jp13370 Posted January 4, 2004 Share Posted January 4, 2004 I just got married a few days ago and now realize I made a huge mistake. How can I get my marriage annulled or voided? I live in Texas. Does anyone know anyone who has had a marriage annulled? Link to post Share on other sites
bark Posted January 4, 2004 Share Posted January 4, 2004 I found this info at the website below: How does annulment work? There are very specific grounds for annulment of a marriage. They are: a) marriage under the age of 14 years; b) marriage without parental consent when over the age of 14 an under 18; c) marriage while under the influence of drugs or alcohol; d) impotency; e) fraud, duress or force used in having the person enter the marriage; f) mental incompetency; g) failure to disclose that the party had been previously divorced within 30 days before the marriage; h) marriage within 72 hours or less after the issuance of the marriage license. A marriage is also invalid if the parties are related to one another in some way (brother and sister, uncle and niece, etc.) or either party is still married to another person. A suit for annulment is similar to a divorce except there is no mandatory waiting period before the court can grant the annulment. http://www.divorceinfo.com/txfaqsmiscellaneous.htm#Annulment Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted January 4, 2004 Share Posted January 4, 2004 Talk to your new wife immediately. Let her know you realize now this is not something you wanted to do. Seek her cooperation in ending it quickly. It won't be all that hard. Otherwise, see an attorney. Your wife may file a suit to recoup expenses incurred in marrying you plus damages for embarassment she may sustain. It's very hard to believe that it so quickly popped into your head that something you had planned for for so long was suddenly not something you wanted to do. You might want to get yourself checked out! Link to post Share on other sites
Author jp13370 Posted January 4, 2004 Author Share Posted January 4, 2004 I got married with good intentions and a clear head. Unfortunately my child is having serious problems with my new husband and his son. Things surfaced that have made me terribly uncomfortable with moving in with them. My son has told me things that make me question this man and his son. We dated for six months before we got married and I tried to postpone marriage but my husband talked me into getting married last week. I regret getting married this soon and have serious concerns about my sons feelings towards this marriage and living with them. I thought I was making a good decision because this man is a good person and provider but there is animosity between him and my son and his son has been bullying my son so there are major issues there. I made a mistake getting married and am very concerned for my son and his feelings - he is terribly upset about this and refuses to accept it - he does not like my husband at all despite the fact my husband has tried to give him everything. Something is there that I can't put my finger on - I'm not if he's being mean to my child when I'm not around or my son is just jealous and unable to accept this. I have to put my son first and find out what is wrong. Therefore I'm afraid my marriage was a mistake and that is why I've asked about annullment. Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted January 4, 2004 Share Posted January 4, 2004 Is there any possibility that everybody can get together with a licensed psychologist or counsellor and work all this out??? Your son has got to learn to work on difficult relationships. He's also got to learn to speak up a lot sooner. It sounds to me your son is making a play for power here as well. You will have this problem with your son no matter who you date or marry in the future so you may as well get it ironed out now. You can't go reversing major decisions in your life everytime your son decides not to go along with them. I don't think you made a mistake. I think your son made a mistake by not speaking up and getting all this straightened out ahead of time. Link to post Share on other sites
bark Posted January 4, 2004 Share Posted January 4, 2004 I'm not a Texas divorce lawyer, but unless you married within 72 hours of the marriage license's issuance, I don't see any facially valid annulment grounds. In any event, consult a Texas divorce attorney. Link to post Share on other sites
Author jp13370 Posted January 4, 2004 Author Share Posted January 4, 2004 Thanks Bark and Tony for your replies. I am going to try to work all of this out and think it all through before getting a divorce. My husband is irate and angry right now because I'm not packing boxes and preparing to move into his house. He's not being understanding about any of this which is making things more difficult. I'm miserable and literally having gut feelings that this all was a mistake. I can't eat or sleep. I just don't know if this was a wise decision to get married but my husband pressured me and talked me into it (my fault for letting him). I'll keep you posted on what happens. Thanks for your advice. Link to post Share on other sites
Errol Posted January 5, 2004 Share Posted January 5, 2004 Originally posted by jp13370 Thanks Bark and Tony for your replies. I am going to try to work all of this out and think it all through before getting a divorce. My husband is irate and angry right now because I'm not packing boxes and preparing to move into his house. He's not being understanding about any of this which is making things more difficult. I'm miserable and literally having gut feelings that this all was a mistake. I can't eat or sleep. I just don't know if this was a wise decision to get married but my husband pressured me and talked me into it (my fault for letting him). I'll keep you posted on what happens. Thanks for your advice. e) fraud, duress or force used in having the person enter the marriage; call an attorney right now - you may be able to have the marriage annulled. Then get yourself and your son into counseling as Tony suggested. Link to post Share on other sites
Author jp13370 Posted January 5, 2004 Author Share Posted January 5, 2004 I guess I can get my marriage annulled by using the same excuse Britney Spears used and claim I married under duress and confusion. Which is true, I learned a lesson - I'll listen to my gut next time and not let someone talk me into marriage when I'm not ready or have doubts! Link to post Share on other sites
dyermaker Posted January 5, 2004 Share Posted January 5, 2004 I don't know much about this. Isn't an annulment a religious thing? Why can't you just get a divorce? Link to post Share on other sites
Author jp13370 Posted January 5, 2004 Author Share Posted January 5, 2004 There are many issues in which someone can get an annullment (now that I've researched it). One of those is religion (you gotta be catholic - which I am). Bascially an annullment is a divorce - just different wording but an annullment erases the marriage as if it never happened. A divorce stays on record. I guess - I'm still researching and speaking to lawyers about all this. I value marriage but screwed up and rushed in to something I regret. I'm trying to reverse it all and put it behind me. Link to post Share on other sites
dyermaker Posted January 5, 2004 Share Posted January 5, 2004 Did you have sex with her on your wedding night? I think if there was an "inability to consumate the marriage" they will annul it. An annulment doesn't undo a marriage though, in the Catholic tradition. An annulment is for a marriage that was never valid in the first place. As far as I know, they're pretty stingy about what they call valid. Link to post Share on other sites
brashgal Posted January 5, 2004 Share Posted January 5, 2004 Dyer - there is the legal annulment and the religious annulment - two separate processes. I had a girlfriend in SoCal whose parents divorced after 20 something years of marriage (that was the legal part). Dad was Catholic, Mom wasn't. Dad decided to remarry a Catholic woman and it was important to them to get married in the Catholic church so he petitioned for an annulment and it was granted by the church - 20 some odd years of marriage and 3 children - like it never happened (ha!) State of Texas recognizes common-law marriage after six months of living together and representing yourselves as a married couple...in California I remember it being 7 years - amazing how it varies state to state. Both states are community property so this can have financial implications also. Link to post Share on other sites
wiseOLDman Posted January 5, 2004 Share Posted January 5, 2004 JP, to be honest, I'm surprised that you went thru with the wedding given the urgent post back a couple weeks ago "need advise, ASAP" in the Getting Married forum. Didn't seem that you received much encouragement to go ahead with the wedding. It seemed that you're gut was really telling you there was a problem. You'll need to speak with an attorney on the annulment and I wish you the best. Link to post Share on other sites
Author jp13370 Posted January 14, 2004 Author Share Posted January 14, 2004 Wise OLD Man - in response to your message I'm surprised I went thru with the marriage myself, especially when I spent the night before crying and knowing it wasn't right. I only have myself to blame - I wasn't ready to get married but let him talk me into it. He's helped me out financially so much I guess I felt obligated - hate to say that but I felt that way. Stupid mistake on my part. Been beating myself up ever since. Link to post Share on other sites
TxSweety27 Posted April 6, 2004 Share Posted April 6, 2004 I just got married in Texas as well on Valentines Day and I tried everything to get an annullment but the state of texas would not let me unless the marriage was not consimated or if you went into the marriage not knowing something so I just had to file for divorce and now I'm waiting for my 61st day to be up so it will be final. Link to post Share on other sites
jp133700 Posted April 7, 2004 Share Posted April 7, 2004 TxSweety - well good for you for filing for divorce and getting that part done with. I'm going to the courthouse tomorrow to file my peition. Then I too will be waiting out the waiting period. Wish we didn't have to wait 60 days - I want it over NOW!!! Good luck to you. Link to post Share on other sites
Fandango Posted April 7, 2004 Share Posted April 7, 2004 JP ~ Don't disregard the feelings your son has, kids are pretty intuitive, wish I would have paid more attention to my kids before I got married. My husband was hot and cold, sometimes sickening sweet, other times just downright mean to them..not a good environment for my guys. There are lots of men in this world, but I only have two kids. Link to post Share on other sites
reggio Posted April 13, 2004 Share Posted April 13, 2004 In my opinion, if you feel this way now, my best advice to you is GET OUT! Marriage itself is enough to deal with and it takes two to make it work. Link to post Share on other sites
Believer69 Posted April 17, 2004 Share Posted April 17, 2004 Ok,well another story but, my first marriage, was one that was so rushed, that all I could do was nod my head when any questions were asked... Well thats how it felt. Different circumstances but when I was told, that I was getting married, I just cried.. Married? Ok, ....I guess... after that, the weeks were a blur, I didnt arrange much... it was all taking care of. The day was here, the day of my wedding, I cried, I didn't want to do this, but it was all planned, know one cared, this was right, I walked down the aisle, I remember, laughing, laughing so hard that I was crying...through it all...tears, and laughter that I could barely speak, ... after the wedding, life wasn't even real, I hated it, NOT what I wanted. I lived through that for a whole year, a year of of HELL, (picture Sam Kinison saying that, by the way) before I left. Thank GOD. If I could take back even one day I would..........go NOW, when it doesn't feel right, It just isn't. Oh yeah, sounds like something back in the 50's right? NOT this was 1989, well its still ancient... Link to post Share on other sites
Believer69 Posted April 17, 2004 Share Posted April 17, 2004 Dude, I love how when you thought it was I guy, it was ok to have doubts after "planning for so long" but once SHE made it clear she was a women, and that her son seemed to not be dealing with the marriage as she thought, that HE needs to get therapy adn crap, sorry but that is kinda how your replys seemed... Link to post Share on other sites
freebird Posted April 17, 2004 Share Posted April 17, 2004 Jp, don't beat yourself up - it's futile. You know you did the wrong thing, now worry about the logistics and your son. Next time, you may want to date much longer than 6 months - that is FAR TOO SHORT a time to really know someone before marrying them. People's true colors sometimes do not show until at least a year into a relationship. If your son was upset about the marriage, he probably picked up on something. Kids are very astute when it comes to sensing things. Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
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