LisaUk Posted February 22, 2010 Share Posted February 22, 2010 All right, no harm in a positive post guys, but as for me - well, I could have done many of these things anyway, since I had a very egalatarian and relaxed marriage. My husband was a better housekeeper than me, even down to toilets, always washed and ironed his own clothes too. I often went out with my own friends, and if I didn't want to cook for us, he just made something on his own. However, our loving, fun marriage of 28 years ended when he suddenly deserted me without warning in December and moved abroad. I take little pleasure in eating popcorn for dinner etc. Sorry to inject a serious note into this, but I think that living by yourself and pleasing yourself is all very well for a bit, but it would be sad if our society cracked up into selfish little one-person units who have to do everything exactly their way. Sorry guys, but I'm with Worldgirl here, my ex never told me what to do, asked me not do things etc, he was always very supprotive and caring to my needs. The only thing I don't miss is him missing the bowl and me steping in it, but then I live with my dad now, so same old same old. Besides I would willing live with that to be with him once again. Link to post Share on other sites
MJEW Posted February 23, 2010 Share Posted February 23, 2010 what a great thread.....LMAO......im sure I'll be able to add to this eventually...in the mean time thanks for the laughs... Link to post Share on other sites
lookin2wardthefuture Posted February 23, 2010 Share Posted February 23, 2010 Gunny you posted some great advice on a thread I started around the holidays. Just wanted to say thanks, and let you know I'm currently taking the Dave Ramsey classes. No more of those crazy mood swings to deal with Making plans and only changing them if I want to No more road rage when someone drives to slowly or pulls out in front No more being embarrassed in public by outbursts (see above mood swings) Traveling when and where I want to Being able to see my family and friends without worry of somone else Not having to see another's crazy a$$ relatives ever again Not listening to the "things did'nt go my way sigh" Not being expected to read minds Playing secretary and making phone calls other than my own Link to post Share on other sites
MARINE_ONE Posted February 24, 2010 Share Posted February 24, 2010 I get way more ass! Just had to bump this!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Gunny376 Posted February 24, 2010 Author Share Posted February 24, 2010 y'all protest too much. If being single was so great, people would stop trying to find a new partner and most of the people on here do just that. Everywhere I've been and have gone in life there's always been at least one "Yea, but,................" Instead of seeing what is and what could be? Seeing the possiblities and the promise of what the present and future hold? There's one individual that raises their hand and says, "Yea, but,.............................. Instead of seeing the glass as half full, they see it as half full. The truth of the matter is? There's an up-side and a down-side to any given situation. I personally prefer to see things from the up-side of things. Life is a struggle no matter who you are? Some have it harder and tougher than others. But it all comes down to this. Its all about perspective and attitude. You can lay down and wallow with the hogs, or you can get up and 'get on gettin' it on!" Life is hard! Its harder if your stupid. There's a significant difference between being ignorant and stupid. Being ignorant is when your dumb @zz just didn't know any better. Being stupid is when you know better but do or don't do someting anyway. Yea there are plenty of people that re-bound from one relationiship to another. Never taking the time to learn from the pain. And without taking the time to learn and grow. I've been married once. I'm not going to sit here and say that I will never get married again. I may. But I can promise you one thing! This one Marine that won't be sitting around at the nursing home talking about my first, second, third, fourth X wife. And if I do ever get married again? You can bet the farm that's one wedding you want to attend! KNOWLEDGE IS KING! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Gunny376 Posted February 24, 2010 Author Share Posted February 24, 2010 Just had to bump this!! If you want less sex? Get married! The number #1 leading birth control device? A wedding cake! When you get married? Put a jar or something on the nightstand. The first year your married? Everytime you have sex? Put a penny in. Thereafter? Everytime you have sex take one out. For the rest of your life that jar will never go empty. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Gunny376 Posted February 24, 2010 Author Share Posted February 24, 2010 1. You have sex everywhere when you first get married. The livingroom, the den, the kitchen, the bathroom, on top of the freaking roof, in the sun room. 2. You only have sex in the bedroom every second Tuesday of the month. 3. The third and final stage of sex in marriage is known as 'hallway sex' As you pass her and she passes you in the hallway, you look at her and she looks at you and in unison say "Screw You!" Link to post Share on other sites
Author Gunny376 Posted February 24, 2010 Author Share Posted February 24, 2010 Gunny you posted some great advice on a thread I started around the holidays. Just wanted to say thanks, and let you know I'm currently taking the Dave Ramsey classes. OUT FREAKING STANDING! This made my day! OOOOOooooooFreakingRaaaaaa! Motivate me! Now do me one more ~ take what your learning from Dave's classes, and read Mary Hunts' "Debt Proof Living" Get that one year's net income in the bank. (AKA as "WTFAIGDN) Put back funds for known and future anticipated expenses such as auto maintenance, repair, paying your insurance premiums annually (you'll get a cheaper rate), insurance deductibles. furniture and appliance replacement, property taxes, income taxes. Get proactive not reactive with your money and finances. Thanks for posting that! That really made my day! Its good to know that I made a difference in someone's life! Oh I forgot? I'm a Marine! "Some people spend their whole lives wondering if they've made a difference. Marines don't have that problem." Ronald Reagan Link to post Share on other sites
mikeymad Posted February 24, 2010 Share Posted February 24, 2010 Gazelle intensity! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Gunny376 Posted February 24, 2010 Author Share Posted February 24, 2010 Gazelle intensity! Not following you here? Link to post Share on other sites
mikeymad Posted February 24, 2010 Share Posted February 24, 2010 it's a dave ramsey thing from financial peace university. talks about how a gazelle, even though its slower than a cheetah has to run its tail off to get away. same with debt. have to treat it like it's a matter of life and death. you can wander into debt, but sure as heck ain't gonna "wander" out! plus the clip of the gazelle getting away from the cheetah is funny. thought you'd get that one. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Gunny376 Posted February 24, 2010 Author Share Posted February 24, 2010 Although I'm a finance major, read Dave's book "Complete Money Makeover" and listen to his radio program ~ never heard the reference. I've never attended (actually didn't know he had classes going on ~ good for him) I'm just glad you got the message, espeically since your in between your divorce/ speration and your next relationship. Now is the time to get yourself and your life set up for the rest of your life! Your still young, and you've got "recovery time" to spare. The older you get the less recovery time you have. That is to say that going through a divorce at thirty is totally another bear to skin than when your say fifty. You can choose to either play now and pay later? Or you can pay now and play for the rest of your life! Guns Link to post Share on other sites
BearMox Posted February 25, 2010 Share Posted February 25, 2010 My favs from this thread that I relate to: * I can buy expensive beer! (bought the nice belgium pack from costco when I moved out instead of pabst) * I can kill zombies as much as I want!* Mine: * Leaving out my kids game consoles in plain view * Playing music that is good for the soul and my children, not Brittney, BEP or Usher, at all hours of the day or night * Shredding on the electric guitar or piano at all hours * A perma-clean kitchen, bathroom, living room and bedroom! * a peaceful home * no more or my cake-eating, cheating, give up on her family x I think I'm going to call some friends over this weekend and rent the new zombie title for the wii and have a zombie fest. Link to post Share on other sites
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