i want to get my mom back, !!

[sigma47]

hai everyone,

i like my teacher a lot, i really respect her and would do anything she tells. i consider her my MOM and i always call her mom, from the way i grew up and the place i grew up, i had no people with love, i didnt love anybody nor talked with anyone, i grew up in solitude, but when i first talked to my mom, i felt something incredibly wonderful. she listens to me with patience and likes me a lot, she even calls me her son. she was the first person i ever trusted in, my love for her as a son is really agape. but i made a mistake once.

 

i hurted her self-respect once, but i didnt do it wantedly, i did it with out of love, but due to bad timing it hurted her badly in her heart. after a day i immediately apolozised her and told her i didnt do it wantedly. but she was not ready to listen. she told me not to talk with her. after a week i talked to her, but she wasnt even ready, this time i told her "did you use me mom", i dont know why i said that. i didnt say it because i was angry. i said it out of fear. i feared that i would loose her forever. thats the first time in my life to loose a tongue. from that day onwards i regret myself for my behaviour. but she is the only person i trust and i like in this world. i prayed to baba daily.

 

i like her very much, i her name i donated blood twice during this sad time. i am working really hard to win her heart back. she told me once that i have a place in her heart. now i want to get my place back and i want to be a good son to her forever, i couldnt face her and she was a bit angry on seeing me, but i know she is not angry with me, but angry at the things i did. i really want to make her proud of me and i really want her to accept me back as her son.

 

just today morning i saw this site, i dont think its any coincidence.i hope everyone understands me and help me.waiting for everyones reply and i hope everyone will accept me.

[quankanne]

give her time and space to work through her anger – it shows a huge kind of respect for someone when you do that.

 

you don't say what it is you did, but I think it's safe to say that you've learned from your mistake, and you've grown to a point where you're not gonna make that mistake again ... or anything similar to it.

 

when someone loves you with a mother's heart, you've got to remember you have the potential to disappoint and heart them, so tread lightly ...

[whichwayisup]

I agree. Allow her time and space..Let her go for now.. When someone backs off and asks for space, it has to and should be respected.

 

Forgive yourself for your mistake. You're human and hopefully soon once she calms down, thinks for a while, she'll come find you again.

[Ronni_W]

sigma,

Even though you think of her as your "mom", she is still just your teacher. And it really doesn't matter why you call her "mom"...she is still just your teacher. Of course she does care about you...but as a teacher for her students. Not as a parent for a child.

 

It's possible that, due to your distorted perceptions of the teacher-student relationship, you started making inappropriate demands or having inappropriate feelings towards her.

 

As your teacher, she would need to ensure that the relationship stays appropriate...she would have professional and ethical responsibilities and obligations, and she would act in ways that do not jeopardize her job.

 

Your post suggests that you've become over-dependent on this teacher and, as a result, she has found it necessary to distance herself. She is not your "mom". It is not her job or responsibility to help you feel good about yourself and emotionally safe, accepted, etc.

 

I do understand that you may be feeling abandoned but that would be the result of your own unrealistic and inappropriate expectations and demands that you placed on this teacher-student relationship.

 

You may want to subscribe to the free course available from InnerBonding.com -- it will help you understand what's going on, and how to heal and recover from your experience.

 

Hugs, and best of luck.