artchick88 Posted February 18, 2010 Share Posted February 18, 2010 2 Questions: 1.) If a man I'm friends with comes very very close to cheating on his girlfriend with a woman (..me..) but does not out of respect for his relationship (good job!) what does this indicate about the status of his relationship? Purely speculation, but does anyone have an experience similar to this where either he or she was the "near-cheater" or in my shoes? 2.) Next time I see him, (haven't seen him since the incident) how shall I act? Like nothing happened? Thank you. And if it's not apparent I have feelings for this man and yes, I know, he's taken. Not looking to be a "home-wrecker," however I would enjoy being with him. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted February 18, 2010 Share Posted February 18, 2010 ...what does this indicate about the status of his relationship? absolutely nothing ...Next time I see him, (haven't seen him since the incident) how shall I act? Like nothing happened? yes Link to post Share on other sites
Author artchick88 Posted February 18, 2010 Author Share Posted February 18, 2010 absolutely nothing yes yyyeea. haha Link to post Share on other sites
kis Posted February 18, 2010 Share Posted February 18, 2010 2 Questions: 1.) If a man I'm friends with comes very very close to cheating on his girlfriend with a woman (..me..) but does not out of respect for his relationship (good job!) what does this indicate about the status of his relationship? Purely speculation, but does anyone have an experience similar to this where either he or she was the "near-cheater" or in my shoes? 2.) Next time I see him, (haven't seen him since the incident) how shall I act? Like nothing happened? Thank you. And if it's not apparent I have feelings for this man and yes, I know, he's taken. Not looking to be a "home-wrecker," however I would enjoy being with him. Yes i have this same situation. Not very often that the man puts the brakes on. So suprising. We are still close freinds and still flirt alot and still have near cheater experiences some times. What exactly are you calling near-cheater? Link to post Share on other sites
Author artchick88 Posted February 18, 2010 Author Share Posted February 18, 2010 Yes i have this same situation. Not very often that the man puts the brakes on. So suprising. We are still close freinds and still flirt alot and still have near cheater experiences some times. What exactly are you calling near-cheater? Thanks for your thoughtful reply. Always nice to find those on these threads. Welp, besides the strong chemistry between us, the other weekend we slept in the same bed and cuddled/heavy petted (is there a less awkward word for that?) and let our faces rest very close to one another's but we didn't kiss. In the morning I moved into another bed because I felt strange about the situation. Also, he told me that he and his girlfriend were "having problems" and "to wait" but I know they have been together forever so I'm just assuming he said this in the "heat of the moment." Do you think that is near-cheating? Link to post Share on other sites
anne1707 Posted February 18, 2010 Share Posted February 18, 2010 Do you think that is near-cheating? No it's not near-cheating, it is cheating. How do you think his girlfriend would feel about the two of you sleeping together and heavy petting (not kissing is irrelevant considering everything else you did)? Do you really want to be responsible for causing that kind of pain? Stop this now - if things are bad between him and his girlfriend and he really wants to be with you, then he has to split from her before you two take things any further. As it is, I suspect that you believe he has no intention of leaving her so just walk away now before he hurts you too. Link to post Share on other sites
Awesome Username Posted February 18, 2010 Share Posted February 18, 2010 Steer clear of this craziness. All men say that they're having problems with their girlfriend when they want to get some with someone else. Good thing one of you (or both) had a conscience to stop this before you two did anything else. Stop this in its tracks, and don't mention it again. Link to post Share on other sites
Author artchick88 Posted February 18, 2010 Author Share Posted February 18, 2010 No it's not near-cheating, it is cheating. How do you think his girlfriend would feel about the two of you sleeping together and heavy petting (not kissing is irrelevant considering everything else you did)? Do you really want to be responsible for causing that kind of pain? Stop this now - if things are bad between him and his girlfriend and he really wants to be with you, then he has to split from her before you two take things any further. As it is, I suspect that you believe he has no intention of leaving her so just walk away now before he hurts you too. All so true, thank you for your thoughts. Link to post Share on other sites
freestyle Posted February 18, 2010 Share Posted February 18, 2010 Sharing a bed, petting and cuddling are absolutely cheating. He might be one these types who can't be alone, ever, so he's lining up his next relationship before properly ending his current relationship. Fast-forward, hypothetically......... Imagine the two of you do end up together.... how would you feel about him spending the night with a female "friend"? Someday that could be you in the same position his gf is in now. Knowing that he's doing this to his current gf, are you going to be able to really trust him?.......... Link to post Share on other sites
Author artchick88 Posted February 18, 2010 Author Share Posted February 18, 2010 Sharing a bed, petting and cuddling are absolutely cheating. Someday that could be you in the same position his gf is in now. Knowing that he's doing this to his current gf, are you going to be able to really trust him?.......... I tend to trust that people are mostly good. I respect him for not taking it further. At this point in time I think I would be able to trust him, but I know in the future I'd have a looming suspicious. Good point. GOSH! He really messed this up. I really like him but he muddied the waters a bit. Oh, not to mention -- He still has a girlfriend! HAHA stupid me. Link to post Share on other sites
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