TaylorJayne Posted February 15, 2010 Share Posted February 15, 2010 I mean why do they cheat and lie and hurt you and then expect you to forgive them and move on like nothing happened. He only told me 2 days ago and he expects me to just forgive him move on and allow things to go back to the way they were. He confessed because he said he loves me and he wants to be honest with me, and he also said he did not expect to fall in love with me the way he has. But I'm not ready to forgive him....... He thinks his confession made everything go away......but why did he do this to begin with? I mean was it ok when he wasnt "madly" in love with me? I dont know- I want to leave, I guess I'm just trying to muster up the strength to not have anything to do with the man I love. Link to post Share on other sites
You'reasian Posted February 15, 2010 Share Posted February 15, 2010 I mean why do they cheat and lie and hurt you and then expect you to forgive them and move on like nothing happened. He only told me 2 days ago and he expects me to just forgive him move on and allow things to go back to the way they were. He confessed because he said he loves me and he wants to be honest with me, and he also said he did not expect to fall in love with me the way he has. But I'm not ready to forgive him....... He thinks his confession made everything go away......but why did he do this to begin with? I mean was it ok when he wasnt "madly" in love with me? I dont know- I want to leave, I guess I'm just trying to muster up the strength to not have anything to do with the man I love. Men and women cheat for either emotional or physical reasons, or both. The pain of being in the relationship causes them to look outside it for pleasure. They draw extra emotional support from the person outside of their marriage. They get physical pleasure from someone different and exciting outside their marriage. Link to post Share on other sites
Green Posted February 15, 2010 Share Posted February 15, 2010 I mean why do they cheat and lie and hurt you and then expect you to forgive them and move on like nothing happened. He only told me 2 days ago and he expects me to just forgive him move on and allow things to go back to the way they were. He confessed because he said he loves me and he wants to be honest with me, and he also said he did not expect to fall in love with me the way he has. But I'm not ready to forgive him....... He thinks his confession made everything go away......but why did he do this to begin with? I mean was it ok when he wasnt "madly" in love with me? I dont know- I want to leave, I guess I'm just trying to muster up the strength to not have anything to do with the man I love. He will just do it again. And when he does it to you again it will be because you decided to keep dating him. Why did he even feel the need to tell you, just so he could be anoyed at the way you don't automaticaly get over it? Break up with him. If you don't live with him, then the break up will be much easier. You don't have to be mad at him, or hate him, just realize you deserve better and if you keep dating the answer to your question why do people cheat is "because I let them" Link to post Share on other sites
Dexter Morgan Posted February 15, 2010 Share Posted February 15, 2010 I mean why do they cheat and lie and hurt you and then expect you to forgive them and move on like nothing happened. . because they are selfish SOB's Link to post Share on other sites
kardee7 Posted February 15, 2010 Share Posted February 15, 2010 My experience: once a cheater always a cheater. It's a sad reality, especially if you're the one being cheated on (as I was). While people who cheat may have reasons ie there is something missing in the relationship, it's the cowards way out. Ending a relationship before cheating is always the best option. As much as it may hurt, it hurts far worse to feel that kind of intense betrayal. Link to post Share on other sites
silverplanets Posted February 16, 2010 Share Posted February 16, 2010 My answer would be that (unless they had a gun to their head) they cheat because they wanted to at the time they did it. Link to post Share on other sites
sid3 Posted February 16, 2010 Share Posted February 16, 2010 I agree with the others. Life is too dam short to spend it with someone that cheats, once is one time too many. Do you really want to spend the rest of your life having even the slightest doubt that it could happen again. Sure it will be tough to not have the person you loved in your life, just remind yourself that you love yourself more. Link to post Share on other sites
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