calithin83 Posted January 6, 2004 Share Posted January 6, 2004 Ive been with my bf for 3 years, and ive loved him since the start despite certain attributes of his family or him...I met him when he didnt have a car, was in high school, and really didnt have much to offer..but i cared for him still..i didnt care about the money or whatever..i just wanted to get to know him as a person... Now 3 years later he has more then what he had...he has his own car, goes to college and works as a tennis instructor, i still love him the same way despite the changes.. but 2 days ago we were arguing about soemthing and he told me that maybe we should just call it quits...i hesitated and told him that i loved him and to not give up so easily..he then told me that he wasnt sure if he truly loved me cos i was his first g/f and hes never had anypne else so he doesnt know if its love what he feels with me..so basically he would have to date soemone else to compare or whatver...which i think is understandable but rediculous at the same time... so we are doing ok now..he decided to stay with me..but now i always have it in back of my mind what he said to me...it bugs me that he doesnt know if he loves me and it bugs me that he is curious to be wtih someone else...even though im with him right now i dont feel that happy ever since he told me that, i dont think i can be myself with him anymore..i dont even feel like seeing him because i feel that if i see him i will act cold and distant..cos i dont feel like being sweet and caring anymore.. i dont know what to do cos i do care about him alot and i guess i do love him even though im hurt by this crap.... i dunno what to do....should i give him some time..some space..to figure out if he loves me or should i just move on with myself?? i dunnno.............. its been 3 years with him.. Link to post Share on other sites
SoleMate Posted January 7, 2004 Share Posted January 7, 2004 If you do give him space, make sure you both have a shared understanding of what the "rules" are. Can you bed other people, what do you tell friends, how often do you talk, do you still have sex? The thing with men is, the more freedom you give them, the less they want. You cannot bind him to you with ropes or words or tears...only his love will keep him there. He's young...you're young...let him breathe, and you take the time to get some independent oxygen too. Whether you come together again or not, it is positive for you. Link to post Share on other sites
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