ziggue Posted January 7, 2004 Share Posted January 7, 2004 I am dating this guy that lives in Sydney. He has two kids. (Broke up with the Ex 4 years ago). Half the time I am there. I feel like the bloody House Wife/House Keeper/Babysitter. I get stuck with the kids (Luckily they are good kids or I would'nt be still going there!), Doing the house work, Even making dinner. I don't mind doing them only because he pays for my Taxi to get to his house from the Train Station but still I do travel for about an hour and a half to see this guy I wanna actually hang out with him and have fun. Not to be stuck doing this other stuff. Sometimes it doesn't feel like I am being appreciated enough for doing this for him. Even though he does say Thankyou. That's what I don't like about it. I feel like I am being used when I am down there just to be doing this stuff for him. He has the kids every second weekend. I wonder if it will be any different when I visit him on the weekends when he doesn't have them. Even though the kids are pretty cool and I do like them a lot. (They are 5 and 6). I haven't been able to do that lately because my friends just happen to want to hang out with me the weekends he doesn't have the kids! Link to post Share on other sites
jenny Posted January 7, 2004 Share Posted January 7, 2004 are you willing to give up a little time with your friends to see him when he's unemcumbered? frankly, this doesn't sound like it has a future. it's pretty easy to get sucked into the role of caretaker for women. his kids come with him, they are a package deal. period. you have a right not to want that, but make the decision now before the kids get too attached to you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ziggue Posted January 8, 2004 Author Share Posted January 8, 2004 I am willing to give up a little free time with my friends but I couldn't this weekend. One of my close friends is having a Baby Shower. . . I am having seconds thoughts about the guy but now. Even before I posted the last message. I am not even sure where I stand with him. That is probably why I feel like I am being used to be his babysitter/house keeper. I don't know whether I'm his girlfriend or if it's just the friends with 'benifits' deal or what kind of role I have being there. . Link to post Share on other sites
xalysabethh Posted January 8, 2004 Share Posted January 8, 2004 this is just my opionon but i think if the kids are involved wiht you in anyway you need to clarify things with him. me and my boyfriend both have full custody of our kids and before we took it to the next level we had many talks and took it real slow. to the point where we knew we wanted to be together etc b/c if you are playing a big roll in theese kids lives they could get attatched and hurt. especially at that age. just a thouhgt xalysabeth Link to post Share on other sites
Author ziggue Posted January 9, 2004 Author Share Posted January 9, 2004 Oh no I am not playing a big role in the kids lives. I only hang out there every couple of weekends and get asked to help out and babysit. That was a bad example. Oops! I just feel like I am around the kids more longer then I am with the guy who I mainly came and visited. Link to post Share on other sites
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