Do girls dump guys more often guys? who usually moves on first?

[MizzBella]

Sometimes there are real valid reasons why women leave men.

 

Some of these reasons include:

cheating (why I left my ex-Husband)

abuse

neglect (seems to be the most common reason I've heard)

 

That said, many women do expect a lot of men in a relationship and are very hard to please...and many will move on to a new man who pays more attention to them (in the case of neglect).

 

If you ask my ex, the reason he cheated was my fault and he is the victim (he didn't want me to leave). I had 2 children in 2 years and didn't pay enough attention to him (according to him). So everyone has their side of the story.

[4givrnt4gtr]

Totally erased my post by mistake....but to summarize...

 

According to a class I took a few months ago for my Marriage and Family therapy degree, yes, women do tend to pull the plug in a relationship more so than men. The reason? as Dolce said, women are much more in tune with their emotions and also the emotional strenght of the relationship. While men are happy to coast through a relationship that isnt very fullfilling emotionally, women cant tolerate it as well, so they either try to fix it (aka nagging) and when that doesn't work, they figure the man isnt in love with her so she leaves.

 

This thread also reminds me of a part of the movie "he's just not that into you", where two women are talking about how they've always felt they break up with their boyfriends only to realize their boyfriends have pretty much broken up with them long before through neglect, putting other things first, or treating them like they are dispensable. They basically just pulled the plug on something that was already dead.

 

 

And then, to end, Dolce, if you look at the copping section of the forum you'll see that what you say has also been said by women. How if he doesn't bang on your door, you shouldnt even give him the time of day, etc etc...so as someone else said...its not about whether its a man or a woman..its about whether this person is worthy of you and loves you the way you need to be loved regardless of gender.

[alphamale]

It's happened to me the most frequent. I'm a guy and throughout my adulthood relationship. I've been dumped three out of four times. I'm 29 years old. the most recent is two days ago. I'm having a difficult time coping with it. it usually takes me 6 months to the longest of three years to move on. how was your relationship like?

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women start AND end most relationships...

[skydiveaddict]

women start AND end most relationships...

 

 

true.........

[hats]

(skimmed thread)

 

I'd guess women break up more and move on quicker because

1. They get hit on more so they're more aware of their options and it's easier to find a rebound.

2. It's easier to fulfill a man's needs than a womans, IMHO.

 

I don't think divorce stats are that relevant because in most cases there (arguably) are financial and custodial advantages for women in a divorce.