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Ok guys, what makes a quality woman?

 

It boils down to personality and characteristics. No one is perfect - everyone has their quirks.

 

First and foremost, she has to "get it".

 

What I mean by this is that she lives and understand the golden rule applied to relationships. It seems simple enough, but many women don't "get it" - they do things that they wouldn't want their partners doing. Its simple. Women who do get it are usually great partners.

 

Second she has to want to make and maintain a connection with her man. Physical, emotional and mental - and likewise, her man would want the same. She has to want to communicate and not feel akward talking with her man face to face - we lose human contact with the insane blackberry, texting and emailing we have to do. I know, it sounds funny but you would be suprised at how women fell strange when they are put face to face to communicate with their man.

 

Lastly, she has to have some kinds of coping mechanisms. Life is grand, but comes with victories and defeats. Hopefully she has healthy ways of coping - music, exercise, meditation, religion or a passion/hobby.

 

 

Guys and gals, what do you think makes a quality woman?

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i think a quality woman is someone who is very attractive like taylor swift but very flirty and horny. but only to me. and will only have sex with me. and doesnt talk much. not spoilt. cleans my house. feeds me. gives me all the attention i want and plays poker with me.

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i think a quality woman is someone who is very attractive like taylor swift but very flirty and horny. but only to me. and will only have sex with me. and doesnt talk much. not spoilt. cleans my house. feeds me. gives me all the attention i want and plays poker with me.

 

 

I bet you have ladies crawling all over you yes? Or perhaps you are a troll. Just a guess

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I like your post. :) Hopefully more men get around to thinking the same way.

 

Thank you, Elswyth.

 

The women whom I've had the longest and most meaningful relationships with did well in these categories. These characteristics fostered alot of trust and respect. Since I was with them in the first place, there was obviously a mutual attraction from the start.

 

I don't think more men should think the same way - because the way we think makes us different. Each man has his own guidelines for what he defines as a quality woman.

 

I can see how these characteristics are difficult for some, because not everyone wants to be a partner in a relationship and therefore be more accountable for their actions or behavior.

 

Some people want to be truly loved and be free to do whatever they want, whenever they want with whomever they want - unfortunately, the only kinds of guys that might be this way are Jesus Christ

 

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either stuck in a marriage with children, don't truly care (or love) the other person or love the person like a friend and not a true patner.

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Ok guys, what makes a quality woman?

 

It boils down to personality and characteristics. No one is perfect - everyone has their quirks.

 

First and foremost, she has to "get it".

 

What I mean by this is that she lives and understand the golden rule applied to relationships. It seems simple enough, but many women don't "get it" - they do things that they wouldn't want their partners doing. Its simple. Women who do get it are usually great partners.

 

Second she has to want to make and maintain a connection with her man. Physical, emotional and mental - and likewise, her man would want the same. She has to want to communicate and not feel akward talking with her man face to face - we lose human contact with the insane blackberry, texting and emailing we have to do. I know, it sounds funny but you would be suprised at how women fell strange when they are put face to face to communicate with their man.

 

Lastly, she has to have some kinds of coping mechanisms. Life is grand, but comes with victories and defeats. Hopefully she has healthy ways of coping - music, exercise, meditation, religion or a passion/hobby.

 

 

Guys and gals, what do you think makes a quality woman?

 

I would say a great woman doesn't nag. My current guy says one of the reasons he doesn't want to marry is because women nag (he's mom nags his dad and a previous relationship nagged him). I am against nagging. I am hoping that if we get to the stage where marriage is discussed that he'll want to marry (assuming I do) because I don't nag.

 

Isn't using the guy for something, like money, his sperm, etc.

 

Accepts his weaknesses.

 

I'm curious what you mean about a woman getting it.

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I would say a great woman doesn't nag. My current guy says one of the reasons he doesn't want to marry is because women nag (he's mom nags his dad and a previous relationship nagged him). I am against nagging. I am hoping that if we get to the stage where marriage is discussed that he'll want to marry (assuming I do) because I don't nag.

 

Isn't using the guy for something, like money, his sperm, etc.

 

Accepts his weaknesses.

 

I'm curious what you mean about a woman getting it.

 

 

Heh...uh huh....riiiight...I think this is more an issue with him than it is with any women in his life...I personally think this is his failure to communicate...any time a woman talks to him or voices a grievance, he'd rather avoid conflict and refuse to communicate...instead, he'll insist that the woman is "nagging" him...that way he never has to deal with any issues in the relationship...

 

You say something that he doesn't like...? Then suddenly you're nagging him...nice...

 

It's nice that this guy has you convinced that you shouldn't "nag"...I'm sure it'll work out real well for you...like you said...accepting his weaknesses...:rolleyes:

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Heh...uh huh....riiiight...I think this is more an issue with him than it is with any women in his life...I personally think this is his failure to communicate...any time a woman talks to him or voices a grievance, he'd rather avoid conflict and refuse to communicate...instead, he'll insist that the woman is "nagging" him...that way he never has to deal with any issues in the relationship...

 

You say something that he doesn't like...? Then suddenly you're nagging him...nice...

 

It's nice that this guy has you convinced that you shouldn't "nag"...I'm sure it'll work out real well for you...like you said...accepting his weaknesses...:rolleyes:

 

He didn't say I nag, he said his mother nags (which she does). He actually said he likes me because I don't nag. No, women (and men) shouldn't be nagging.

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Stays in shape and physically healthy, above average intelligence, always learning and doesn't fill her brain with crap, developed wit and humor responsive, lives by an ethical system and doesn't rationalize or create alternate realities to suit her, sexy and adventurous in bed, secure by herself (doesn't need me but wants me), socially skilled, spontaneous without being impulsive, consistent, mentally and emotionally healthy, kind, courteous/polite.

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Stays in shape and physically healthy, above average intelligence, always learning and doesn't fill her brain with crap, developed wit and humor responsive, lives by an ethical system and doesn't rationalize or create alternate realities to suit her, sexy and adventurous in bed, secure by herself (doesn't need me but wants me), socially skilled, spontaneous without being impulsive, consistent, mentally and emotionally healthy, kind, courteous/polite.

 

I like your list, especially the highlighted part.

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lives by an ethical system and doesn't rationalize or create alternate realities to suit her.

May you please explain this part to me

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May you please explain this part to me

 

My guess?

 

Well, when women BS. For instance, we're in a club, she gets drinking, gets pretty tipsy and says something - say XYZ. You ask her to repeat she says "XYZ"

 

Next morning, she says, no I said YXZ - it was loud in the club, you must have mis heard me. I know what I said.

 

If you were to get her to write XYZ in writing say on the back of a receipt/napkin, she's gonna pick apart the subject, adjective, gerrund etc. to change meaning.

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My guess?

 

Well, when women BS. For instance, we're in a club, she gets drinking, gets pretty tipsy and says something - say XYZ. You ask her to repeat she says "XYZ"

 

Next morning, she says, no I said YXZ - it was loud in the club, you must have mis heard me. I know what I said.

 

If you were to get her to write XYZ in writing say on the back of a receipt/napkin, she's gonna pick apart the subject, adjective, gerrund etc. to change meaning.

Thanks... is it like waking up in your bed ..then telling you she doesn't usually do stuff like this

 

Or more like "Do you have kids"...her reply" No I dont"...her in the morning..."No I was trying to say my kids don't live with me"

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Thanks... is it like waking up in your bed ..then telling you she doesn't usually do stuff like this

 

Grey area here. Maybe she does, maybe she doesn't? Maybe the two of you clicked and it just happened?

 

Or more like "Do you have kids"...her reply" No I dont"...her in the morning..."No I was trying to say my kids don't live with me"

 

This is a more black and white example.

 

Meerkatstew probably has his examples - I was just trying to give an example.

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For me, it's quite simple. A quality woman is a physically attractive female who is not:

 

a) manipulative (i.e. playing games),

b) a total narcissist or bitch,

c) mentally unstable, and

d) a cheating slut.

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Quality women to me have these traits:

 

1. Confident (high self esteem means she doesn't like jerks)

2. Faithful (does not cheat ever)

3. Honest (you can trust her word)

4. Feminine (knows she's a women and acts like it)

5. Doesn't need me, but wants me anyway

6. Does not yell or scream at me :D

7. Works out (fit, doesn't have to be a model)

 

If I found a woman like that I would be a happy camper :love:.

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A quality woman is one who doesnt think you're inferior because of being ever so slightly below average in a single quality that is impossible to change and doesn't affect any facet of a relationship

 

This is good! None of us guys are perfect, but would hope to be a quality guy.

 

Another poster mentioned accepting a man for his weaknesses and this goes along those lines.

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May you please explain this part to me

 

Most people do not live by an ethical system, but rather by a self absorbed rationalizing type analysis of "what is best for me" in any given situation, kind of like a perverted form of Ayn Rand's objectivism. Once they figure out what is the best outcome for their self-interest, rather than just fessing up that they are selfish, they will attempt to "back into" the desired result by rationalizing a completely contorted version of the truth, rewriting history, lying, doing anything possible to reverse engineer into that favorable result for them while maintaining the illusion that they are a "good person," as opposed to observing ethical principles and applying them regardless of where one's own interest lies.

 

IME, many people will rationalize and sometimes completely fabricate a false reality that suits them rather than deal with the "real" reality in front of their faces. People who are prone to this are easily manipulated into any kind of bad action, and can justify any kind of bad behavior by twisting facts or rationalizing the truth away.

 

The ones who don't do this are quality.

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