HurtinginVA Posted January 3, 2004 Share Posted January 3, 2004 Alright guys, give up the links Links to sites about coping with, getting over, working through etc etc etc inifidelity. Ive worn <removed> out LOL Am I the only one who cant read enough about it? Maybe its my way of coping, who knows? But I want more!! Please? Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted January 4, 2004 Share Posted January 4, 2004 Go to Google and type in 'coping with infidelity'. You'll have enough links to read to wear your eyeballs right out! Link to post Share on other sites
figuringitout Posted January 4, 2004 Share Posted January 4, 2004 HVA- What is it that you are hoping to find in your reading? There are volumes of information out there (as you know), and after a while it all starts to repeat itself (as you also know). At this point, your feelings are unique to you, and probably a little raw. So, it may be hard to connect with someone who spent a year working out the text for a site or book. It was for me too. Try this...write about it. Sounds strange. Believe me, it took me a while before I tried it. I am a business person who rarely reads fiction and would NEVER think of writing about feelings...how absurd. Not anymore. Get a comfortable pen and a new notebook. Sit down and let it rip. Write whatever pops into your head. Don't worry about punctuation or even making sense. Plan a violent death for the OW or scream profanities and insults at your husband...whatever. No one will ever read but you (if you wish to go back). Heck, burn it as soon as you are done if you want. The point is to let yourself vent in a raw (crying, rage, etc.) way. Outcomes: 1. It feels really good to say the things that you want to say without anyone interrupting or providing a rebuttal, having massive fight erupt or being really embarrassed later. You can go off in one direction (i.e. OW), then another and another (your insecurities, anger to husband). You'd never get the chance to get this much off of your chest with a friend, etc. (they simply wouldn't understand). 2. If you wish to go back and read it (or not) after you settle a bit, it helps you to understand things...separate the issues and decide how you want to approach them and which ones really need to be addressed ASAP. You may find that you decompress a little while writing, which gives you the opportunity to look at things rationally. Then you can read the stuff that the experts (an people like the people on Loveshack) say and have it mean more to you. Certain things will click in your head. I always think of it like going to the grocery store knowing what is in your fridge and pantry, rather than just walking in hungry. As I said, I thought that this was a crazy concept at first, but I do it. Just a suggestion. Peace. Link to post Share on other sites
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