dsbs1939 Posted January 6, 2004 Share Posted January 6, 2004 Get this bizarre experience--I met a guy through a mutual friend, physically I was attracted to him and he seemed intelligent, quirky, kind--to name of few. He asked my friend for my email address and phone number. He emailed me first. We emailed a bit, and he mentioned that he is a muscian but, and he offered this information, not me, that he may be a musician but he does not lead a musician's life--I assumed he skipped the drugs and sex??! We moved from email to the phone, and on our initial conversation, I was actually quite nervous with him speaking with him, and I guess he really noticed this. When we met the next day, he actually confessed that he really wasn't too sure he wanted to go on the date because he felt that during our whole conversation on the phone, he could not get a word in edgewise!!! Well, we met for drinks and appetizers, the conversation seem to go well, he invited me over to his apartment. (nice guy, but he doesn't clean his apartment). So, after I found some place to sit down on, we started chatting. He got me a beer, turned the lights down low, lit some candles, and pulled a seat up to me. As the conversation progressed, he mentioned something about how sometimes when he goes out to perform at the festivals he plays at, he hooks up with a women for a week or two, they sleep together, and then that is it. However, he does stay in touch with her. He also mentioned that he can have friendly feelings toward women, not necessarily some spark, and they sleep together. I tell him that while there have been times when I have taken the plunge and slept with people on the first date, I generally don't--I have been with eight men, I am in my mid-thirties, and only one was a one night stand. So, in the end, he says that he feels that honesty is important in any relationship and he says there is no spark between us...oh and he says that he was diagnosed with ADD and I should see a psychiatrist too to be diagnosed...WAH!!! Does dating get any easier!? How am i supposed to interpret his contradictory behavior? Link to post Share on other sites
Medgirl Posted January 6, 2004 Share Posted January 6, 2004 Pff I'm sorry but this guy sounds kind of like a loser. I definately think you could do better. I mean, where is a relationship like that going to go? Down the line you might feel bad when you think back on how he said there wasn't a spark and he'd constantly be telling you to take medication. It sounds to me like he was willing to take a little somethin somethin but I don't think it's going to go much farther than that. Dating can be akward and you meet strange people like this, but I think it's neccessary and can be fun. Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
cdn Posted January 6, 2004 Share Posted January 6, 2004 How am i supposed to interpret his contradictory behavior? Hmm. What part do you consider contradictory? Seems to me he laid the foundation for his desire to have sex in a no-spark, not-long-term, "friendly" way and you told him you weren't interested. I'm not sure how the whole ADD thing fits, but, frankly, this guy doesn't sound like a good bet. Move on. Link to post Share on other sites
Errol Posted January 6, 2004 Share Posted January 6, 2004 LOLOLOL! That's one to tell your grandchildren about! Whoever your future husband may be (if you decide to get married someday) I'll bet he will have a laugh over this too! I hope the next guy turns out to be better than this dude! Link to post Share on other sites
InLoKo Posted January 6, 2004 Share Posted January 6, 2004 Sounds like you had a lucky escape! Loser! Link to post Share on other sites
NatoPMT Posted January 6, 2004 Share Posted January 6, 2004 tell him, you are sorry but you have tourettes syndrome then tell him to f*ck off. Link to post Share on other sites
SoleMate Posted January 6, 2004 Share Posted January 6, 2004 Beautiful, BigBelm! I got to say, this "no spark - I wanna do you - take these pills" guys is really one for the memory album. You'll be dining out on this story for years to come. GodSpeed. Link to post Share on other sites
dsbs1939 Posted January 7, 2004 Share Posted January 7, 2004 Yeah--what was contradictory? I see the writing (or kitty poop) on the wall. Why didn't I see this when it was all happening? It makes sense, he sets up his smelly livingroom--shag--pad for a potential lay, he introduced his terms and I didn't jump or fall into his futon. How is it that they look so normal, even charming like and then you find out they are complete....idiots. Or is it that I am not paying attention enough? Yeah, the date ended about 1ish, I headed home and my housemate asked me how it went...and all I could do was laugh, none stop laugh!!! Dating is tough when you have to spend the whole evening trying to figure out what they are really saying, do you know what I mean....and who doesn't get nervous sometimes on a date? Why am I so patient with these shmucks?!!! Who wants to become a serial dater.... I am now going to go write 1000 times--I will not become a professional, serial dater. BigBelm's comment was the best. Link to post Share on other sites
SoleMate Posted January 7, 2004 Share Posted January 7, 2004 Oh well, no harm done and you have a good story, right? I used to be real picky about who I would go out with (in my younger days). I wasn't getting a lot of dates, so I decided to loosen my standard. Three days later, I tightened them again and haven't changed my standards since...there are a lot of borderline humanoids out there. At leat your "shag man" was relatively upfront and not a headtrip kinda dude... It's life! Link to post Share on other sites
dyermaker Posted January 8, 2004 Share Posted January 8, 2004 It's true, this guy was a loser, but he was decent enough to not hide that from you. I think you should admire that in him, as you cut him WAY loose. Link to post Share on other sites
Arabess Posted January 8, 2004 Share Posted January 8, 2004 Originally posted by BigBelm tell him, you are sorry but you have tourettes syndrome then tell him to f*ck off. My favorite post of the year so far!!!!! Thanks BigBelm! Dsbs, I wouldn't give this guy the time of day. He's a delusional lunatic. If he has so many women available to him....why would he go out with you if he 'felt' there was no connection? I bet he hasn't gotten laid since last Easter. If you really want to.....call to tell him you DID see a therapist and then repeat what BigBelm said. TFF!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
NatoPMT Posted January 8, 2004 Share Posted January 8, 2004 *bobs in curtsey* Link to post Share on other sites
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