Nexa Posted January 5, 2004 Share Posted January 5, 2004 Oh ok so today I heard from a very good friend of mine that my ex was running with this other female. The first thing that flashed through my mind was he used that silly excuse when he caught me play wrestling with this guy for like 30 seconds that this was the cause of our relationship going to a "friend status", it was because he was getting rid of me for her. She was wearing his shorts!!! You see another reason I came to realize is that we never had sex. We were together for five months and never did any of that because I do belive in saving myself for when I get married. I told him this and he never told me anything! But i'm sure your people out there know that there are substitutes for sex, and we did that. But apparently not enough for him. I've posted here on this situation various times and have got great responses that helped me think this thing out alot. I was also told to just move on, but it is so hard! This guy had me beliving that I was the one who caused us to to an end, when I think it was has him finding a stupid excuse to put us to an end. I don't know I guess I looking for any inputs, ideas, experiences, that anyone out there can relate. I just need to get other points of views. Link to post Share on other sites
dyermaker Posted January 5, 2004 Share Posted January 5, 2004 Originally posted by Nexa But i'm sure your people out there know that there are substitutes for sex, and we did that. Not that I'm helpful at all, but does anyone else find it funny that the spirit of chastity is lost in the linguistics of virginity? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Nexa Posted January 5, 2004 Author Share Posted January 5, 2004 what????? Link to post Share on other sites
Marty_McFly Posted January 5, 2004 Share Posted January 5, 2004 I can't say whether or not that's why, but if you decide it is, then walk away. He's not worth it. If someone really loves you, they would respect your wishes. Link to post Share on other sites
DerangedAngel Posted January 5, 2004 Share Posted January 5, 2004 Nexa, What dyer means is that its interesting (funny) that people want to save themselves for marriage, but tend to do all kinds of sexual things as an "alternative" to intercourse, and then... all they're saving for their spouse is the act of penetration. So it's not really special anymore. Scratch that. Just not as special as it could be (don't want to offend). The, errr, 'specialness', if you will, is limited to how you define virginity. It's meant to be practiced so that when you are with your husband/wife for the first time, and you have been with no one else, you are giving yourself to them - and you are whole. Untouched. Innocent. What kind of sacrifice are you making if you only save the "penetration"? You ever notice how, the more words you try to put into something, the more its true meaning is lost? Dyer said it beautifully. Just trying to help you understand it. Go back and read what he said. (side-note: I'm not trying to condemn anyone who has lost their virginity prior to marriage, or anyone who has "fooled around". Neither is dyer. Just trying to point out something interesting.) -Deranged Link to post Share on other sites
Errol Posted January 5, 2004 Share Posted January 5, 2004 Originally posted by dyermaker Not that I'm helpful at all, but does anyone else find it funny that the spirit of chastity is lost in the linguistics of virginity? We used to call girls like that a tease and they seldom if ever had long-term relationships. In any event, the guy couldn't respect your wishes, or set limitations of his own, and has moved on. You need to move on too. Link to post Share on other sites
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