sunshinegirl Posted February 20, 2010 Share Posted February 20, 2010 So. I'm not engaged...yet... but my boyfriend has started a ring fund. We've been dating for about 4 months. He alluded to the fact that he was financially planning for the future six or eight weeks ago...and about a week ago he let it drop that he had started a ring fund. We had a really special Valentine's Day, exchanging I love you's for the first time (even though we've both been feeling it since before the holidays) and talking more seriously and in more depth about our future together. True, we haven't been dating for all that long, but I'm 36, he's 37, we've known each other for almost 9 months, and we both know what we want. It's been really joyful to find the person who embodies all that I hoped I would find. He's also in that rarefied demographic of late 30's, single, never-married, no-children, gainfully-employed, emotionally-available, and marriage-minded men. Beyond that, I can't say enough how great he is, just a perfect match for me. We make each other laugh, constantly; we talk about everything; we have a similar outlook on life and share the same values; we want the same things; we've met each other's families and friends; we've talked about kids... I've never been with anyone who just fits me, my life, my goals, hopes, and aspirations as well as he does. He's the guy that I didn't think existed - and I almost didn't give him a chance! (That's a good story, too - when we met, he was interested right away but it took me almost 4 months to come around.) We don't feel ready to be engaged tomorrow or anything, but I'm fairly certain it will happen in 2010. He might wait til our 1-year anniversary in October, but it won't surprise me if it happens before then. Funny - I had all but given up hope of meeting my life's mate. If you look at my post history, I've had some pretty awful breakups that I had to work pretty hard to get over...and then I had such a lousy time with the online dating sites that I swore off dating altogether. I decided to focus on my life and happiness "sans relationship" and...boom. Met him when I totally, and literally, wasn't looking. For fun, I will put up a recent photo of us in my profile for a little while. Sorry to ramble; it's just a happy time for me/us. Link to post Share on other sites
Star Gazer Posted February 20, 2010 Share Posted February 20, 2010 That's totally awesome. BF has said that the house he bought (4-5 months into our relationship) he bought because I had come into his life. He'd been eyeing it , this house, and had watched it go on and off the market for years. He didn't take the leap and buy it because he hadn't really felt the need for a big house (he was in a condo), because he didn't feel the need to start "planning" for a wife and family until he met me. (And unfortunately when he did, that house - even with the market the way it is - was more expensive than it ever had been before!) So while it's like 10 months later and we still don't technically live together, nor are we engaged, it's awesome when you meet someone who's ready and KNOWS and ACKNOWLEDGES that they've found the real deal. There's a sort of peace about it. It's not whether it will happen, it's just a matter of when. Ahhh, love. It's grand!! Link to post Share on other sites
Star Gazer Posted February 20, 2010 Share Posted February 20, 2010 And your picture is adorable! You two look quite smitten with one another! Link to post Share on other sites
threebyfate Posted February 20, 2010 Share Posted February 20, 2010 ssg, I'm really happy for you. He sounds like a great guy! The two of you look so happy together! I think back to how sad and hurt you were, when you came back to LS, this past time. To see you not only doing well but doing great, should be inspirational to those that are still in pain! Link to post Share on other sites
Author sunshinegirl Posted February 20, 2010 Author Share Posted February 20, 2010 Thanks to both of you! SG - yes, it's a really amazing feeling to be with someone who is ready, and knows, and acknowledges that he's found the real deal. We're both amazed at how much timing has played a role in this - had we met sooner, one or both of us wouldn't have been ready for the other. But when we did find each other (or, more accurately, when I opened my eyes to give him a chance), within a month I had a feeling he was going to be the man I marry. The love I feel for him isn't of the giddy and anxious kind. It's a calm serenity, an obvious "oh, of course this is who I am meant to be with!" feeling. An "I just know" kind of feeling. I don't have to analyze it, work at it, or stress about it. Art_Critic's signature has never rung more true: ~~ One day someone will walk into your life and make you see why it never worked out with anyone else.. ~~ TBF - you played a role in my recovery from that douchehound awhile back. It took me a long time to step away and see what a horrid, horrid match he was for me. Now I'm (almost) thankful he cheated on me, because it freed me to find my real partner. Link to post Share on other sites
Author sunshinegirl Posted February 27, 2010 Author Share Posted February 27, 2010 My parents are in town this weekend, and after brunch this morning, when I was out of earshot, he asked for their blessing. We will probably get engaged sometime this summer, and have the wedding in the summer of 2011. Link to post Share on other sites
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