nes9 Posted February 9, 2010 Share Posted February 9, 2010 Being fresh off a break up and not really wanting to be single (although I'll have to be until I'm over her), I've found myself analyzing my skills with women. Before I got my girlfriend, er.. ex girlfriend, I was getting girls from time to time. Not TOO frequently, but every couple months or so I'd have a hookup of some type, whether it be pounding my foot on home plate or sliding into first base. I'm a fairly confident guy and have no problems holding a conversation and sharing laughs with girls. I no longer find myself putting them on pedestals like I once had in highschool and my early college years.The one thing I do have difficulty with is walking up to and starting a conversation with a random girl. I just don't know what to say when walking up to someone I have never met and don't NEED to meet. If I could find a way to overcome this, I would have much more success with women. Not that my only goal would be to get laid every weekend because that's honestly not my concern. I would just like to be able to meet and date as many women as possible whether it leads to a date, a hookup or nothing at all. If anyone has any successful techniques (not cheesy one liners) to sparking conversation, please share. Link to post Share on other sites
Silver_star Posted February 9, 2010 Share Posted February 9, 2010 There are ways to talk to women without seeming creepy. Some guys seem to think cheesy one liners or creeepy smiles mouthing hello across the bar will bring in the ladies. FALSE I think being genuine is #1. How do you be genuine? Depends who you are, and how you approach the girl depends where you are #1 Be competitive with her. There are alot of opportunities to challenge a woman to something. I know all of my girlfriends and myself love it when we are challenged by a guy. Example (play pool, play some sort of game..if ur at a pub, or if your at a sporting event you can ask her what team she likes and then bet AGAINST her) Girls love that. #2 Be friendly, but not overly friendly. If you are at the mall, thats tricky and kind of tacky place to meet girls, but you could just smile at her and if she smiles back tell her she is gorgeous. It will make her day, and its not obligatory that she say anything back, but it will likely make her smile..and thats step one..she might approach u after that #3 Go in with confidence and make her laugh. Social situations (house parties, vacations, clubs) are a good opporuntiy to meet women you dont know and make an impression. You might know the same friends, you could start with that. You might approach her and tell her that she looks like _____celebrity (make sure its a good one). If its a club and shes not on the dance floor but looks like she wants to dance (kinda looks like shes dancing in her chair to the music) lol then ask her if she wants to dance and dont be afraid to TEASE her. Its not in a mean way..its in a very flirty way, and it will bring out alot of playfulness and competiveness in her. As long as your laughing and having a good time it will be easy for a girl to approach you. Thats all i got for now. Hope it helps. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted February 9, 2010 Share Posted February 9, 2010 If anyone has any successful techniques (not cheesy one liners) to sparking conversation, please share. the best way is to starting asking her questions about something on her person, be it a necklace, dress, shoes, something shes holding, her canine unit, purse, etc....as them what is the story behind it. chicks love to talk about themselves and their things. Link to post Share on other sites
Author nes9 Posted February 9, 2010 Author Share Posted February 9, 2010 I like the advice so far. Thanks! Keep it coming people. Link to post Share on other sites
engravefeelthevoid Posted March 5, 2010 Share Posted March 5, 2010 make it look as random as possible...and try to look as formal as possible...dont walk froma far place and approach her...be close and slowly ask her a random question...try to move away to make her feel safe then as u approach again smile...it needs practice trust me it works...then innovate Link to post Share on other sites
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