Jerry18 Posted February 22, 2010 Share Posted February 22, 2010 (edited) Should you still hang out with a girl and have dinner with girl if you're not attracted to her? I'm just doing that because I'm bored. Would she get feelings? Edited February 22, 2010 by Jerry18 Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted February 22, 2010 Share Posted February 22, 2010 If she feels the same way, (ie, not into you) then you're on safe ground. If she doesn't feel the same way, but you're not sure of her feelings, then you're on shifting sands. If you know she has feelings, and you still do it, then you're a jerk. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Jerry18 Posted February 22, 2010 Author Share Posted February 22, 2010 If she feels the same way, (ie, not into you) then you're on safe ground. If she doesn't feel the same way, but you're not sure of her feelings, then you're on shifting sands. If you know she has feelings, and you still do it, then you're a jerk. Is not talking about relationships a good solution? If I never mention anything about dating or sex then there's no way she'll assume I like her right? Link to post Share on other sites
txsilkysmoothe Posted February 22, 2010 Share Posted February 22, 2010 Have you told her the reason you're hanging out with her is because you're "bored?" Tell her and let her decide............... Link to post Share on other sites
JohnM Posted February 28, 2010 Share Posted February 28, 2010 It sounds a bit tactless to inform a girl the only reason you're hanging out and having a meal is because you're bored. It could make it seem as if she is the bottom of a list. Do you flirt? Link to post Share on other sites
Fouts Posted March 1, 2010 Share Posted March 1, 2010 When men and women are 'friends' one of them has feelings for the other. If it's not you, it's her, so be careful and don't lead her on or hurt her feelings. Keep in mind she'll never admit it, just like guys don't like to tell the girl they're 'friends' with that they secretly are in love with them (even though the girl already knows) Link to post Share on other sites
dwilliams_22 Posted March 4, 2010 Share Posted March 4, 2010 I'm a girl and I have a male friend with no romantic feelings but its hard to tell in this case. At the same time, what made you even ask this question? She must have did something or said something to make you feel as if she is into you otherwise you and her would be just buddies. Link to post Share on other sites
OmegaSol Posted March 15, 2010 Share Posted March 15, 2010 I have a few friends like this. I am recently out of a relationship and it feels nice to hang out one on one with a girl and just be friends. It has also come to the point were maybe they have developed feelings. In this case I would pretty much be blatent and honest and say that you are only looking for a friendship and nothing more. If they understand and say they understand then great I see no problem. But if your just taking a girl out making her feel like you like her then really not then your kinda being a jerk. Don't waste her time to make you feel good. Link to post Share on other sites
Toki Posted March 15, 2010 Share Posted March 15, 2010 eh, I tried dating a girl that I wasn't attracted to, you can't force the issue, if theres no attraction, there's no attraction. You should cut your losses now, and risk hurting her feelings, rather than sticking it out, and hurting your reputation. Link to post Share on other sites
mrkleen Posted March 17, 2010 Share Posted March 17, 2010 If she feels the same way, (ie, not into you) then you're on safe ground. If she doesn't feel the same way, but you're not sure of her feelings, then you're on shifting sands. If you know she has feelings, and you still do it, then you're a jerk. This sums it up perfectly. I have a ton of female friends that I have no interest in, and I am sure the feelings are mutual. But it is hard to be friends with someone that is holding out hope that things will turn at some point. Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted March 17, 2010 Share Posted March 17, 2010 Wait.. you're asking her for dinner just because you're BORED?! Go and grab a friend for dinner then, for chrissakes. Surely you have SOME friends that'll oblige?? Oh, wait, on second thoughts... Link to post Share on other sites
O'Malley Posted March 17, 2010 Share Posted March 17, 2010 I doubt that you've enjoyed the feeling of being dropped like a hot potato by either a male buddy or a woman you were interested in, once they found someone better to spend time with. It would be one thing if you were to tell her that there is no potential for a relationship to occur, but you obviously have your own best interests at heart by not informing her of your lack of interest. Stop wasting her - and your- time so that you both have the potential to meet people where there's actual interest. Link to post Share on other sites
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