Call It What You Want To! I call it Quits!

[Gunny376]

What do we call it now

 

It isn't marriage anymore

 

Call it new and different

 

It's not the way it was before

 

 

 

Out of all the words to choose from

 

There's only one that fits

 

Call it what you want to

 

I just call it quits

 

 

 

We've come down to the place

 

Where love barely fits

 

Call it what you want to

 

I call it quits

 

 

 

Turn and walk away

 

Across the desert of our hearts

 

Loves kinda said that we've run out of time

 

And though we once had something

 

No words could tear apart

 

Now you be your's and I'll be mine

 

 

 

We've come down to the place

 

Where love barely fits

 

Call it what you want to

 

I call it quits

 

 

 

Call our friends

 

And tell them...

 

Oh tell them that we just don't care

 

Tell them dreams of flowers

 

But our garden's bare

 

 

 

Call it separation, independence

 

Divorce, if that word fits

 

Call it what you want to

 

I just call it quits

 

 

 

We've come down to the place

 

Where love barely fits

 

Call it what you want to

 

I call it quits

[tojaz]

Handful of sad quotes here Gunny, whats on your mind bud??

TOJAZ

[tnttim]

Gunny your posts seem very different from the one's I am used to.

[lovelydivorcee]

Gunny,

What's got ya down today?

[Gunny376]

I've been divorced from my one and only wife for now on twenty years?

 

Still? From time to time? I find myself playing some old country music cassettes from back in tha' day, drinking some Canadian whiskey, looking through old photos of a happier time and place?

 

Diggin up bones of a love that's long dead and gone!

 

Somethings we come across in life is like dragging a dead horse around with you everywhere you go. You don't get over it, you just learn how to get use to it.

 

I use to love her a lot!

 

I still do ~ DAMN IT!

[quankanne]

ah, gunny, loving someone is never a mistake ... hanging around trying to live off that love when there's nothing to support it *is*

 

damned fine poetry, and yeah, I thought it'd be interesting to set it to music, it's got that quality.

 

call Reba – I understand that she makes field calls every so often, looking for lyrics ...

[PWSX3]

Gunny I don't think anyone ever stops loving someone that has been part of their life. In fact I would think if you did there is something wrong with them..

 

There is nothing wrong with looking back at the past, just remember it is the past & hopefully what took you back there will help you use that for the future.

 

I very much understand how you are feeling & I'm sure 10-20 years from now I'll be doing the same thing.

 

Thumbs up for my internet buddy, you have helped many people because of what you have been thru!!!!!! Thanks my friend.

[tojaz]

I've been divorced from my one and only wife for now on twenty years?

 

Still? From time to time? I find myself playing some old country music cassettes from back in tha' day, drinking some Canadian whiskey, looking through old photos of a happier time and place?

 

Diggin up bones of a love that's long dead and gone!

 

Somethings we come across in life is like dragging a dead horse around with you everywhere you go. You don't get over it, you just learn how to get use to it.

 

I use to love her a lot!

 

I still do ~ DAMN IT!

 

Channeling someone I respect deeply.....

 

Stand By to Stand By Mister!

 

Dead Horse? Old bones? You married this woman man! Show a little respect.

People change, life happens, stuff goes down that we may never fully understand. Thats what life is and sometimes it hurts and we always have little control. So why damn it? You love her, of course you do, you wouldn't have married her otherwise. That dosen't change just because she changed her mind! 20 years dosen't change it either. Thats a part of your life, she made you who you are just as much as pinning that globe and anchor to your lapel. Shes part of your story and will be for life, and for every bit of bad there was good.

 

You hurt and your pizzed that you still hold love for her? Be proud of that man, shows you loved her right and for the right reasons. In this mans opinion a love that is easy to lose and get over wasn't much of a love at all.

So don't waste your time burying those old bones Guns, mourn the good times and enjoy the memories. After all the most precious of bones are not buried, but preserved to tell the story of their life.

 

Semper Fidelis--- Always Faithful

 

Amor animi arbitrio sumitur, non ponitur--- We choose to love, we do not choose to cease loving

 

Stand tall Gunny, this too shall pass.

TOJAZ

[tnttim]

Gunny your advise is priceless, and if I ever met you in person I would buy you a shot

 

Your recent posts have shone me that even big bad a*s marines get depressed too. I can;t thank you enough for being man enough to post your true feelings.

 

I have learned a lot from you, and I know I'm not the only one.

 

Keep posting and helping out the newbies. I am taking a much needed LS break, but I promise I will see you soon.

[Steadfast]

 

I use to love her a lot!

 

I still do ~ DAMN IT!

 

 

Know this Gunny, friend of many; even in heartache you continue to provide support and council. It takes bravery to admit you still love her. Because of that, I too can say...I still love her. I do, but what of it? Did that ever change? Would it, could it ever change? I'm not sure, but I am sure the heart and the mind are separate. Our hearts feel, our minds think and reason. From time to time, those emotions cause conflict in the soul.

 

Perhaps the most baffling aspect of this and other message boards is when people continue to underestimate the importance of how we treat others. Selfishness feeds the roots of evil, and making it worse is when we recognize some of the traits we despise in ourselves. That's a bitter pill.

 

It takes two to remain joined, but only one to break it apart. That's where you, I, and many others here stand Gunny. Here, we support each other.

[Butterflair]

You've made me feel more normal, that the love doesn't have to pass after time. Love is better than hate. You can love and care for someone but not want to live with them anymore.

 

You love the memory of what you had and who she was, both of you are different now. The sadness is for what could have been and isn't. An alternate future. That's okay.

 

I'm glad I found this place and I thank you for the help you've given me.

[LakesideDream]

OH Guns don't ever, ever do that Marine. Looking back like that has no upside. Nothing more to learn, nothing good to be had.

 

I'm 9 years out... and I keep my focus in front of me. Win or lose my energy and emotion is directed forward. That's always been your creedo to. Get back to today my friend.

 

Those yesterdays can make strong men weak.

[Butterflair]

I want to share something that my cousin sent me last month. It was very helpful.

 

No guilt allowed. I was told this when I was looking back in my life instead of looking forward. Life is like driving in a car. You have a large windshield, window, to look at the road ahead of you to allow you to make choices about where to go and help you avoid dangerous situations. The rear view mirror is small because it is design for you to glance back at. You can not drive a car looking at the rear view mirror nor turning your head back looking at the back window. Therefore, you don't spend your time second guessing yourself---it does not do you any good. Try to make yourself look forward to all the things in front of you.

[Gunny376]

OH Guns don't ever, ever do that Marine. Looking back like that has no upside. Nothing more to learn, nothing good to be had.

 

I'm 9 years out... and I keep my focus in front of me. Win or lose my energy and emotion is directed forward. That's always been your credo to. Get back to today my friend.

 

Those yesterdays can make strong men weak.

 

Thanks Guys And the thing is?

 

I KNOW all of that! But yet I broke out the picture albums and popped in some old country music cassette's, cracked open a fifth of Canadian Whiskey and had myself a pity party.

 

AS a kid I use to love shows like "Combat" and "Twelve O'Clock High" I can't watch that nor the military Chanel anymore.

 

There's just "places" I cannot go" nor do anymore! There's things I cannot do. There are songs I cannot listen to any more. The Fourth of July, Z71 Trucks with loud mufflers, fireworks, they just all drive me nuts!

 

I'm ruined on country music ~ just enough to drive you off the cliff.

 

I hear you Lakeside I do!

 

But once you've lived in Saigon? Forever more your mind will live in Saigon! (Not that I was there, Saigon fell while I was in boot camp ~ interestly enough? Most here don't have a clue when I mention Saigon)

 

The past is the past, the present is the here and now and what was ~ was, what is ~ is, and the future is what it will be!

 

But reconciling the past with the present is one Hell of a mother trucker~

[LakesideDream]

Funny Guns, I found a big box full of pictures in the Garage. I've moved it twice without looking inside. Great pic's.

 

I'm scanning the ones I want, gonna keep a few and send the rest to my ex. When I die there will be nobody to preserve them, they will go into a landfill. I really don't want that to happen. She's younger, hopefully my daughter will want them.

 

Did it bother me? Does it bother me? Not at all. Those times are over. Giving my ex the pictures doesen't ring my bell. I'm to old to care about all those old bad feelings... way to old.

 

If I had a "Pity Party" like you had guns..... It would be the last party I ever attended. No Guns, I'm not going there.

[LisaUk]

Gunny I don't think anyone ever stops loving someone that has been part of their life. In fact I would think if you did there is something wrong with them..

 

And yet the WAS say this all the time "I don't love you anymore"! Maybe that's b/c they don't love you enough to be with you anymore, but one thing is for sure, they don't feel the pain the BS does, despite what they say in protest to that. If they did, they would not be able to leave.

 

Betrayal cuts deep Gunny.

 

If only betrayal would allow the heart to stop loving. Strange how the leavers will leave b/c you don't go out with them much, or don't give them enough attention or don't do the washing up! Whatever the reason is, yet, in leaving, in having an affair or walking without warning or trying to resolve the issues first, they commit the biggest betrayal, so huge it is hard to explain, the pain of loving someone with all that you are, for them to throw it back at you, to forget and not honour what you did have, what you shared, and still our hearts will not stop loving.

[Gunny376]

Lakeside your right and damn it I know this already! There are just some things you lock up in a Pandora's box, and tuck way back in the deep recesses of your mind ~ never to be opened again! There are things you can't do anymore, listen to anymore, watch anymore.

 

I think there are two kinds of people. Those that are committed and those that are not. Most that are here are of the committed type. Reliable, dependable to the hilt of the sword type? Tojaz, LizaUK, Lakeside, to name just a few.

 

All of us speak the same mentality ~ come Hell. high water or damnation we're in it and for it! And we all saddled up with our opposites! "The first sign of trouble? I'm out of here!"