guest Posted January 4, 2004 Share Posted January 4, 2004 Ok- quick situation. Girl I used to go out with years ago has moved back into my life. We remained friends but she was always so far away- now she is closer. She does have a boyfriend but recently she tells me how it is not working with him. He dont provide her the attention she thinks she deserves. Like on New Years- He went to Chicago with friends and told her that she could come but it would be expensive. That really don't sound like love- I mean I would of bought her a ticket or stayed with her if I couldn't afford it. So anyway- she hung out with me on New Years. As the night came down to its end we both fell asleep on my couch together/ did nothing sexual/ just cuddled. We have done this a few times. She has also made me a few presents of late. A tape and a scrap book of photos of us. Tonight on the phone she told me she was probably going to end things with this guy. Basically, she tells me she is just not into the realationship and she still occasionally thinks about this other guy way back home- far away- where she moved from(and talks to him). -and this is not fair to any realationship she says- Yes- I agree. This is my role right now- to listen and agree and be a friend. Atleast thats what Im trying to do. Meanwhile- the more I hang out with her.- The more I start to remember why I cared and loved her so much. Then last night we go out to a bar and shoot some pool. We go back to my house after but this time she says she would rather sleep alone and that I should sleep in my bed and get good sleep because I had to work in the early morning. We had been sleeping on the couch a few previous times. So I didn't say much and just did. Ok- so my question is....what do I do? I want her to like me, I want to know if she even has any feelings for me or is it just friendship feelings. I dont understand the cuddling. How come these things just happen and we dont talk about them. I mean- what they mean. I guess I just dont know how to approach this situation anymore. Do I stay clear until she is ready to make a more clear approach to me. Do I come out and say I have feelings for you even though I am trying to be a friend. Im confused....what do I do? Link to post Share on other sites
xalysabethh Posted January 4, 2004 Share Posted January 4, 2004 If I were you, I'd go ahead and talk to her about your feelings. Tell her your confused and you feel this way and see what she say's . you cant' lose anythign from talking to her because if she doesnt have those feelings back you can know where you stand and Not be wondering. xalysabeth Link to post Share on other sites
denali Posted January 4, 2004 Share Posted January 4, 2004 be careful that this girl isnt using you because she feels neglected by her BF. she might just like hanging out with you because you provide her with the attention she craves... that doesn't necessarily mean that she likes you 'like that'. when i was in high school, i always hung around this guy that was so in love with me.. and i never did anything with him, but i liked the way he tried SO hard to impress me and make me feel good. we hung out for years and developed a wonderful friendship. i think you're just going to come out and ask her where she see's this thing going between the two of you. ask her why she's being so friendly towards you. don't be too pushy, just make it known that you're curious about the relationship that has formed between you two and want to know her take on the situation Link to post Share on other sites
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