StaticSlayer Posted January 5, 2004 Share Posted January 5, 2004 I've been best friends with a guy named Matt for the longest time, He married one of our mutual friends--He ended up turning to drugs, and alcohol. She divorced him because it was too much for her. He's clean, and sober now.I know that he still does have feelings for her, I listen to him daily talk about how much he misses her, and etc. I've had feelings for her for a while, but they got married--and I just did my own thing, and was there as a mutual friend to both of them, supporting both. I remember that saying of 'a drunk speaks a sober mind'. That's kind of what happened, I was throwing a house party one night--She came to this party, smiling, and being the glow of the room. She started drinking, and I started drinking. We were sitting on the couch, and I remember just saying," You are so beautiful, and I'ved loved you for sometime". Out of nowhere, I leaned over and started kissing her. Even though drunk, I remember every single second of that. To add more fire on it--As I was kissing her, Matt walked in, and he wanted to basically beat the living hell out of me. Which is clearly understandable. I talked to her afterwards, and apologized for what had happened. I think she was still in shock that it did. As ****ed up as it is, I want to spend more time with her. Of course, He's not talking to me. Is there any help for this situation? Link to post Share on other sites
SoleMate Posted January 5, 2004 Share Posted January 5, 2004 Is there any help for this situation? It seems unlikely that you can pursue a relationship with the young lady AND maintain a friendship with Matt. You can only do one...and it's possible that neither avenue will work for you now. The lady may not be interested, and Matt may never forgive you. How do you value the chance of a relationship with this seemingly unattainable lady of your infatuation, versus maintaining a longtime best friendship? I'd choose the friendship, and work on finding some other love object. And BTW - as you know, alcohol loosens inhibitions, but does not change feelings. Inhibitions sometimes get a bad rap, but they do perform the useful function of keeping us from screwing up relationships because of a momentary urge... Link to post Share on other sites
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