CM2009 Posted February 24, 2010 Share Posted February 24, 2010 Wife took my name but put her's in front because her kids had her last name. example: xxxxxx-xxxxxx Link to post Share on other sites
Author threebyfate Posted February 24, 2010 Author Share Posted February 24, 2010 CM2009, are you divorcing or divorced, or are you still legally married? Link to post Share on other sites
Ronni_W Posted February 24, 2010 Share Posted February 24, 2010 One marriage, one divorce, one last name -- I'm going out with the same last name with which I came in I trust things are happy and healthy with you, TBF. Link to post Share on other sites
Author threebyfate Posted February 24, 2010 Author Share Posted February 24, 2010 Yes, I or she took his/my last name: 55% No, I or she didn't take his/my last name: 45% Statistics amended up to Ronnie, which only includes the marriages that ended in divorce. I didn't include CM2009, but will when he clarifies. Thanks to everyone who've particated. If anyone else wants to participate, the poll will be recalculated. Yes Ronnie, everything is still happy and healthy, albeit I'm annoyed at him today. He's in for it tonight! Link to post Share on other sites
Ronni_W Posted February 25, 2010 Share Posted February 25, 2010 He's in for it tonight! In that case...I hope he likes it rough Wishing continued good health. Link to post Share on other sites
Author threebyfate Posted February 25, 2010 Author Share Posted February 25, 2010 In that case...I hope he likes it rough Wishing continued good health. Strangely enough, he's working late tonight. Hope all is well with you too, Ronnie! Anyone else want to add to the name change and divorce poll, plse do! The more input, the better. Thanks. Link to post Share on other sites
dgiirl Posted February 25, 2010 Share Posted February 25, 2010 When we got married, he said he didnt care, so I kept my lastname out of laziness. When we got divorced, he told me he was always pissed i never changed my name when we got married. I'm SO glad I never did! I probably will never get married again. But if i do, I don't think i'll change my name. Link to post Share on other sites
tojaz Posted February 25, 2010 Share Posted February 25, 2010 This is a question for members who've been divorced, of either gender. If you're a man, did your ex-wife change her last name to yours, when you originally got married? Yes she did and shifted her Maiden to her middle name. Link to post Share on other sites
Author threebyfate Posted February 25, 2010 Author Share Posted February 25, 2010 Yes, I or she took his/my last name: 56.52% No, I or she didn't take his/my last name: 43.48% Statistics amended up to bentnotbroken, which only includes the marriages that ended in divorce. I didn't include CM2009, but will when he clarifies. Thanks to everyone who've particated. If anyone else wants to participate, the poll will be recalculated. Link to post Share on other sites
ann09 Posted February 25, 2010 Share Posted February 25, 2010 I took my H last name and will change back to my maiden name eventually. I don't know why but it bothers me when people divorce and the woman keeps the guy's name. Personal preferance I guess but seems very strange to me. Link to post Share on other sites
CM2009 Posted February 25, 2010 Share Posted February 25, 2010 CM2009, are you divorcing or divorced, or are you still legally married? I'm divorcing right now!! Link to post Share on other sites
BearMox Posted February 25, 2010 Share Posted February 25, 2010 I took my ex-husband's last name when I got married, and kept it after D because there were too many assets, credit cards, etc in that name. Plus my children have that last name and some are still in school. If I remarry, I will gladly change it if my new H wants me to. My stbx took my last name. I like White Flowers attitude. Yea, I'm traditional I guess. Link to post Share on other sites
Author threebyfate Posted February 25, 2010 Author Share Posted February 25, 2010 Yes, I or she took his/my last name: 61.54% No, I or she didn't take his/my last name: 38.46% Statistics amended up to BearMox, which only includes the marriages that ended in divorce. Thanks to everyone who've particated. If anyone else wants to participate, the poll will be recalculated. Link to post Share on other sites
Author threebyfate Posted February 26, 2010 Author Share Posted February 26, 2010 The reason I started this poll was the generalized conclusion that some men on this board feel, that women who don't take their spouses' last name, are more likely to divorce, since they don't take the marriage seriously. Yes, I or she took his/my last name: 61.54% No, I or she didn't take his/my last name: 38.46% Based on these statistics, the generalized conclusion is inaccurate, hence another urban myth. Link to post Share on other sites
LonelyTiger Posted February 26, 2010 Share Posted February 26, 2010 The reason I started this poll was the generalized conclusion that some men on this board feel, that women who don't take their spouses' last name, are more likely to divorce, since they don't take the marriage seriously. Yes, I or she took his/my last name: 61.54% No, I or she didn't take his/my last name: 38.46% Based on these statistics, the generalized conclusion is inaccurate, hence another urban myth. Nice one threebyfate! I took my marriage VERY seriously - it was my ex who clearly didn't! I wonder how many men would be prepared to change their names to that of their wives - just to prove how serious they were are about the marriage of course Link to post Share on other sites
sumdude Posted February 26, 2010 Share Posted February 26, 2010 The reason I started this poll was the generalized conclusion that some men on this board feel, that women who don't take their spouses' last name, are more likely to divorce, since they don't take the marriage seriously. Yes, I or she took his/my last name: 61.54% No, I or she didn't take his/my last name: 38.46% Based on these statistics, the generalized conclusion is inaccurate, hence another urban myth. I wouldn't have expected that to be a good barometer. I think it's better to look at the persons past relationships, their parents relationship and their relationship with the parents. That and general character. But honestly I'm starting to believe it's a coin toss, a 50/50 chance of making it. Am I cynical now? ..perhaps.. Link to post Share on other sites
blind_otter Posted February 26, 2010 Share Posted February 26, 2010 Nicely done, TBF. Oddly enough, traditionally Vietnamese women do NOT change their names when they marry. It's in my heritage, ha ha. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted February 26, 2010 Share Posted February 26, 2010 If you're a man, did your ex-wife change her last name to yours, when you originally got married? officially she did not and it was a big bone of contention Link to post Share on other sites
anne1707 Posted February 26, 2010 Share Posted February 26, 2010 The reason I started this poll was the generalized conclusion that some men on this board feel, that women who don't take their spouses' last name, are more likely to divorce, since they don't take the marriage seriously. Yes, I or she took his/my last name: 61.54% No, I or she didn't take his/my last name: 38.46% Based on these statistics, the generalized conclusion is inaccurate, hence another urban myth. Erm no there is insufficient data to come to that conclusion. What you also need to know is of all marriages, what is the split on taking the H's name or not. If the woman does not take her H's name in only 20% of marriages then your poll could indicate that not taking the husband's name indicates a greated likelihood of divorce. Just as if it is a 50/50 split on taking the H's name at marriage then your poll could indicate divorce is less likely if not taking your H's name. Link to post Share on other sites
Author threebyfate Posted February 26, 2010 Author Share Posted February 26, 2010 Polls over, since I drew the conclusion, alpha. You're going to have to be faster next time. The name change thing is more about perception, as in how the individual feels towards the importance of the name change, rather than making assumptions that it's how the individual feels towards the marriage itself. In this, I think Occam's razor is more pertinent. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted February 26, 2010 Share Posted February 26, 2010 Polls over, since I drew the conclusion, alpha. You're going to have to be faster next time. sorry i didn;t know there was a time limit as there wasn't one mentioned in the OP Link to post Share on other sites
CM2009 Posted February 26, 2010 Share Posted February 26, 2010 Nice poll...... Link to post Share on other sites
Author threebyfate Posted February 26, 2010 Author Share Posted February 26, 2010 sorry i didn;t know there was a time limit as there wasn't one mentioned in the OPNothing was defined in the OP but since there weren't any responses for over 24 hours, I decided to conclude it, since it's my thread. Link to post Share on other sites
tinktronik Posted February 26, 2010 Share Posted February 26, 2010 This is a question for members who've been divorced, of either gender. If you're a woman, did you take your ex-husband's last name when you originally got married? Yes, I did. AND I've still got it. I joke with him that I'm going to give it to my new husband when and if I ever re-marry. He does not think it's funny. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted February 26, 2010 Share Posted February 26, 2010 I joke with him that I'm going to give it to my new husband when and if I ever re-marry. its not like herpes or anything...i think formal paperwork and notarizations need to take place first Link to post Share on other sites
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