrible relationship, but that you are really trying to get over them, and you need her to keep telling her how much she loves you to help you get over that, and you keep telling her how much you love her.

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You could say this for women as well, Woggle. Do you know there are not as many men as you might think that would appreciate the above, cozy little scene like you did? That's what many women long for but also don't get.

 

To me it seems that many women would consider that boring and complain about the lack of passion. The last person they want that with is their husband or boyfriend.

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To me it seems that many women would consider that boring and complain about the lack of passion. The last person they want that with is their husband or boyfriend.

 

I think there are other factors present that lead to that complaint. I read once if you're bored, it's because YOU ARE boring. :D There's a lot of truth in that.

 

I think laying around in front of a fireplace having a relaxing day with someone with whom you feel intimate sounds wonderful. Plus, I love the history channel. It's all a matter of the company you're with and how they treat you and how you treat them.

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I just know that when my ex and I had a snow day of doing nothing a nasty argument was quick to follow and I know many men who have the same experience.

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To me it seems that many women would consider that boring and complain about the lack of passion. The last person they want that with is their husband or boyfriend.

 

a woman in a healthy, loving relationship lives for those so-called "boring" moments because she understands those moments are the bedrock of a relationship. The wining and dining and travel and gifts are nice, but those are just things meant to appease her because he's not interested in giving himself.

 

you honestly want to be in a happy relationship with your wife? Give her a good 20-30 minutes of your undivided time every day, and talk with her, be with her ... not *doing* something, but giving your presence. Those are the moments we want, not grand gestures or arguments or "look what I've done for YOU." The guy who understands this is the one who ends up with gold.

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I just know that when my ex and I had a snow day of doing nothing a nasty argument was quick to follow and I know many men who have the same experience.

 

dear, your ex is a bxtch, and you're a dumbass for letting that relationship continue to block any chance at happiness you might have.

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I think there are other factors present that lead to that complaint. I read once if you're bored, it's because YOU ARE boring. :D There's a lot of truth in that.

 

 

 

Everyone raise their hands who was bored in their marriage and went out and had an affair.

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