Things are getting better...turning negatives into positives

[Thinkalot]

A few of you who have helped me on my journey to recovery from insecurity/obsessive thoughts/being stuck in the past/jealousy about my partner's ex-wife etc. have asked to know how I am going, especially since I started taking anti-depressants.

 

I just wanted to share (as much for myself as anyone else I think) that things are getting better for me. It's only early days and I am not all the way there yet, but the self-talk and nagging doubts/fears in my head has quietened down, and therefore, so have the panic attacks which sometimes come with those thoughts (sweating, sick in the tummy, trembling etc). I am also managing to turn the negative talk into positive talk and affirmations, and generally feeling better about myself and the wonderful and varied life I have lived to date. I am also trying to be a less demanding partner and "easing up" on some things. My bf told me this morning, " I know you are feeling better, because you are smiling so much more- and not fake smiles, but real ones!".

 

I have been taking the medication, Lovan, for a couple of weeks, so I think it may be having some good effect. Side effects have included some lightheadedness, and slight nausea...but that seems to have passed. I have been busy of late, and my bf and I have had less sex than we usually do, but I think that is more a sympton of how busy we have been, than the drugs. Out of curiosity, has anyone on this medication suffered lowered libido?

 

I have also spent some time with my closest friend, and my mum and talked to them at length, and received love, support and guidance. And, have also been reading books and found a psychologist I like. My bf is also showing me love and support at this time.

 

Today is a good day, and they aren't all this easy. Sometimes I slip into the old ways, and question my bf about stuff I know I shouldn't. Sometimes I worry/fret about little things and it's overpowering for a time. But usually I can fight it off, and get over it more quickly than before. I also accept that setbacks will happen, forgive myself any mistakes, and move on with confidence. This "being nice to myself" is something new, instead of beating myself up! And the good days are getting much more common.

 

I thought I had started getting better in the past (toward the end of last year), but I think it was wishful thinking in part. I simply knew and understood what was wrong with me and that I had issues, but still couldn't quite fix it!

 

I now feel I have turned a corner for real. Bring on 2004!

 

I hope my experiences are of help/guidance/encouragement to others who have suffered/are suffering similar problems to me. I'm sure I will still need to ask for plenty more advice and it's nice knowing LS is here.

[moimeme]

has anyone on this medication suffered lowered libido?

 

unfortunately, it's one of the more common side-effects

[longlegzs80]

THINKALOT: That is great that you are on meds. It is good to hear that your trying to be a more positive person. I find with myself the only reason I am not willing to go on meds is because of the side effects that they have. I can simply admit that I have a problem that I struggle with day in and day out, but with me being a stubborn fool, I am going to continue with my ways and suffer. Wish I could make smart decisions, but I don't want to deal with going through my life on meds.

 

But anyways, good for you that you are taking a major twist in your life and it is working for you.

[Caddy]

It can be a side effect, so you want to make sure that you discuss this with your doctor as soon as you can. He may try you on a different med without the decreased libido.

 

I am so glad to hear you are doing better!!!!!!

[meanon]

I am so glad to hear you are doing better!!!!!!

Me too

[Arabess]

I'm glad you are getting your smile back.........

[Thinkalot]

Thanks for the support everyone.