Valentine's Day...how was yours?

[BlueeyedJonesy]

I know there are alot of people suffering on here and there are also people trying to pick up the peices. Just wondering how Valentines day/weekend went?

 

As for me, I thought it would be easy. Valentines day is one of my favorite holidays. I started out at my son's school doing his valentines day party and that was a blast..lol then my H and I left our kiddos with my IL's and went out. We went to the bar where we first met had a bucket or two;) played some pool and just spent some fun time together..then we went to eat dinner it was all very nice. While we were playing pool we made a bet..If I won, he had to take me dancing..If he won..well..I can't really talk about it here because its very x rated:p but long story short I WON..lol we decided not to go dancing but instead go to a local novelty sex store. I know, we're weird but its just what we do..anyways..its the first time I've been in one since everything hit the fan and yeah..it wasn't a good experience..I saw a pair of stripper shoes and that was it..I felt like a couldn't breath..like someone was holding a gun to the small of my back the whole time I was there. I should've just said something but I didn't want to be a debbie downer so I went on..holding my breath and freaking out inside..we left, he knew something was wrong. I didn't want to bring it up but we talked it out and cried a little..the night ended on a positive note..

 

The other thing I noticed, and someone brought this up a few weeks ago..but I had a horrible time picking a valentines day card for him..all of them talk about "you are the most honest man...you are so true to us.." it was a little hard.

 

How did everyone else do?

[BlueeyedJonesy]

One more thing..last night (actual valentines day) after we got dinner finished...YES I made talapia tacos.. we were standing outside smoking and I saw a shooting star! It was weird because we live right in the city. You don't ever seen them..I can't tell my wish but I'm pretty sure it will come true.

[Spark1111]

It was wonderful....

 

He always makes a huge effort on Valentine's Day. Cards, roses, holding my hand, Broadway show, dinner with my brother and his wife, passionate steamy night at a hotel....

 

Yes, cards are hard. Mine read the day I met you changed my life forever, and I can never forget that... (True, and I don't!)

 

His read, I may not be perfect but know I will always love you...

 

It is all good, but like Snowflower says, forgiveness is a process, and somedays are harder than others, especially when a trigger comes out of left field.

 

Then, a wonderful day like yesterday comes along filled with sentimental tears and kisses and joy!

 

I still rollercoaster at times, but not nearly as much as I use to.

[BlueeyedJonesy]

It was wonderful....

 

He always makes a huge effort on Valentine's Day. Cards, roses, holding my hand, Broadway show, dinner with my brother and his wife, passionate steamy night at a hotel....

 

Yes, cards are hard. Mine read the day I met you changed my life forever, and I can never forget that... (True, and I don't!)

 

His read, I may not be perfect but know I will always love you...

 

It is all good, but like Snowflower says, forgiveness is a process, and somedays are harder than others, especially when a trigger comes out of left field.

 

Then, a wonderful day like yesterday comes along filled with sentimental tears and kisses and joy!

 

I still rollercoaster at times, but not nearly as much as I use to.

 

Sounds like you had a great v-day! good for you, you deserve it spark!

[PhoenixRise]

It was great.

 

In the past I have had a difficult time picking cards too, and for the same reasons listed in the other responses. Nothing fit how I was feeling.

 

This year without any prearrangement we both picked blank cards and wrote personal messages.

 

We both went out of our way to make the day special and it was :love:

[bentnotbroken]

Pretty dog gone nice. Got flowers, chocolate covered strawberry's and that sinfully delicious chocolate cheesecake (which I need to work off right now:sick:) My children gave me a card that said I was their hero:love: so I got a new avie. God is so good to me.

[anne1707]

We had a lovely day together. Got each other some silly little gifts and just made the most of it being a Sunday and no work. Whenever I write him cards now, I always feel both very lucky and privileged to be able to do this and to spend my life with him after all we have been though.

[Snowflower]

Valentine's Day was great.

 

It's one of my favorite holidays, as cheesy as it is. I guess I like getting fresh flowers in the middle of winter!

 

My H and I made cards for each other--there is something about the effort that he put into creating a little card that reaffirms everything for me.

 

One thing that I noticed in all these months since d-day that it is the smallest things that make the biggest difference for me/us. The little things that I'll never take for granted again.

 

For some reason it is getting, well, easier for me somehow.

[WifeCheatedOnMe]

We had a very nice Valentine's day...Started w/ me making French Toast, fresh cut fruit and bacon for the family for breakfast. Then we exchanged cards. 'Our' gift had already been dinner out and flowers on Friday, so no real gifts other than she gave me some chocolates.

 

As for the cards, I found two....One simply just said I love you for better or for worse (true) and the other was a perfect Affair type card, IMHO. It expressed that we had TRUE love, love that endures because we know the hard times, etc...Funny thing, I wrote in my card to her about new beginnings and her card was exactly the same...All about new beginnings and even tho hard we will endure because of TRUE love. It was kind of poetic....

 

The rest of the day we spent cleaning out 'stuff' in anticipation of some redecorating...She wants to redo our bedroom to signify a new beginning, and so we were working towards that end. Ended the day with a nice dinner at home w/ the family.

[JaneInVegas]

Our Valentine's Day was okay, nothing memorable but it was sweet.

 

V-day also happens to be Mike's mom's birthday, so we went over to her house to spend it with his family. Going to visit her is torture because for whatever reason she can't remember my name. He was married to someone named Julie for 12 years (they divorced 5 or 6 years ago) and she has stuck that name on ME.

 

So all V-day afternoon and evening I had to listen to that woman screech, "Julie! Where is Julie!? Julie come over here!" She's 75, he says I need to cut her some slack. ugh ....

[on1wheel]

I thought I was the only one that had problems with what cards say. I have had such a hard time buying cards for my wife since D-day.

I don't lie-ever, so I couldn't find one the first couple of valentines days that didn't refer to trust, how they do everything for me etc.

So I altered the first two, but then switched to "fill in the blank cards".

As for this VD, it was as good as could be. She tried so hard all weekend. A really nice family dinner Saturday night, then I gave her a nice massage (she is 4 mths pregnant with our 2nd & has back pain) which always seems to lead to another activity...lol.

Sunday she gave me her card, as well as one that my 3.5 year old made; the latter really made me smile. Then she made another nice dinner & a surprise special desrt...mmm. She topped it off by telling me how sorry she was, that she would never hurt me again & that she was

the luckiest woman in the world that I stayed; that she would spend the rest of her life showing me how much she loved me.

Other than turning back time & undoing the A, I can't ask for anything more. If I could "just get over it" I would have a near perfect marriage. But I can't, as betrayal is the ultimate sin in a marriage. Some things (once broken) can never really be fixed again.