kristinabopp Posted February 17, 2010 Share Posted February 17, 2010 PLS READ MY THREAD.THE ONE BEFORE THIS. SO MY EX, HE KEPT CHANGING HIS STATUS'S ON YAHOO MESSENGER! FIRST ONE IS LIKE *COULD I BE FALLING FOR HER, AND AFTER A MIN. he changed it to, LETS SEE HOW THIS WORKS, and then he changed it again to, HOPE TO GET YOU SOMEDAY, and then he changed it again to, HOPE TO MAKE YOU MINE!!! wtf!im invisible to him i dont want to appear online to him and now that i read those status's msgs he puts on, i deleted him on my yahoo messenger coz i dont wanna see those stuff!i know him, he doesnt really put on some status msgs but right now im like CRUSHED TO DEATH!!my heart is already crushed, and imagine crushing it more.i deleted him and i hope he doesnt see me online one time. because sometimes yahoo messenger makes u visible to someone even if u know ur invisible. holy ****, im so nervous right now, im crying, im mad, i just want to curse him and see karma gets back to him. i love him so much and i even pray everyday for him. my life sucks right now, and it sucks more because of him! im totally dead. i dont even want to be in a relationship anymore.. i dont see myself with anyone else.i dont want to be in a relationship because i dont want to get hurt again. i dont know what to do!!i dont know what hes tryin to do/say!!but im totally depressed!! Link to post Share on other sites
USMCHokie Posted February 17, 2010 Share Posted February 17, 2010 Hopefully we all can at least take this as a lesson in what breaking NC does to you. Even reading his status updates or checking FB pages is breaking NC... You seriously have to stop worrying or anticipating how your ex will react to everything you do. You shouldn't care. So what if he sees you online? This shouldn't matter to you. I never blocked my ex on anything. I didn't need to, because I didn't care whether she'd look at my stuff. You're not in each other's lives anymore...stop trying to pretend that you are... No one can help you except for yourself. As long as you keep in contact with him by checking up on his sh*t, you will continue to feel this way. It's as simple as that, and until you can discipline yourself to stay away from him, things will not get better. Sorry. Link to post Share on other sites
j444 Posted February 17, 2010 Share Posted February 17, 2010 You will have to start helping yourself. He is giving you silent closure. It is so hard to let go sometimes. You will have to for your own sanity. I am dealing with something the same but different. My ex asked me not to have any contact with her, so I respect her wish. But she has some sort of contact with me almost everyday. Text, call, email, IM. But she will not take any steps forward, she says she wants to say hi. It has started to get the best of me, so I am beginning to detach myself from this situation, and it is slowing helping. Hang in there, and be strong for yourself. Link to post Share on other sites
Author kristinabopp Posted February 17, 2010 Author Share Posted February 17, 2010 but he added me on his yahoo messenger this feb.1. and i dont even know why he added me and told me all those stuff. i made myself invisible to him and deleted him on yahoo messenger. oh well, now atleast hes not on my yahoo messenger anymore! ( Link to post Share on other sites
HeavenOrHell Posted February 17, 2010 Share Posted February 17, 2010 Don't read into anything, there's no point, none of it means anything. You're young you have plenty of time to find someone who wants to be with you. Link to post Share on other sites
sean1970 Posted February 17, 2010 Share Posted February 17, 2010 but he added me on his yahoo messenger this feb.1. and i dont even know why he added me and told me all those stuff. Yes, you do... Link to post Share on other sites
McGrupp Posted February 17, 2010 Share Posted February 17, 2010 ..really i mean he played phil collins...i think you could do better... Link to post Share on other sites
sunrae Posted February 17, 2010 Share Posted February 17, 2010 ..really i mean he played phil collins...i think you could do better... Oh? That's not a good sign? Come on sing with me. ... Now I, I wish it would rain down, down on me Yes I wish it would rain, rain down on me now.... Come on I cant hear you... Link to post Share on other sites
sunrae Posted February 17, 2010 Share Posted February 17, 2010 Oh seriously.... kristinabopp, People have warned you, this was only going to hurt you and cause you pain in the end, that's what NC is for... For you to heal, take time for yourself, get over him. You have been holding out hope, only to get crushed again.. Link to post Share on other sites
USMCHokie Posted February 17, 2010 Share Posted February 17, 2010 Oh? That's not a good sign? Come on sing with me. ... Now I, I wish it would rain down, down on me Yes I wish it would rain, rain down on me now.... Come on I cant hear you... 'Cause you'll be in my heart Yes, you'll be in my heart From this day on Now and forever more You'll be in my heart No matter what they say You'll be here in my heart, always... Link to post Share on other sites
CaliGuy Posted February 17, 2010 Share Posted February 17, 2010 Why not block/delete him from IM and resolve the problem for good? Play with fire, you will get burned.... Link to post Share on other sites
DustySaltus Posted February 17, 2010 Share Posted February 17, 2010 'Cause you'll be in my heart Yes, you'll be in my heart From this day on Now and forever more You'll be in my heart No matter what they say You'll be here in my heart, always... more like, "I see your true colors shining through" OR "I can feel it coming in the air tonight....oh lord" Link to post Share on other sites
USMCHokie Posted February 17, 2010 Share Posted February 17, 2010 more like, "I see your true colors shining through" OR "I can feel it coming in the air tonight....oh lord" Yea, I agree...but I was just trying to woo Sunrae with sweet sing song... I like Genesis better anyway... Link to post Share on other sites
sunrae Posted February 17, 2010 Share Posted February 17, 2010 Yea, I agree...but I was just trying to woo Sunrae with sweet sing song... I like Genesis better anyway... :love: (deep sigh).... I heart you!!! :love: That made my week!! Link to post Share on other sites
USMCHokie Posted February 17, 2010 Share Posted February 17, 2010 :love: (deep sigh).... I heart you!!! :love: That made my week!! :love: I heart you too! :love: I think I have no choice but to go down there in my sexay gym attire to get coffee with you... Link to post Share on other sites
sunrae Posted February 17, 2010 Share Posted February 17, 2010 :love: I heart you too! :love: I think I have no choice but to go down there in my sexay gym attire to get coffee with you... YAY!... My day keeps getting better and better.. Stop it, I dont think I would be able to handle myself, with you in the sexy gym outfit or the running shorts... Link to post Share on other sites
USMCHokie Posted February 17, 2010 Share Posted February 17, 2010 YAY!... My day keeps getting better and better.. Stop it, I dont think I would be able to handle myself, with you in the sexy gym outfit or the running shorts... Heheheh, hooray! I forgot about those shorts of mine...mmmm, the nut huggers + the spaghetti strap tanktop that barely covers my nipples...that's a winning combination right there...if I can't woo you wearing that, then there's no hope for me... Link to post Share on other sites
sunrae Posted February 17, 2010 Share Posted February 17, 2010 Heheheh, hooray! I forgot about those shorts of mine...mmmm, the nut huggers + the spaghetti strap tanktop that barely covers my nipples...that's a winning combination right there...if I can't woo you wearing that, then there's no hope for me... OMG, my co workers are probably wondering what the heck I am laughing at so hard in my office... That is too funny.. Nut huggers, nice..... Well maybe you can model that outfit in the "privacy of ones home" and I'll model the green bathing suit I sent the other day. Link to post Share on other sites
USMCHokie Posted February 17, 2010 Share Posted February 17, 2010 OMG, my co workers are probably wondering what the heck I am laughing at so hard in my office... That is too funny.. Nut huggers, nice..... Well maybe you can model that outfit in the "privacy of ones home" and I'll model the green bathing suit I sent the other day. Ooh la la...:love: Well, that's usually what I wear around the house. They're like my PJ's...just without all the annoying cloth and coverage... And then when I'm ready to go out, I don't even need to change! Link to post Share on other sites
sunrae Posted February 17, 2010 Share Posted February 17, 2010 Ooh la la...:love: Well, that's usually what I wear around the house. They're like my PJ's...just without all the annoying cloth and coverage... And then when I'm ready to go out, I don't even need to change! Nice visual... That sounds pretty darn sexy.. Link to post Share on other sites
Author kristinabopp Posted February 18, 2010 Author Share Posted February 18, 2010 GUYS! i already deleted him in my yahoo messenger since yesterday. NOW I TOTALLY WONT BELIEVE IN THAT SONG THAT HE MADE ME LISTEN TO!HE IS A FREAKIN LIAR!! ITS HARD TO ADMIT THAT HE MADE ME LISTEN TO IT, AND NOW HE IS DOING SOMETHING DIFF. U KNOW.. im seriously not going back to him, EVEN IF HE IS EVER TO ASK ME TO COME BACK *WHICH I REALLY KNOW WILL NOT HAPPEN*. i dont ever want to go back to him after all that he did to me. hes not gonna be aBle to see me online anymore, if he wants to contact me, HE SHOULD FIND A WAY! but i hate myself for loving him!i love him still even if he did all this lying stuff to me! i want to hate him but i find that impossible.i want time to be faster coz i cant take being depressed anymore because of him. THAT SONG IS ANNOYING ME NOW!the things he did is completely the opposite of the song! thank u guys for being there for me!pls dont stop helping,u r all i can only vent out w/ this.since i dont really have friends and cant go out of the house. Link to post Share on other sites
USMCHokie Posted February 18, 2010 Share Posted February 18, 2010 GUYS! i already deleted him in my yahoo messenger since yesterday. NOW I TOTALLY WONT BELIEVE IN THAT SONG THAT HE MADE ME LISTEN TO!HE IS A FREAKIN LIAR!! ITS HARD TO ADMIT THAT HE MADE ME LISTEN TO IT, AND NOW HE IS DOING SOMETHING DIFF. U KNOW.. im seriously not going back to him, EVEN IF HE IS EVER TO ASK ME TO COME BACK *WHICH I REALLY KNOW WILL NOT HAPPEN*. i dont ever want to go back to him after all that he did to me. hes not gonna be aBle to see me online anymore, if he wants to contact me, HE SHOULD FIND A WAY! but i hate myself for loving him!i love him still even if he did all this lying stuff to me! i want to hate him but i find that impossible.i want time to be faster coz i cant take being depressed anymore because of him. THAT SONG IS ANNOYING ME NOW!the things he did is completely the opposite of the song! thank u guys for being there for me!pls dont stop helping,u r all i can only vent out w/ this.since i dont really have friends and cant go out of the house. You need to calm down...you're saying A LOT of contradictory things...we all know your situation now, and to be honest, there's nothing left for us to tell you that will help you...we've told you time and time again everything you need to do to get over this...but you don't follow our advice...and then you come back here freaking out and wondering why you're still depressed and not moving on... First of all, stop listening to the song...stop reading the lyrics to the song...stop thinking about the song... Second of all, you can delete him or block him or even avoid your yahoo messenger altogether, but all three of those things can be undone with the click of a mouse...you say you deleted him...but what's going to stop you from adding him again later tonight? Ok, let's say you block him...what's going to stop you from unblocking him tomorrow? The point is, YOU have to make these changes and stick with them. It takes discipline and self-control to eliminate ALL avenues of contact you have with him. And this is going to take some time for you to get over...it may take weeks or even months...but every time you come back to LS and freak out like this, you're practically starting right back at the beginning...and there's nothing any of us at LS can do to help you...you have to help yourself first... Link to post Share on other sites
Author kristinabopp Posted February 18, 2010 Author Share Posted February 18, 2010 i did!and i swear im not going to add him back or message him back. and FYI, i never listened to the song after the last time he made me listen to it. i know im not going to message or add him back. Link to post Share on other sites
USMCHokie Posted February 18, 2010 Share Posted February 18, 2010 i did!and i swear im not going to add him back or message him back. and FYI, i never listened to the song after the last time he made me listen to it. i know im not going to message or add him back. For your sake, I hope you stay true to your word...this isn't the first time you told us that you wouldn't message him or talk to him or check up on him... I know it hurts right now, but stay patient...your day will come when you will look back and wonder what you were thinking...stay strong! Link to post Share on other sites
Author kristinabopp Posted February 18, 2010 Author Share Posted February 18, 2010 i broke nc before because he called and messaged me and added me on his ym. now im totally doing it. but thanks USMCHOKIE, i appreciate u and everyones help. Link to post Share on other sites
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