S_Romeo Posted June 26, 2000 Share Posted June 26, 2000 We have been married for almost one year now. At the end of may her sister lied to her to get her to come to Texas saying she needed help with the kids. I love my wife so much that i even baught her a plane ticket for her and our daughter to fly back. She stayed for 11 days and said she had to go back. Her brothers gay boyfriend braught them to Texas. For some reason a 17 hour drive took them nearly 50 hours to make. Than last night she was supposed to call at 10 pm when i called at 11:30 i was told she went to a club with her sister and brother and left her wedding ring at home. What should i do ??????????? I love her but do not know what to do. Link to post Share on other sites
Randy Posted June 26, 2000 Share Posted June 26, 2000 Your wife is extremely immature. She was also raised by the same parents that raised her sister, who seems to tell some pretty wild lies (so that ought to tell you something). You have an irresponsible wife who is hanging out with an even more irresponsible and deceitful sister. You need to go get your wife and daughter, bring them back home where they belong, and remind her of her wedding vows. Do this nicely but firmly. Frankly, it sounds like you have some serious problems already. If your wife can be so easily talked into going to a club and leaving her wedding ring at home, you definitely need to work on your marriage. Take some responsiblity for this yourself. You sound way too nice, buying the ticket for her so she can go to her sister's and play around (even though you thought it was for other reasons) There are problems in your marriage that require immediate attention but you cannot work on them if your wife is out of town, neglecting your daughter while she's out at bars picking up men. Where did you find this chick, anyway? You sound like too nice of a guy to deserve this kind of stuff. Link to post Share on other sites
Med Posted June 26, 2000 Share Posted June 26, 2000 Your situation sounds exactly like what I went thru w/ my wife a few months ago, except it was her best friend not a sister. In effect it's the same situation. YOu gotta nip this in the bud immediatly. Get couneling ASAP. Any delay will lead to a further breakdown of your marriage thru mistrust, jealosy, anger, & resentment on both sides. I didn't & my marriage became a downward spiral of acrimony. TO the point that it is now "beyond-repair". Neither of us can claim the moral high-ground b/c we have become uncommunitative & manipulative. So anyway learn from history & others mistakes. You cannot control your wife but you can maintain your poise, control, & self-respect. Set the agenda. Link to post Share on other sites
Wiser Woman Posted June 27, 2000 Share Posted June 27, 2000 If I read your post correctly, your wife was still in Texas as you posted your problem? It might not be a bad idea to actually talk to your wife and find out what is/was going on before jumping to a bunch of conclusions. For instance... who told you she went out to a club without her wedding ring? Have you had an opportunity to ask her why a 17 hour trip took 50 hours? It may be the obvious has happened but then again, it wouldn't hurt to talk your wife first before getting things all built up in your mind. Just a suggestion... Link to post Share on other sites
billy the kid Posted June 27, 2000 Share Posted June 27, 2000 sit down alone and have a long talk with her. 1) if she says something you do not like, do not hit her. 2) from what you said her relatives and friends of relatives should not be trusted,( but only you know for sure).. 3) If you do not believe any thing she tells you, tell her in a calm voice. 4) give it a few days of being calm and reserve, if she brings it up again stay calm and be honest.. tell her your fears and conserns... if you still feel incomfortable get counsiling if you want to save your marriage. great luck.. We have been married for almost one year now. At the end of may her sister lied to her to get her to come to Texas saying she needed help with the kids. I love my wife so much that i even baught her a plane ticket for her and our daughter to fly back. She stayed for 11 days and said she had to go back. Her brothers gay boyfriend braught them to Texas. For some reason a 17 hour drive took them nearly 50 hours to make. Than last night she was supposed to call at 10 pm when i called at 11:30 i was told she went to a club with her sister and brother and left her wedding ring at home. What should i do ??????????? I love her but do not know what to do. Link to post Share on other sites
davyboy Posted June 29, 2000 Share Posted June 29, 2000 We have been married for almost one year now. At the end of may her sister lied to her to get her to come to Texas saying she needed help with the kids. I love my wife so much that i even baught her a plane ticket for her and our daughter to fly back. She stayed for 11 days and said she had to go back. Her brothers gay boyfriend braught them to Texas. For some reason a 17 hour drive took them nearly 50 hours to make. Than last night she was supposed to call at 10 pm when i called at 11:30 i was told she went to a club with her sister and brother and left her wedding ring at home. What should i do ??????????? I love her but do not know what to do. my advise is to try talking to her first, then if she totally blows you off then she really doesnt care how you feel. this is the harsh truth but i have found out from experience that if you cant communicate w/o conflict now, then how is it going to be 10 years down the road . Link to post Share on other sites
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