Leebruh Posted February 8, 2010 Share Posted February 8, 2010 Hello all, forgive me for how random this may be..I'm not great with conveying thoughts to words. Me and my girlfriend have been together for a year and living together for about half of that time. We've been great from the start and for the most part all the way up until about a week ago. We both adore each other and are in love however she came home the other night and said that she feels she is losing herself in our relationship and needs a break. I can understand that because I think we spent too much time together and we don't know what its like to miss one another. And to be honest, I was having some worry issues myself, the only difference is that I felt if it was really an issue, I could talk with her about it, where as she isn't great with communication so instead of talking to me, she went to her friends. So I'm ok with taking a break, however I absolutely DON'T want to lose her. Because we live together and our lease isn't up for 2 more months(and neither of us can afford it on our own) we're staying there until its up. My question is how should we be acting around each other? Right now, things are more or less the same, only we check in less, see our friends more, and aren't affectionate with one another. However we eat dinner together, watch movies/tv together and she'll invite me our to shop with her and whatnot and we get along great..as if nothing has changed!! I'm not sure how to go about this whole situation. Do I just keep going about it as we have until the 2 months is up..or...? Link to post Share on other sites
rand0m Posted February 8, 2010 Share Posted February 8, 2010 Be aware that you might end up in the friends column. If you don't mind being there, then it's all good, but if you want something more, I suggest you try to find somewhere else to stay for a little while. Just my opinion. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Leebruh Posted February 9, 2010 Author Share Posted February 9, 2010 Is it unreasonable to ask her to sleep on the couch? Link to post Share on other sites
YloveY Posted February 9, 2010 Share Posted February 9, 2010 LB, I'm in the same situation I posted about it a few days ago in the coping forum. The first 4 days after we broke up we completely ignored each other around the house, didn't speak at all. Day 5 we talked about the breakup and I was willingly to work it out but he seemed fine with my decision of breaking up with him. Now I don't do any of the womanly things around the house or benefits of having a live in girlfriend. I'm moving out of here ASAP, to stay in a room for rent so that I can maintain my sanity. I would say leave! leave! leave! Find someone that will allow u to stay a few days at a time, get out of that house or she'll lose totally respect for seeing you around the house knowing you want more than she does. If u can't leave try not to be visible and allow her to see ur eyes. Find some things to do outside of the house and leave looking and smelling good. Link to post Share on other sites
tunatunatuna Posted March 1, 2010 Share Posted March 1, 2010 Someone needs to pack a bag and head for a friends house. That doesn't sound like a good way to reassess your relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
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