Trust back after cheating?

[Lovex2h]

I'm bisexual and i was engaged to my baby for around seven to eight months. Then around a week ago my best friend introduced me to her boyfriend and girlfriend. Me and her girlfriend hit it off and a few days ago we started kissing whenever we saw each other. i told her i loved her but it was more of a sister thing because I had my fiance and she's pregnant with her ex's kid. I told my brother about all of this and his exact words were, he'll understand you need to tell him about you.

 

yeah well i did tell my fiance. Five minutes later i was single. we tried to talk to it and he kept on throwing it in my face that i cheated on him, Which i have no problem with. he said if i want him back, i have to earn his trust back.. And then he said no one has been able to earn his trust back. I've tried telling him i love him and he's told me to find someone that can believe that. normally I'd give up but he told me he loves me. I just have no idea how to get his trust back, especially since now he says i probably did more with the girl than i said i did. Any ideas?

[Bryanp]

Let's see here: You were kissing this other girl various times and telling her that you love her behind your boyfriend's back who you are engaged to marry. Why wouldn't you think its cheating especially since you are bisexual? You did the right thing by telling him. Maybe you need to ask yourself that if you did marry him would you still be able to be faithful to him if you are bisexual. Maybe this is what he is thinking. Good luck.

[You'reasian]

Let's see here: You were kissing this other girl various times and telling her that you love her behind your boyfriend's back who you are engaged to marry. Why wouldn't you think its cheating especially since you are bisexual? You did the right thing by telling him. Maybe you need to ask yourself that if you did marry him would you still be able to be faithful to him if you are bisexual. Maybe this is what he is thinking. Good luck.

 

Golden rule all over again. I've seen this before. Same girl gets insanely jealous when her dude has a really cool lady friend - but is able to justify a 3-some...WTH? lol

[ducknrun]

 

I'm bisexual and i was engaged to my baby for around seven to eight months. Then around a week ago my best friend introduced me to her boyfriend and girlfriend. Me and her girlfriend hit it off and a few days ago we started kissing whenever we saw each other. i told her i loved her but it was more of a sister thing because I had my fiance and she's pregnant with her ex's kid. I told my brother about all of this and his exact words were, he'll understand you need to tell him about you.

 

 

 

yeah well i did tell my fiance. Five minutes later i was single. we tried to talk to it and he kept on throwing it in my face that i cheated on him, Which i have no problem with. he said if i want him back, i have to earn his trust back.. And then he said no one has been able to earn his trust back. I've tried telling him i love him and he's told me to find someone that can believe that. normally I'd give up but he told me he loves me. I just have no idea how to get his trust back, especially since now he says i probably did more with the girl than i said i did. Any ideas?

 

 

Apparently you got that 1% of guys that don't think that's hot!!

 

On a more serious note once trust is lost it is hard to get it back. Trust all depends on the individual if you really love him (people make mistakes but not twice...) then you will be able to earn it. Was what you told him everything that happened? You need to ask him what he needs. If you love him and he loves you it won’t be completely unreasonable. You might have to call in and feel like your have no privacy.

 

Ok that kind of sound bad. All I am trying to say is if you love him and he loves you things will work out if you communicate.

 

I joined here when I first posted my fiancé cheating on me and I spilled out what I wanted from her in order to move on. I tried for over a year before I finally realized that she just didn't love me anymore which meant nothing else mattered.

 

Good luck